My son is a great kid at home, but in school he is a totaly different person. He dose not listen to his teacher. Disturbes other children. He wants to be the center of attention.
2006-10-23 16:31:32 · 9 answers · asked by ekencinas 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Preschool
Maybe at home you always pay attention to him.But in school there are many more people around him so he feels upset and thinks that by disturbing other children he'll be noticed
2006-10-23 17:33:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is your child an only child? If so this may be a reason. He is not used to interraction with other children. Social skills is one of the main reasons that we have preschool. It gives the child a chance to interact with other children their age and learn to share, use your words, and be with friends before they begin kindergarten.
Another reason may be that the teacher and you have a different idea of what is acceptable behavior and what is not acceptable behavior. You may want to discuss this with the teacher.
It's ok to want to be center of attention. The teacher should be able to know how to direct the child in a positive manner. If your child is refusing to be directed in a positive manner it is up to you to reinforce what the teacher is trying to teach him at school. If he is using his hands and feet to express his frustrations. He needs to be told to 'use his words'. You can reinforce this in the car on the way home from school. "Did you hit your friend today?" "Why did you hit your friend?" "How do you think your friend felt when you hit him?" "Did he feel good?" "Did he feel bad?" "Is it ok to hurt our friends and make them feel bad?" "What could you have done instead of usinging your hands to tell your friend that you were upset?" "Could you have used your words?" "What could you have said?" Brainstorm with the child to come up with a better solution. If he was climbing on the shelves ask him why he climbed on the shelf. Is the shelf for climbing on? What do we use the shelf for? do we put on feet on the shelf? do we put our toys on the shelf? ect. Where do our feet go? That's right! Our feet stay on the floor.
Positive reinforcement! It's up to the teacher and yourself to help your son improve his social skills to prepare for kindergarten. Hope this helps just a little :)
2006-10-25 21:40:16 · answer #2 · answered by lilmisstickletoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's new to the social scene. He needs to be shown how the "other kids" are behaving and to behave similarly. Most likely he really really wants to belong to the "group" and is actually doing it wrong. (We've all done that!) God bless him, he just needs patience and a little time to watch how the others are acting and follow them.
There were some pre-emie babies in my family and each of them were like a year behind in their development with other children. This is why things like Pre-school and Kindergarten are so important, for the social skills to begin being built.
2006-10-23 23:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son knows the consquences he have with you and his dad. He knows his teacher does not have that right. My daughter was behaving the same way. Her teacher was ready to kick her out. My husband and I told her that if she misbehaved at school, her teacher was going to spank her. I promise you it changed the next day. She became a totally different kid. We never told her teacher she could spank her, however. Kids are very smart. GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-23 23:53:12 · answer #4 · answered by Miss. Tee98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your son is an only child then perhaps he is feeling the need to compete for the attention and affecction of the others in the class room. he has no need to do this at home as your are there 4 him 100%. hope this helps
2006-10-24 03:03:01 · answer #5 · answered by luna 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello,
The problem lays in the fact that he/she is in preschool.
Kids dont understand the shift in authority from mom/dad to teacher. my son did the samething and once he understood that the teacher is who he needs to listen to when he was not at home, things got alot better.
2006-10-23 23:43:25 · answer #6 · answered by templarfound 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my son is completely opposite. He is a wild man at home but involved with other adults or kids he is so polite and listens attentively. sounds like a plea for attention to me.
2006-10-24 03:28:08 · answer #7 · answered by Jessy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
too much distraction from the other kids
and the need to impress his peers
i was like that back in pre school...i was honestly the most badly behaved kid in my single digit years, but it's only a phase.....i turned out okay, first year uni gettin my bachelors in civil eng.
2006-10-23 23:34:41 · answer #8 · answered by Mr.Moo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe it has to do with the group of kids he hangs out. Have you ever met his friends? Invite them over for dinner or something and see how they are.
2006-10-23 23:34:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋