It just seems pointless to ask people questions about themselves and respond to questions about myself when I probably will never meet that person again in my lifetime. What am I missing? I do not want to seem rude, but quiet is nice; to me, anyway. I was told I appear aloof. I have a good time, but I am just not chatty.
2006-10-23 16:10:49 · 10 answers · asked by Sandy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You should put a little more effort in with people ...maybe you will learn something and actually expand your horizons!!! Think of it this way who knows who you will meet....
2006-10-23 16:14:42 · answer #1 · answered by engagmenrime 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you that many people lack in the skill of conversation. Yes if there is no reason to believe you are going to develop a friendship with someone there is no reason to worry about what they do and those other standard questions we say when we don't know what to say. But on the other hand by being slightly more creative and engaging, social interactions can be very rewarding through networking of ideas, sometimes if something is on my mind I will bounce the thought off people I meet for the first time since it can lead to lively discussions. But to each there own if you are content in your silence then go ahead be happy.
2006-10-23 23:28:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't mind talking to people if they start the conversation but I also don't mind silence. Some people are just uncomfortable with silence. I generally make eye contact with people and smile but then keep quiet, read, etc... If you smile when people approach or when you enter where people are and then go back to doing what you were doing - they should know you aren't being rude. If people ask questions you aren't comfortable with answering just ask them "Why do you want to know?" - that usually lets people know they are getting too personal without coming right out and saying it.
2006-10-23 23:24:29 · answer #3 · answered by flirshous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only think it's rude if you stand in someones face while they are talking and don't respond to their questions, or don't say anything at all. I believe quiet is nice also, however i think that if someone gets up the nerve to come and make conversation its just common courtesy to try and indulge just a little.
2006-10-24 03:34:16 · answer #4 · answered by prettydebutante 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are doing absolutely nothing wrong. But you are doing what most people do and there is nothing exceptional in that. The best thing in life is making connections with people. i think you may be missing out a bit. But, it depends on your energy levels a bit too. it takes effort, but everyone deserves to be treated with dignity and respect, and ackowledging another person's existence by engaging them in small talk is a nice thing to do and makes you exceptional. Exceptional or unexceptional, you choose.
2006-10-24 03:17:41 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will respond to small talk, but I rarely initiate it outside of a work environment. I don't think it is rude avoiding it, but at least acknowledge the person.
2006-10-24 09:47:44 · answer #6 · answered by shauny2807 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not rude unless you keep on blabbing when it's obvious that the person does not want to be bothered.
I don't think it's pointless, if you honestly enjoyed talking to them, tell them so and that you want to stay in touch.
2006-10-23 23:13:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt have to talk to anyone you dont know. I dont think its rude. If you feel like being quiet, then be quiet. You have that right. If ppl think its rude, well then they arnt very bright.
I wouldnt worry about it.
2006-10-23 23:16:32 · answer #8 · answered by ~~ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Proper etiquette requires you to be introduced by a third person BEFORE engaging in conversation with this individual. Yes ,even if he/she is attractive.
It may seem old fashioned and out moded,but that's the way I was brought up.
2006-10-23 23:50:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
idk. i know some people consider it rude, but its my way of staying safe. I get so much crap from people that its hard to tell when a stranger is being pollite or making fun of me, so i usually only talk to people i know
2006-10-23 23:44:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋