I go to a college 200 miles from home, and I go home every other weekend. While I'm not there, my boyfriend goes out and drinks with his friends. And the weird thing is I get jealous and mad. It's not that I don't want him to have fun, and i know he only does this because I won't be able to hang out with him anyways. But i just get this weird jealousy feeling when he tells me he got drunk again. I would wish i could be with him, so he won't do anything like that. Another thing that bothers me is that whenever I go back home, and hang out at his apartment, we would just rent a movie, and order pizza. Basically just staying home all weekend, and we go to sleep really really early. And he never does that with his friends. Whenever they are hanging out, it's always club, strip club, concert, etc. Why it's like this? I'm just real confused.
2006-10-23 17:39:45 · 17 answers · asked by Deesa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, we've been dating 3 years now. The distance isn't an issue with us. I'm just confused that why do i even get jealous when he's with his friends? I mean, is wrong to feel this way? Also, why he doesn't want to do anything when he's with me? We do go out, but usually just to the movies or the mall. He tells me that he doesn't feel right taking me to a club with him, what does that mean? and yes, i don't like drinking.
2006-10-23 17:47:38 · update #1
Am I correct in assuming you don't like to drink? If I am wrong take him out. Show him you can have fun too.
On the other hand you should be thrilled to know he is happy just doing nothing with you.
2006-10-23 17:43:06 · answer #1 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh , it does not seem good to me . I could not stand a guy who goes out with his friends and when he is with me he just wants to stay home to have sex or whatever.I understand you and I would say move on because he is not a good guy . He drinks at weekends at strip club? omg ,,,, Not good at all. You never know what else he does there or after that. One positive thing is that he actually tells you what he does. but I guess it is because you could not be at that place when he is . This way he wants to prove to you he is an honest guy which I am not sure about it!
2006-10-24 00:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must be confused. Do you honestly want to be with someone who gets drunk, hangs out with his friends who go to strip bars? He will continue the badboy behavior, and you can not be serious and marry him. For one thing, he is not going to college and you are? What are his goals? What does he want to be when he grows up? Does he even have a job? You need to find someone in your own league, because this guy will not change.
2006-10-24 00:46:44 · answer #3 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off he is with his "boys" so he will def do different things.When he's with you he probably just wants to chill.You are probably getting jealous becasue you are insecure and afraid he will get drunk and fool around with someone.Long distance relationships rarely work and esp at your guys ages.Don't get your heart set on you and him lasting forever.You may be setting yourself up for heartbreak.You should go out and have fun too while he is doing the same!
2006-10-24 00:43:43 · answer #4 · answered by drokk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you should defiantly break up with him.
You deserve better, and college is WAY too fun to have to stay in a commitment with someone that is 200 miles away.
2006-10-24 00:43:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i hate to tell you the truth but if he hangs out at a strip club then he's seen better body than yours or maybe took home one of them honeys already. bottom line is he's getting tired of you.
now here's the cure, go to a blow j o b school and do it better than those honeys and i guarantee you he won't be renting movies next time you come over. i know i won't.
sounds harsh but can't change reality.
2006-10-24 00:47:31 · answer #6 · answered by Mt. Kilimanjaro 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to start enjoying yourself also instead of getting upset with him. Also next time you are home suggest going to the club, if he says no then just go without him.
2006-10-24 00:47:19 · answer #7 · answered by CJBig 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think these type of relationships are pretty hard to preserve. But...i think he gets all the 'action packed' type of attention from his friends. So when u come home to him, he's so happy to see you he just wants to spend the time alone with you. But the part i don't understand is how u go to bed early, that puzzles me.
2006-10-24 00:44:23 · answer #8 · answered by Billy Boy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask him if hes bored with your movie nights, if thats what youre worried about. im pretty sure he just likes to do different kinds of things with different people
2006-10-24 00:47:20 · answer #9 · answered by ajflkajfsalkfsalkfna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you'd like to go out when your in town.
2006-10-24 00:43:33 · answer #10 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋