but i told him that am scared and nervous cuz am still virgin and he said that he respect my feelings but he wants me to feel safe with him.i know he loves me but am scared he would do it with another gurl cuz he is so hottt and popular and alot of gurls wish to have him but he said that he will never cheat on me and he will wait untill am ready so how can i be ready and take this feelings away and do it and how should i tell him that am ready plzzzzzz
2006-10-23 17:53:00 · 21 answers · asked by aha i wanna know 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
honestly tell him how you feel. If you feel uncomfortable and want to wait for a longer period of time, explain that to him. I waited with my boyfriend for 2yrs, because I wanted to make sure I really knew him before I went that far. He seems very understanding from what you said above. If he really loves you, he will wait as long as possible, you do not want to regret this
2006-10-23 17:56:01 · answer #1 · answered by ridingis4life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As said before, it sounds as if you are not ready to have a sexual relationship with this guy. There is so much to consider, and you are soooo young and have so much time dear, please wait until you are ready. And try to talk to your mother about this. You should be able to tell her everything as you have asked on this forum. Believe me she will understand and she has been there too before. Plus you have to consider birth control and sexually transmitted diseases. Do you really want a baby from an unplanned sexual act? If he loves you, he will wait. Don't feel so insecure about him going after the other girls. He will respect you more for having the courage to wait and say no. The "easy" girls are the ones who never get any respect from the guys and they never ever find true love. Be strong honey, and have self confidence in yourself!
2006-10-23 18:15:35 · answer #2 · answered by beautyofthesea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you don't feel ready, then don't do it. Just because he might be with someone else is not a good enough reason to give it up. Some guys get off on the idea that they were a girl's first, and his feelings may not be genuine. Wait it out and see how he reacts.
2006-10-23 17:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by DumBlonD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't change for him. You are ready when you are ready and that's it. Just do what comes natural for you.
But before you do all this consider what it is you really want in life. Saying yourself for your true love can be a fulfilling goal that may mean a lot not only to yourself but to your potential lover.
If you decide not to go down that path that's cool just don't be pressured. I pressured my first girlfriend and I regret doing so. She slept with me to keep me. It works for a while but in the end of ends we were not together.
Short and simple don't force it, know what it is you really want, and carry out that knowledgeable decision with a will that comes from within.
2006-10-23 18:09:06 · answer #4 · answered by Love of Truth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He dosen't respect you if he is pressuring you. If yo are scared that he would do it with another girl, then you are probably right. He does not love you. Love means that he would be with you rforever even if you could never have sex with him. Love is putting the other's needs ahead of your own unselfishley. If I were in your shoes again, knowing what I know now, I would have waited to give my virginity to my husband. It would have saved me many headaches, and the man that loves me ( and deserves it) would have something that no other man could ever have had. Don't give your virginity to someone just to keep them. I guarantee that if you have to do that you will regret it.
2006-10-23 17:57:50 · answer #5 · answered by The Nag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But the question is, are you ready? Because it doesn't seem like it is. If your boyfriend really loves you, he would respect your choices and wait. You can set up a time in the future when you think you may be ready and you can talk about it then.
2006-10-23 17:56:26 · answer #6 · answered by Rose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you feel safe with him without having sex. Also explain to him that sex is a very emotional, secretive thing for the couple that is going to spend the rest of their life together; if he's willing to make that commitment with you, then by all means go for it. But, since you two are bf and gf, you should really give it some time.
2006-10-23 17:55:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is that hot and popular, he's probably already getting it from someone else that's why he is able to wait for you to come around. So consider yourself lucky that he is not putting pressure on you. Giving yourself to someone can be a beautiful thing but if you are not ready for this kind of relationship it can be your worst nightmare. Make sure he is worth it, you can only give this gift once.
2006-10-23 18:09:18 · answer #8 · answered by Marie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you do not feel ready there is nothing you can do to rush things along. He must really love you to promise to wait until you are ready. That means that when you finally do it will be good for both of you. If you try and rush for him than it is not going to be that good its better to wait til you asre ready . Also make sure you use protection when you do finally do it that way you will not have to worry about anything unwanted as a result
2006-10-23 17:57:32 · answer #9 · answered by melthule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not ready. He's lying about loving you. And if it's been since the 2nd month... he just wants to get in your pants. Move on and don't do it until YOU and only YOU are ready to give that part of yourself to someone!
2006-10-23 17:59:35 · answer #10 · answered by Chiky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋