She never listens to reason. Somehow, she thinks she's in love.
He was convicted of trying to solict sex on the internet with what he thought was a 14 year old girl. It was a cop and he was busted. I found out recently that she let him purchase her 12 year old daughter a cell phone. How can I make her see that this is a huge mistake? Or do you think that she will figure it out someday?
2006-10-23 16:30:01 · 16 answers · asked by Tracy H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If she loves the man she will only get mad at you if you keep saying bad things about him. I'm a firm believer in once a child molester always a child molester.
Just please watch for signs, any changes in the little girl. I would even be so bold as to sit her down and talk to her & explain to her what he is & what he's done and that if he EVER tries anything with her to call 911.
2006-10-23 16:34:23 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is a very difficult situation - if you must let them stay for two weeks do not leave your daughter unattended. You may get some idea of the truth of the matter depending on how your sister's children are behaving. He may also be very clever and would not attempt anything in your house that would further harm his reputation within the family unit but nevertheless if you are all doubling up in the bedroom to make space for them make sure your daughter sleeps in your room and make sure you can keep a constant eye on her. You do not mention your husband - if you are on your own with your daughter could you stay with a friend for a couple of weeks and let your sister's family live at your place until they find somewhere of their own - it is a possible answer without causing any offence. You say you want to be christian - if you are a church goer have you confided in your vicar/priest. Good luck, I hope it works out - I know all too well how an uncle can spoil a child. Sorry just noticed you have a man face avatar and are called shawn so please ignore sentence about "husband" - nevertheless if there is just the three of you perhaps you could take a holiday for a few days to remove some of the pressure of the situation or even go visit your family for a few days here and there.
2016-03-28 05:42:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you find this out? Is it hearsay? Does she know about it? If she doesn't know about it, tell her....NOW! If she's denying it, maybe it didn't really happen. If you know for sure and she knows for sure, she has to deal with it. You can only talk so much to her closed ears. Women can be very stupid when we are blinded by love (I would know, been there and was hurt in the process) it took a whole lot for me to look past what every body else told me. Just keep your eye on her and be there for her when it all falls apart. But make sure her daughter knows she can escape to you if anything crazy or stupid happens with either of them. She (being the minor) is the important one in this situation. If she gets scared and (obviously the mother is not hearing) needs someone else to help, she needs to know you're close by and she can call you if she needs to.
oh,man. This is sickening to have a child stuck in this situation when you have no idea what's really happening. Don't hesitate to act if you think the child is in harms way. Blessed be and good luck.
2006-10-23 16:41:08 · answer #3 · answered by LadyMagick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she will parable figure it out someday but someday might be to late what if he try to do something with her daughter sexually you sister needs to stop and think what if that was her daughter on the Internet that he got in trouble for and he raped her or killed her she needs a reality check she needs to get rid of him show her the news where these people are getting busted for that and tell the cops he is not to be around children by law
2006-10-23 16:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by christy c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding?!?! Have you ever seen the movie "Woman, Thou Art Loosed?" by TD Jakes???
Report his azz to the authorities. Convicted child molestors/pedophiles aren't allowed anywhere near children. Look up his name and information on your state's sex offender registry, or on the link I'm including with this. Find out exactly what he did, when, and whether or not he is still on probation. If he is still on probation, then they will throw his *** right back into jail. If he isn't, then alert Child Protection Services as well as your local police department. Your main concern should be for your niece. Your sister will just have to get over it. She may be letting love blind her from protecting her child, but that doesn't mean you can't make every effort to help her see the light! Protect your niece from this predator. Like I said, your sister will just have to get over it!
2006-10-23 16:38:59 · answer #5 · answered by Jemmie Vee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family and this should be discussed-why when you know
something so terrible would you put the others at risk & in harms way- by NOT talking to them & I do mean the child as well w/ mom's permission of course. But--if after all that ur sis still doesn't get it-Then I would put in an anounymus call, (so she cant find out it was you) to the child welfare agency or her school and get the ball rollin' for checking him out and providing the proof they willl need to see him for who he really is.
I'd rather do Something-than to possibly watch something else happen. Plz.
Take Care
2006-10-23 16:45:05 · answer #6 · answered by puddee_catz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sister still hasn't realized the reality of the situation and her daughter's safety, I think for your niece's best interest, contact your local authorities and inform them of the man's past and his recent activity with your niece (i.e., buying her a cell phone).
I don't think your sister will figure it out for herself, and if she does, waiting for her to do so at the expense of your niece's safety is not acceptable. Please do the right thing and take care of the 12 year old first. One day, your sister will thank you for it.
2006-10-23 16:35:02 · answer #7 · answered by caroline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is aware of all of this, then she doesn't want to see it. She needs to understand that it is her daughter who will ultimately pay the price for her lack of fore thought. If he has been convicted, I assume he has to register as a sex offender, if you can locate and document that, it might make her wake up. In the meantime you and all her friends need to be extra vigilante and make sure that you look for and recognize signs of abuse. Above all her daughter needs to know that she has someone to turn to if she needs help.
2006-10-23 16:35:22 · answer #8 · answered by sboyle9453 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately these creeps can be very manipulitive. He probably has her convinced he was framed. It is very sad that your niece is in danger. At this point talk to your niece, let her know that you are there for her if she needs you. Let her know that there is nothing she cant tell you. Maybe let her school counselor know of your concerns, so they can keep an eye for warning signs. She's lucky to have you.
God Bless
2006-10-23 16:36:04 · answer #9 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She better figure it out before it is to late.Report him to the local authorities for being around a minor.It is a violation of parole.
2006-10-23 16:33:13 · answer #10 · answered by Melissa C 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋