2 years with him.he left me we argue alot his things now out the house .he is younger and always said im only 22 i dont wanna fight n argue all my life im older woman,we loved eachother and i was use to him.i love him so so much its hard on me now.i am movin on.but iwonder how can he forget alli done for him.i took care of him 2 years with food,wshin his clothes,buying him things he needed and when he get sa job he breaks out he is greddy.he says he is seeing someone sexually i guess .he wa stype to always come back when we fight alli had ta do is call n say come home now he doesnt come home and is strong minded how this time is he stronger when he was syain he loved me a week when he didnt have a job,will he remember all thegood i did?will he ever think of me?will he ever try coming back?n no im not sitting home waiting or callin him im just curiousif anyone ever been thru this
2006-10-23 18:21:03 · 5 answers · asked by cbutterflyc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no he is 22..and im older then that ..i loves him alot..
2006-10-23 18:34:27 · update #1
I wanted to send you and IM to check on you, because there was your story and another one that touched my heart. I see you have a new thread. Let me tell you something...my husband and I were married for 10 yrs. Seven of those ten years...I supported him. I am in the mortgage industry, so I made a pretty good living. He never worked. I bought him what he wanted, even gave him an "allowance" so that he wouldn't have to feel belittled by asking me for money. He got into trouble, (1 drug charge, 2 charges of rape) and I stayed and supported him. Flew to Illonois to visit him, then he came back to California to face the two rape charges. I went down to that jail EVERY visit, had to go at 4am and stayed literally ALL Day for a 15 minute visit. I went through this for 10 months before all charges got dropped. He got out, and his mother married this well off man. He gave him a job, and when he got on his feet, HIS family, his mother (the same people that abandoned him his whole life) were more important. I sent him money every week, and wrote him 30 page letters everyday (you can tell by my answers that I am a writer) and did EVERYTHING to make him feel comfortable. I didn't go NO WHERE, because I didn't want him to suspect I was cheating.
When he got out, he told me from HIS OWN MOUTH, nothing in the past matters. This is after 8 yrs of marriage. He was starting his life, finally being a man, and needed to know what it was like to get his own apt, stand on his own feet, etc. His mother convinced him of that .
Now it is almost two years later, everyday he calls because he wants to see me. He justs wants a hug and kiss, see my face, see me smile, even if it is only for 5 minutes. I tell him, I have no interest....none. He lost his apt, his mom has a 3 bdroom condo, and it is just she and her husband, but he is living in a motel. He still working, but has no family (we had a family) and his mother and relatives have their OWN family and lives to attend to.
I am sure he thinks about all I did now, but only because he is DOWN AND OUT.
You are convenient to him, nothing more. He will keep using you as a revolving door if you let him. Love shows, he doesn't have to tell you, you should see and feel it in his eyes and touch.
He will ALWAYS think of you, and when you shut the door, he will be back! That is a guarantee! I would bet my life on it. One thing I ALWAYS tell my best friend concerning men, and you need to remember this: THEY ALWAYS COME BACK!!!
But now he has no use for you. If you let him use your dependency on his love to his advantage...he will. It is human nature to use what is convenient and easy, what doens't take much time and effort to get. You are that...and until you close the door for REAL, he will keep walking through it at HIS convenience. Make it about your convenience...deal with him on YOUR terms. If he wont, tell him to kiss your ***! The more I do that, the harder my ex tries.
2006-10-24 11:02:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's using you. As hard as it may be, you need to make a clean break. He doesn't really love you, nor does he respect you. You sound like a sweet gal that most guys would be lucky to have. You sound like a very giving person, which is great but makes you vulnerable to be used by jerks. Because you seem to really love him, you need to avoid all contact with him to keep from falling back into this bad relationship. Hopefully you'll find a guy that will treat you right.
2006-10-24 02:10:40 · answer #2 · answered by rusty shackleford 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry about that. It sounds to me like you were being used. You can do much better than that. I'm sure you don't want someone who just wants your money!
Good Luck
2006-10-24 01:25:50 · answer #3 · answered by chattingnut 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he was useing you... he'll realize what he lost and try to go crawling back to you.... DON'T take him back he'll just do it again... You're only 22 you have a lot to look forward to in life and you don't need someone like him holding you back....
2006-10-24 01:26:43 · answer #4 · answered by Heidi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO THEY DONT WENT STRAIGHT AWAY TO HOME..
THEY GO TO CALM PLACE.
AND DRINK A LOT
TO FORGET ABT THE PERSON
2006-10-24 01:24:38 · answer #5 · answered by BEST ANSWERER 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋