My son is very nice he works and goes to school he is not in drugs he even smokes but he is a nerd he never had a girlfriend i want him to enjoy life get a girlfriend have more friends to go to parties he is so quiet and shy he likes to be in computers and play video games he is not overweight he is quite handsome, quiet and respectfull but he is 18 years old i never see a girl to come to the house neither to call him, he is not gay.
2006-10-23 16:41:42 · 20 answers · asked by dancingwiththestars 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe he's a late bloomer. Give him time.
2006-10-23 16:44:20 · answer #1 · answered by Amy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time. He is only 18 years old.
I was a very shy person when I was younger. But now that I am older I am a very out going person I can start a conversation with just about anyone. His time will come. And remember today's computer nerds could turn out to be tomorrows millionaire.
2006-10-23 23:54:18 · answer #2 · answered by Marie S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not to worry, he will bloom when he is ready. My brother was like that at his age, he began dating at age 21. He is now happily married, a wonderful father and works in the computer industry selling software, owns a beautiful home on the coast, and makes more money every year than I will probably see in my entire life!
Your son's time will come....just continue to love him. No need to push the baby bird out of the nest until he is ready to fly.
2006-10-24 00:18:00 · answer #3 · answered by simone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 20 yrs old and is a junior in college he is the same way,if ya ask me I think they are smarter than most of us.I ask my son whats up with the no girlfriend thing he said Mom Im a broke college student and Im trying to get a education so I can get a good job and have something to offer when I do find someone.I thought geeeez he is way smarter than me.
2006-10-23 23:46:20 · answer #4 · answered by luckiestarrr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry so much about it. Maybe he just isn't ready for a relationship. Look around... most youth his age are so wrapped up in the opposite sex that they don't even care about work and school. Your son sounds like he is one of a small handful of youth that may actually have his priorities straight.
Do you think he is unhappy? If so then talk to him and find out whats going on. And be prepared to accept his answers. Maybe things aren't quite what they seem.
2006-10-23 23:53:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know how this can hurt. I have a son and to this day he's exactly like that; and guess what, he's 34 years old. He is very shy, but the most respectful and and nicest young man. I love him very much but you can't force them to do anything. He finally met some friends when he started working; hopefully your son will, too. My only real advice is respect them for what they are and PLEASE don't "push" them or make fun of them!
2006-10-23 23:47:57 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's only 18, he doesn't need a girl he needs education. Get him involved in things that interest him, things that are worthwhile. And get him into college. Let him learn, earn a degree and then he can mature and think about girls, marriage and all that. Educate first!
2006-10-24 00:40:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son just sounds like he is little behind socially. I dont know where you live or anything, but it could be your neibhorhood, school, or whatever. Your son might be afraid to talk to girls maybe because he doesnt know what to do or say because he gets nervous or whatever. If he doesnt have a car, try to get him a car to get him out of the house, if he doesnt have a job, help him to get a job to do more things. Just try to get him to do things where he can be in position to meet good people. Your son is shy, try talking to him about things, even personal things. It sounds like he is just behind in things about teenage things and he is embarrassed to go out and learn because he might not know about some things. This could also be making him a little depressed which doesnt help this issue. Try talking to him, do whatever to get him active and postion to meet people and take it from there
2006-10-23 23:55:07 · answer #8 · answered by Joe123 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wait for a while. let him do what he feels comfortable doing. most men into computers will be a little bit late on girls. but i believe he is an intelligent chap and he will want to know what he wants first before he starts dating. i tink he is the type of guy who takes life seriously.
2006-10-23 23:52:57 · answer #9 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him be himself he will pop out of his cocoon even though I would also like to see my nerdy brother out a lil more i know he is satying away from the unnescsry violence and craziness out there and hey he might be rich later cause he will learn lots of stuff on the pc
2006-10-23 23:45:43 · answer #10 · answered by Femme Fatale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take away his video games! Dress him up handsomly, give him classes on how to approuch a girl, and how to act around her. Ask him heart to heart if he likes anybody and tell him that you want him to have a girlfriend but do not push it on him plz! he'll hate it. anyway, its possible he's justa late bloomer, but still have a mommy-to-baby talk to him.
good luck!
2006-10-23 23:47:31 · answer #11 · answered by -:-vInTaGe PaSsIon-:- 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋