please i dont always have the confidence when it comes to girls. I dont know mayb its because of the experience i have had in life over time. my friends tend to look down on me and it affects me. When i see a girl i like its hard to make a move bcos im always telling myself i cant get her. Pls guys / gurls can u help????
2006-10-23 16:18:21 · 10 answers · asked by CodeNameTube 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you just answered your own question. Quit thinking about what happened in the past. You can't change it. Stop telling yourself "I can't get her" and start saying "I can get any girl I want" then your luck will change.
2006-10-23 16:21:01 · answer #1 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Start by looking for new friends. You said your "friends" looks down on you. Real friends act supportive and caring, not criticize you and make you feel bad. Then, stop thinking negative when it comes to approaching a girl. Nothing bad will come out of asking someone out or for their number. The worse that can happen is her saying no. If that happens, just move on. It won't be the end of the world, and there are still many fishes (girls) in the sea.
2006-10-23 23:23:57 · answer #2 · answered by forevertammy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first off all you don't seem to have very good Friends if they look down on you
secondly you need to learn that past experincies are just that they carnt be changed but they can be forgotten or even learn from
if you see a girl across the room simpl eye contact is some times enough you dont always have to charge over ther
a littel wick is enough or several if that dosent work she proably isnt intrested
goood luck in the futer
2006-10-24 04:01:13 · answer #3 · answered by veronica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself and that is shy. Then they will either find that endearing or they won't. Best to start a relationship being you then you know all you have to make it work is continue to be you. You be surprised how many girls are not interested in the over confident types and our just looking for some genuiene attention. Good luck.
2006-10-24 02:09:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if your friends look down on you, they aren't really friends, they're just using you to make themselves look better. Second, you HAVE to believe that you aren't worse than anyone out there. You'd be surprised to see that when you put a smile on your face, and walk confidently, people look at you differently. You don't have to be amazingly good looking, but that makes you look attractive. Try approaching girls just to talk to them and be friendly, it'll boost your confidence to be able to talk to girls easily. If you're still struggling, there's a book called "the game" by Neil Strauss, try getting it, helped a lot of ppl i know. Good luck.
2006-10-23 23:25:06 · answer #5 · answered by Jazz 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
firstly if any of your friends look down on you then they are not real friends! they should be giving you support and telling you what a good person you are and that you need not lack confidence!! with the girls just be yourself, there's nothing wrong with nerves, we all get them! if you don't try you'll never know, and if it doesn't work out then don't kick yourself. there are so many lovely people our there who will find it touching that you've made an effort with them( and i bet you they're telling themselves that they could never get a man like you!). good luck!
2006-10-23 23:26:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know i will let you into a little secret
"EVERY HAS INSECURITIES AND INHIBITIONS" and probably more than you...
just remember you are who you are and love it... throw your shoulders back and be the person you are!!! if people dont like it... s*d them you dont need them!!!
Relax and smile... girls love men who are comfortable with who they are!!!!
2006-10-24 07:38:55 · answer #7 · answered by Cat ( " , ) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tossin you some BALLS!!!!! Just keep practicing!! you will get better,, Phooey on what others think,, Just remember even if you bomb out there is always another one around the corner to practice on!!!!!!
2006-10-23 23:21:02 · answer #8 · answered by kitkatish1962 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to get new friends - no friends should EVER look down on you!!
Chin up and just remember it's their loss if they turn you down :)
2006-10-23 23:39:23 · answer #9 · answered by mcascadd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try with Aikido, it opens mind, hearth and soul, ,if correctly understood.The rest comes spontaneously.
2006-10-23 23:50:12 · answer #10 · answered by oceangleam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋