Ok Anyway i was sleeping and my son was up Playing WITH FIRE
the fire alarm went off how should i punish him?
2006-10-23 18:17:09 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It was paper on a stove he is 12
2006-10-23 18:25:22 · update #1
Take him to a local fire department and have the firemen have a talk with him about the dangers of fire. As a parent, you could sit him down and tell him the same thing, however when it comes to a well known authoritative figure like a fireman he may be more than willing to listen.
2006-10-23 18:22:54 · answer #1 · answered by teashy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do a search online of burn victims, and show him the pictures. Children rarely understand the consequences of their actions until they actually cause something bad to happen.
Seeing pictures of people who have been burned and houses burned down will leave an indelible imprint on his brain.
As far as punishment goes, has he been warned about it before? If not, the punishment should simply be educating him about the problem. Then tell him what the punishment will be the next time he does it. What worked the best for me was to take away his favorite TV program, or video game for 2 days. You should only punish a child after they have been warned about their action, and the punishment should be what you said it would be.
Telling a child ahead of time what the punishment will be makes it fair to them. Arbitrary punishment causes resentment. And if you do that, you have a hard time enforcing it, and you may end up feeling guilty that you punished too severely.
Children need boundaries, and you should set them fairly and firmly.
2006-10-24 01:37:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What sort of fire was he playing with to set the alarm off? As obviously it is more of a problem if he set the rubbish bin alight and had a raging fire going by the time the alarm went off. If he was just lighting matches although it is still a problem that is not quite as serious and a talking to may be enough. You can explain that if the house caught on fire that you could die and at the very least he would lose all his belonging. If it was more than playing with matches, maybe you could take him to see the local firestation and have a fireman talk to him about how dangerous fire is. I would make sure that nothing is left anywhere that he can start a fire with and then just be as cautious as you can.
2006-10-24 01:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by auburn 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When I was 5 years old I found two matches. I lit one and set a barley field on fire. My Dad was quick and got it out then he allowed me to engage in a learning experience. I spent about a week standing. I didn't play with fire again and had no desire to.
In today's world he would have gone to jail.
In today's world I would have had to spend 10 minutes on TIME OUT, with a computer, TV, CD player and of course the DVD.
And in tomorrow's world I might have become a serial arsonist.
I don't know what punishment is even legal but for God's sake don't touch him. If he tells his teacher you will be in jail before the echos of his statement die down. He will end up in foster care and he can burn their house down.
My kids are grown, they grew up in a different era. I don't envy you the job you face. Things will only get worse until some of this touchy feely stuff is finally shown to be the crap that it really is.
Good luck, as I said, I don't envy you a bit.
2006-10-24 01:42:06 · answer #4 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get the belt and take it across the back side and while your doing it scream like you was a indian telling him what he did was not just wrong its plain dangerous cuz u do understand he could kill not jus himself and burn down the house it could catch other houses on fire and kill other people serious reprocussions then put him in the boy scouts where he can lern proper behavior and respect for the things like that that really can hurt u and everyoe u know
2006-10-24 03:07:17 · answer #5 · answered by tom p 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should take him to your local fire department.
Explain the incident and see if maybe one of the fireman would take some time to explain the results of playing with fire.
2006-10-24 14:35:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take him down to the fire dep. and let them explain to him all the dangers. That will scare the crap out of him. I would ground for a month, no pocket money, no screen time of any sort
2006-10-24 02:45:30 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't Punish.
Calmly explain to him how badly it could hurt him and you and what the effects would be.
Should you be punished for laying down to take a nap and leaving him unsupervised with harmful items in his reach?
Put all flammable items up out of his reach for God's sake, put him to sleep with you when you lay down to take a nap.
The fire department would blame you (the parent), not him.
good luck.
2006-10-24 02:39:25 · answer #8 · answered by obsessedwithshamrockgreen 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
how old is he? Perhaps you should have been supervising him. If he's older you could force him to watch videos of people's lives being detroyed as their houses burn.
Also, teach him to use the fire extinguisher.
2006-10-24 01:20:14 · answer #9 · answered by Terrible Threes 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Why must you punish him. Love him and teach him instead. How would you rather learn?
2006-10-24 01:23:05 · answer #10 · answered by oldman 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋