2006-10-23 17:01:24 · 42 answers · asked by Paul S 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
YES and double YES! It's saying go have sex, but don't get pregnant! It says sex is OK for her. It removes the chance to be selective of her sexual partner. The lack of fear of pregnancy often affords a young girl the freedom to be promiscuous and conduct herself in ways she wouldn't otherwise do.
I have a 14 year old daughter (about to be 15 in November) still a virgin. We have had all the talks about sex. Birth control is not an option I am willing to throw on the table for her.
She is also still a child! I use parental controls on our computer, I meet all her friends. For her 15th birthday I am giving her a cell phone. Because I will be allowing her to "couple date" ONLY, I will monitor her where-abouts!
She is allowed over-night guests, but she is not allowed to over-night anywhere at this time.
Although I suspect she has been approached for sex, as many young kids are, I maintain my authority as her Mother to monitor her actions, to question, to get involved.
I would no more allow her to take birth control than I would drop her off in the streets to fend for herself.
Additional note after reading some of these naive and stupid replies! People, get a freaking clue here........
Having a baby won't kill your daughter, AIDS will. STD's, herpes, syphilis, ghonoria, chlamydia and countless sexually transmitted diseases are passed on between teenagers and young adults due to the safty they get from taking birth control. A False sence of security is fashioned in young girls when they take birth control. They feel safe. Safe not from just pregnancy, but everything!
Birth control is JUST THAT, a means of preventing pregnancy. The premise that kids will have sex anyway so give them birth control is ludicrous. Teenage sex is rampid! Teen pregnancy has always been a concern to both parents and society.
You can't hand a loaded gun to a kid and say keep the safety button on! If you insist on giving a child birth control then add "condoms" to the confusion!
At least give some practical advise to disease prevention. Birth control was meant for married couples who no longer wish to concieve, or to women who don't want children. Not for teenage girls who may or may not be having sex!
Emotional maturity, much less physical maturity hasn't set in to many girls, and even some women! I wouldn't so easily hand over the power to chose pregnancy prevention over honestly dangerous health issues to a teenage girl.
You are leaving her to assure that she takes a pill each and every day! Most teenagers can't remember to make their own bed!
Think about what you are suggesting here people..........
2006-10-23 17:47:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anna M 5 · 0⤊ 6⤋
My father took me to the doctor and got me on birth control pills when I was 14. I was not having sex, he said that he felt that if I did decide to have sex, it was best that I be prepared. He also explained to me that the pill would not prevent STDs. I was glad he was open and informative with me. It certainly did NOT cause me to go out and have sex. I was raped later that same year and was very glad that I was on birth control so that pregnancy resulting from such an encounter was not an issue. I think that if a girl or boy is going to have sex, they will do it with out without birth control. They are better off being safe and INFORMED Talk to your children - better to be on birth control than a mother or father at 15 or 16. You never know what can happen.
2006-10-23 21:34:47 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa D 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i am going to say no. Here is my reason i once dated a girl in college who had been on birth control since high school and she was still a vrigin. She went on it to regulate her period and for just in case she found that guy. We dated over a year before we had sex the first time and we still used condoms for months. I had no problem with that i prefer a double method of birth control.
2006-10-24 00:22:49 · answer #3 · answered by Big Daddy R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO. A fifteen yr old doesnt need a license to have intercourse anyway. I you don'r give her the birth control, you are basically avoiding a bad situation. and when you do that, it leads to worse situations. Better to be safe than sorry!!!!!
2006-10-25 06:10:15 · answer #4 · answered by kris10 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my brother my brother my brother how i do not envy you in this day and age it is so needed but at the same point if u dont u end up with a 16 year old baby rasing a baby who u will be rasiing and as i say real life is the ultimate reason for the strong hand as a child i hope and pray your bond with your daughter and your respect u have instilled in her has been correct i fought tooth and nail when i raised my sister i even shelled out money for her to go to europe on a exchange program and she still dropped out of school there and came home pregnant i wish i had a easy answer for u man just teach her well and make sure she knows wat she is worth the world is hers u know
2006-10-23 20:20:23 · answer #5 · answered by tom p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My period was very irregular and I had cysts that kept bursting, so the doctors told me I should get on the pill to help all of that. That didn't make me want to have sex more than not being on it. 6 years after being on the pill, and while still on the pill, I actually became pregnant and now have a one year old son. So advise the 15 year old that just because she is on the pill, she can still get pregnant! ( I do have a husband now, but I could have had a baby at any time.)
2006-10-23 17:16:38 · answer #6 · answered by m930 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My mom thinks it does but if i ever have a daughter i think i would put them on it because they might deny that they are active but actually be and you end up with a grandchild you basically are going to have to raise and they miss out on the best part of their life. I think it is a nessesary precaution if you believe your child might be active or considering being. I would just set them down and talk to them about consequences and what you expect from them. Be completly open and honest. I wasn't sexually active until i was 21 my mom was very open about the birds and bees with me. She also drilled it into my head that it wasn't a good idea to have relations until you are married which i wasn't but i was older. But realistic these days by the age of 15 most kids are experminting or considering it.
2006-10-24 00:45:02 · answer #7 · answered by mistiful2001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. But it depends on the circumstances whethr or not you should do this. If you are convinced she is going to have sex regardless of what you tell her, you are better off giving her birth control to protect her. Tell her that you don't approve of her having sex at this age because she is not mature enough to realize the consequences (that probably won't matter to her), but that you are giving her birth control to protect her from those consequences and you hope she will consider everything associated with this action. That's all you can do.
2006-10-23 17:08:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yep, it is that very thing. They will feel "safer" about having sex, and might not even feel the need to use conventional protection if they are on the pill. Diseases are on the rise since the invention of the birth control pill, not that I advocate any pre marital hanky panky, especially at 15!!!
Contraceptives fail at an alarming rate. Planned Parenthood's Alan Guttmacher Institute reported on 10,ooo women getting abortions. Of these, 57.5% said that they were using a contraceptives the month that they became pregnant. In a similar study in 1987, the figure was 51.3 %, the highest percent was in teenagers.
It is generally recognized that use by unmarried teenagers is use by amatures in less than private circumstances( than say a married couple) and carries a suprise pregnancy rate across the board of twice that of married couples.
I would seriously think twice, three times, about handing contraception pills to a teenager.
2006-10-23 17:03:19 · answer #9 · answered by The Nag 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
No, She's going to have sex no matter if she's on it or not! At least If she's on it she'll be much safer and she might even feel more comfortable about discussing sex with you. Let her know that the option is there if she decide that she's ready. After all, it her choice not yours. But at least you can help protect her from getting pregnant. Who knows, after her first time she might decide that she really isn't ready for that kind of responsibility. When you talk to her make sure she knows it's not 100% effective and to be wise with her choices.
2006-10-23 18:32:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's being a good parent. She is going to do it anyway no matter what you think. She may think she wants to have sex, but if she does, she will find out it's not that great and all will probably be well. I would give her condoms to, birth control does not stop AIDS.
2006-10-23 17:04:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋