She was talking to him and I got jealous and then we got into a fight and she broke up with me and started talking to him and seeing him. I still love her and she feels the same, but now she has interest in the new guy too. What am I suppose to do. She said they almost had sex, but for reasons didn't, but she told me that she wanted to. I still want to be with her, but I want her to stop talking to other men and concentrate back on us. Any advice? She is still talking to him and has plans to see him again. Am I am idiot should I give up on what I feel is my soulmate?
2006-10-23 17:02:23 · 13 answers · asked by Firefighter4U! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
send her some flowers and a hand written letter telling her how you feel. then ask her out and take her somewhere that you both enjoyed together. respark the moment and go from there. if she's still talking to you, she's still interested in you. if she's telling you about almost sleeping with him, most likely she wants to see if you'll get jealous again. she's testing you. appologize and get the ball rolling.
2006-10-23 17:07:29 · answer #1 · answered by kkwolfkid 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When a guy gets jealous because "his girl" is talking to another guy, this says several things:
First, that you are imature.
Second, you are insecure.
Third and more importantly, you don't trust her.
Fourth, you consider her your possession.
Fifth, it shows a potential for domination and obsession.
Finally, you have condemned her for having done nothing wrong.
All in all, to a reasonable woman, that is scary!
Consider that about half of the population is male, so she is bound to talk to men one way or another. Also, she has every right, and an inate need to have male associates and friends.
Will you make her a social recluse, her fearing that you will cause a scene or your behavior will escalate to violence? Will you next demand that she not go anywhere without you? When she does go out, will you call and check on her or doubt what she tells you?
Even if she were hanging on a guy and excessively flirting, or having sex while still in a relationship with you... you shouldn't get jealousl...you should dump her because she wasn't worth your concern!
If you truly respected and trusted her and were secure in your relationship then you would have shown it more by getting involved in the conversation and welcoming a new friend into the fold...mature and confident adults do that.
Your actions alerted her that you may not be the best choice of a mate after all. The fact that she did not sleep with him and is still talking to you means she still has feelings for you and may give you another chance at acting like the kind of man she wants to be with. The ball is in your court.
Remember though...when she broke up with you, that ended your relationship and committment... she is free to do whatever she wants, whether you like it or not. If she sleeps with someone else that is her business and not a betrayal to you. If you want her back after that, then you start over.
If you were her soulmate, you would never have acted with such disrespect.
2006-10-23 17:50:41 · answer #2 · answered by ladyquesteur 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry if she is your soul mate she will be back with you because no one else will make her happy. I think you had a right to be angry and jealous. A woman who truly cares for you wouldn't break up she may be mad, but not break up and go with someone else. I think she is confused about being in a relationship and want to play the field and used the argument as an easy way out. Look at it this way she would have just cheated on you with him anyway. Give her some space and don't chase her, she broke up with you and she would have to be the one to want to get back together or else the same thing will happen again. Just let her know you are there for her and would love to get back together then go and try to find other interests.
2006-10-23 17:16:10 · answer #3 · answered by barbie2 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Give yourself a shake! Grow a set of NUTS!! Do you think that if she felt you were her soulmate that she would be thinking about f ucking another guy. She's a w hore waiting to happen bud and if you don't tell this biatch to hit the road you will be the one left hurtin! I say wake up and smell the java. She's already movin on. Just you who's
wonderin what to do. looks like she already knows what she wants to do..and that is to f uck someone else. Sorry but sometimes the cold hard truth is the best thing when trying to get through to some lovesick puppy who is so clearly being played!!
2006-10-23 17:10:26 · answer #4 · answered by k 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She's not interested in you or else she would only be with you. Look, don't be an idiot. There are thousands of girls out there that are just as good or better than this one. The only difference is that you just happened to meet this particular one. Now you can continue to be miserable and keep believing in some cosmic allignment "soul mate" bull$hit, or you can just go out and meet another really cool, and sexy chic. Simple as that.
2006-10-23 17:08:23 · answer #5 · answered by QnA00789 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you should give up on your soulmate. Maybe she isn't ready for a serious relationship or she wants to have one last fling before she is ready to settle down with you. Tell her how you feel. She may feel that you haven't been spending enough time with her and is using this other guy as a way to punish you. You need to sit down with her and figure out if your relationship is worth saving.
2006-10-23 17:08:06 · answer #6 · answered by Melinda 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she isnt happy about your jealousness. just because a girl talks to another guy doesnt mean she wants him . She can talk to who ever she wants and so can you Maybe she saw this in your future and just wants to be freinds .You only made her point when you fought that proved to her that she cant have freinds and sooner or later you will also get jealous of her girl freinds then her family. So what did you expect her to do?She gone with her life maybe you should learn something by this and go on also.
2006-10-23 17:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by wewamom2503 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she is seeing him now then she would have probably done something with him while you were still togeather if you hadnt gotten jealous and let them hang out. You should just give up you will find someone better. But if you cant trust her now you never will. So you need to make the decision.
2006-10-23 17:09:02 · answer #8 · answered by Kathy D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're an idiot... Why would you tell me to come look at your question when all these people (of whom we don't know) calling me a whore and telling you I was gonna **** around anyway. I really wanted to read this...
2006-10-25 04:21:10 · answer #9 · answered by sneakyfker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on buddy she wants her cake and eat it too. Go find another girl cause its gonna drive you crazy now everytime you hear her phone ring or if she isn't running on time
2006-10-23 17:11:03 · answer #10 · answered by BluLizard 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋