Here's one that is a little complicated, I'm interested in a man that I would like to be more involved with, but here's the thing I had once dated his older brother many years ago( 12Years to be exact , were both 34 now) and he still see's that as being an issue.
2006-10-23 17:28:34 · 14 answers · asked by kay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Does he see it as being an issue because the older brother does? 12 years ago is a long time...depending on how deep and how long the relationship was back then, I don't see the problem. If you and his brother had something special, I can see why it would be uncomfortable for him now, even after so many years. Good thing about being adults, we have every right to make a choice in what we do with our lives and who we do it with. Why miss out on something that could be wonderful? He needs to decide if your relationship with him is important enough to see past the fact that you USED to date his brother 12 YEARS AGO...if it is, then he needs to take the proper actions to make sure it is not a problem. He needs to speak to his brother and see how he feels...if it isn't an issue, great! If it is, then that's where being an adult is not so easy and you have to both decide on whether or not to pursue what you feel you both have for each other. Whether it causes problems with him and his brother or not.
2006-10-23 17:44:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look Child...i am exactly ur age and i have dated gurls since 1987...i even dated sisters ..though at different times.So if u r interested in the guy and r over and done with his brother..be frank and talk to him that past is past ...and his bro is no where in ur mind.If he doesnt get ur point..better forget him coz he might be avoidable.
2006-10-24 00:36:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is and issue with him. There is an understood code between brothers. Never date your brothers' ex-girlfriends.....no matter what for how many years have gone by.
2006-10-24 00:32:41 · answer #3 · answered by CJBig 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is really interested and that is the only thing holding him back, then he needs to discuss it with his brother and see how his brother feels about it. If big brother is okay with it, then have some fun!!
2006-10-24 00:33:15 · answer #4 · answered by Corona 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer this question. Not knowing this guy or the situation more in depth it is impossible to say for sure.
I can say this. It is possible for him to get over this issue. Whether or not he is willing is up to him. Try if you think he is trying. Trying alone is no relationship at all.
2006-10-24 00:32:18 · answer #5 · answered by Love of Truth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pass this up. If it is an issue now it will keep resurfacing in the future.
2006-10-24 00:46:59 · answer #6 · answered by tropicals99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go talk to the other brother. Tell him your feelings and what the problem is.
2006-10-24 00:31:40 · answer #7 · answered by NANCY K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT IS A ISSUES THAT HE MAY NOT BE ABLE TO GET OVER
AND IF YOU GET TOGETHER, IT WILL ALL WAY BE A
FACTOR TO HIM. SO IF YOU WANT TO GET WITH HIM'
BEWARE OF THIS. SO IF YOU CAN HANDLE HIM BRINGING
THIS UP. THEN GO FOR IT. BUT IT COULD BE A MAJOR
PROBLEM FOR EVERY ONE DOWN THE ROAD.
2006-10-24 00:34:05 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should b over it by now ,if hes not hes probably never will & he most likly will hold grudges on others things that come up 2
2006-10-24 00:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would try, dosnt seem ;like that big of an issue to me, as long as the sparks are there.
2006-10-24 00:31:13 · answer #10 · answered by irishthunda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋