My ex dumped me b/c I really hurt him. And him and I were best friends since kindergarten up til this summer. When I hurt him. And I've never done this before and he knows that. And when I told him what I did I felt like my a piece of my heart crumbled and my heart feels whole right now but whenever he talks bad about me my heart starts to hurt. What do these feelings mean?
2006-10-23 16:19:28 · 21 answers · asked by Steph1490 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is obviously hurting as much as you (if not more) so to cope with the pain he talks bad about you. You have done the right thing by telling him, so you may have to be patient and endure for a little. Try talking to him if he will allow it (don't get into a screaming match though). Don't make excuses for what you have done, just be honest. The long term friendship you have had should amount to something to him. The both of you still have feelings for each other, otherwise things would not hurt so much. As with any wound, once the soreness goes one can think more clearly and objectively. Give it time.
2006-10-23 16:35:54 · answer #1 · answered by cropsfarley 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First thing's first, you need to ask him for forgiveness and I mean if he decides to forgive you for whatever it is that you did, he needs to be really sure about it and that means he cant be bringing it up anytime he feels like it. If he cant seem to keep away from bringing it up, then that means he isnt ready to move on with you and might need some time to get his thoughts together. I cant really tell you if he will give you a second chance or not, you have to ask him and if you really love him you have to be sure that you never hurt him again! Im telling you this from experience, i have been in your situation before and i got that second chance, it even made me realize just how much he is worth and i think it will do the same for you. Dont feel too bad for what you did, we are only human and we all make mistakes but thats how we learn how to avoid making those mistakes. So talk to him and plead forgiveness, if you really love him you have to take your time to give him time to think about it and make him know that you will wait for him because thats how much you love him, right? Good luck and dont forget to let him know just how much you really love him.
2006-10-23 23:30:31 · answer #2 · answered by h2gj87 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just feel really bad about whatever it is that you did. Maybe if you had a little talk with him about how sorry you are and tell him how it makes you feel now, maybe he will at least forgive you. Hopefully knowing him since kindergarten helps him see that that is not who you really are. Even if he doesn't give you a second chance, forgiveness will at least help the pain. Best hopes!
2006-10-23 23:23:19 · answer #3 · answered by redcherri817 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know you messed up. So you don't need any lectures. As long as he cares, there can be forgiveness. Be honest to him about your feelings. Don't approach him when he's with his friends. Be sincere when you talk to him. Tell him why you believe what you did was wrong. Not only because you lost him over it.... but why it was wrong. Hopefully he'll give you a chance. But lost trust is the hardest thing to get back.
2006-10-23 23:24:25 · answer #4 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How and why did you hurt him??? You hurt because you caused pain to someone that didn't deserve it. Everytime he talks bad about you it reminds you of what you did and the guilt is painful. You definitely deserve it, but you can't let it control you. You have to earn his trust back little by little, but in the end it is his choice to accept you back. Everyone deserves a second chance, but you have to earn it over time. Good Luck.
2006-10-23 23:29:28 · answer #5 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you did or the circumstances, but you've known this guy all your life & he should know you very well. Give him some time to heal from what you did that hurt him and try being friends with him again before jumping back into a relationship with him.
2006-10-23 23:22:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont no what you did? but i will assume you cheated...your heart hurts when he talks bad about you because you feel guilty and you want to make it all go away,,and when you loose someone you love your heart realy hurts because there is part of you missing (him) a broken heart i beleave that it realy does hurt
2006-10-23 23:27:18 · answer #7 · answered by pantherblack05 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you are feeling is guilt. You feel bad because you know that you lost something important to you. You do get credit for telling him the truth and for taking responsibility for your faults.
Just keep asking his forgiveness and maybe eventually he will give you another chance.
2006-10-23 23:22:23 · answer #8 · answered by Christina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are feeling ashamed of your actions, guilty and you carry feelings for him, or you would not mind what he says. I would try as hard as possible to make up to him for whatever you did. You need to communicate to him how truly sorry and affected you have been by this. Sincere apologize and sincere sorrow on your actions, if he cares, I think you might have a chance, but your actions and thoughts have to be sincere.
2006-10-23 23:29:39 · answer #9 · answered by doris_38133 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriouse answer: Get on with life, you can't beg him because it WILL push him further away. TRUST ME. I've been through the same thing. The more you beg and need and want, the farther he will get. Just give it a lot of time. it IS the only way.
2006-10-23 23:22:21 · answer #10 · answered by Spectre 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋