I have a guy who Im sleeping with from time to time, who says he doesn't really have the time for a relationship other than, "friends with benefits"...but the last time we slept together/he held me in bed. and we cuddled all night (after we had sex).....Do you think this means something? Like perhaps he might be developing feelings for me beyond just "casual sex"? Or am I reading too much into this? (Please- NO mean or rude comments)
2006-10-23 18:01:00 · 12 answers · asked by Angel G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hun, you are worth MUCH more than 'friends with benefits' . A lot of girls think they can handle casual sex but they always end up developing feelings for the guy, as is with you. I'm assuming you have fallen for the guy. Cuddling is a good sign, but you guys aren't a couple so maybe it just felt natural to him to cuddle. You have given yourself way too easily to him, cuz you guys aren't even in a relationship and he's getting some, but stop having sex with him. Once you stop, you will get less hurt, the more sex you have w/ him the more feelings you will develop. I know its hard to let go especially when you were so physically close, but stop and you will feel better.
You are worth more than this, always remeber:)
No little girl grows up saying 'I want to meet a boy and have a 'friends w/ benefits' relationship with him. All girls want a charming prince to sweep them off their feet and do anything and everything for them. He may have lost respect for you, even though he's the asshole.
Also, he is lying about being busy to have a relationship, if he really liked you he would ask you to be his girlfriend.
Get away from him, he's only using you.
God bless you:)
By the way, if this is really bothering you , just ask him how he feels, I just might be wrong. I mean you are giving your body to him, you have evey right to ask him. Don't waste your time and heart on this jerk, ask him what his true intentions are.
2006-10-23 18:09:12 · answer #1 · answered by sweet kisses 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though we guys are considered to be focused only in the humping, we need some intimacy. Some hug, a kissing, cuddling etc...
Don't let this fool you,
It goes like this, first few times you had sex ,just humping, doens't feel that great. Believe me a guy like sex with some intimacy, no necessaruly love but intimacy. We are not animals after all.
So now he is hugging you and cuddling, because only the humping doesn't make sense at all.
I can fully understand your guy, he is the exact copy of me.
2006-10-23 18:14:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well a guy's needs of affection can last only a nite at most. the next day, not to worry, he won't give a damm with whom he had sex.
I think you have the wrong guy if you are expecting anything more then being used as a kleenex for his sexual urges. Either you accept it, and well, fine, enjoy...
or it's hurting you and then you should leave and find a nicer fella whom you would treat with all due respect in public and mainly in...BED!
2006-10-23 18:23:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lesly & Schlumpf got it right. Why would a guy who gets sex when he needs it just jump outta bed and leave ??? He's keeping the home fires burning so next time he will still have a tunnel of love.
As for feelings, SURE, he likes you. As for something more... read a novel.
2006-10-23 18:12:53 · answer #4 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I am not a guy but I was/am in the same situation. If he tells you he is not ready for a relationship. Listen to him. Someone who is your friend with benefit will show what you feel like somewhat of an affection. Remember he is your friend so its not like he is just going to be done with it and push you away.
2006-10-23 18:07:32 · answer #5 · answered by Les 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely i became gonna launch into how sturdy i think of it is on the minute yet then I observed that she is 14 years previous and that's quite no longer sturdy. i think of at that age it would quite be basically a element to "get it out of how" or in step with risk she did no longer want to lose it to a guy she quite likes by way of fact first time is an exceedingly painful and frequently times messy journey. notwithstanding the two those motives prepare why i think of buddies with advantages is a daft element at that age, given which you're too immature to regulate your thoughts are understand intercourse etc. once you're older having a pal with advantages is safer and in lots of circumstances achieved by way of fact neither individual needs to commit themselves or sense held down
2016-10-16 08:13:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly its sounds like you got lucky that one night. Ask him off handedly if he prefers making LOVE or just having sex is what he wants . His answer will tell you all you need to know . Good luck
2006-10-23 18:07:27 · answer #7 · answered by Peace of Mind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just sex and a warm body to hold close to his.
What he does out of bed would be a better indicator as to his feelings for you.
2006-10-23 18:05:17 · answer #8 · answered by Schlump 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are reading too much into it. If he says he doesn't have the time for a relationship, then why are you trying to look for one with him? Obviously he's not fulfiling YOUR needs, so why are you there to fulfill his?
2006-10-23 18:16:22 · answer #9 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cant speak for all men, but if he held you and cuddled he's probably developing some feelings. better talk to him about this.
2006-10-23 18:03:47 · answer #10 · answered by Smith Jerrod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋