i met a guy a few months ago, we have gone out on a couple dates.and we chat and e-mail all the time. we talked on phone a few times. well we have lots in common and like each other alot. he says he has feelings for me. but is not deep in love with me. i have feelings for him too. but i'm not deeply in love either. he is my first stab at having a relationship. and latley he has been pulling away from me. i'm trying to give him space to think. he has been having some health issues that are serious. and is stressed out and confused about his own life. he told me 2 days ago he wants to take a little step back while he gets his head figured out. i hate not talking to him its driving me crazy not knowing whats up with him. and i'm concered about his health. what should i do? should i back off and wait? should i tell him not talking is killing me? what....?
2006-10-23 16:07:16 · 9 answers · asked by ♥musiclover♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i cant call him anymore he asked me not to cause it distracted him from important stuff he needed to do. that was a while back and i promised i wouldn't and i havn't and i don't break promises once i give them. all i can do is send e-mail and messages.
2006-10-23 16:11:08 · update #1
i can't send him stuff i don't have his address.i know what town he lives in but thats all. how ever i'm sure he's tellling me the truth about his health issues....because he has always been honest with me.
2006-10-23 16:16:03 · update #2
I would give the guy some space but still let him know you care about him and his health and that he can always come to you for anything. Chances are he is going through alot and just needs a little time for himself to figure it out, if you crowd him you might push him away. He will respect the space your giving him and he will also realize that you care enough about him that you'll always be there when he needs you. He'll come around just give it some time....... Good Luck!!!!!
2006-10-23 16:14:29 · answer #1 · answered by Paul M 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He needs time to think. He needs time to work through
some health issues he has. This is not about you but him. The best thing you can do is abide by his wishes.
He probably feels smothered with everything that is going on. I am sure he will contact you when he is ready, not when you are ready. Give the guy some space ok?
2006-10-23 23:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by Lore 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
can you verify that he is saying the truth ?
If you trust him , then send him a flower basket or fruit basket along with a letter telling him you would like to resume where you left off. Tell him you will wait for him when he is ready. If you write it well, he should be touched and give you a call .
Do you need a ghost writer ?
2006-10-23 23:12:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be who you are. If you're concerned and want to talk to him, pick up that phone and talk to him. Don't hold yourself back because of what society says.
I was sort of in the same boat. When we broke up, he also told me that he wanted to figure things out but I kept myself in the picture and I kept on talking to him because I wanted to and I also did not want to lose him. We still see each other almost as if nothing happened. Overall, we've been with each other for more than a year.
2006-10-23 23:08:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can tell him that you miss him, but you should give him the space he asked for. Touch base once in a while, but find things to do to fill up your time. Give him a chance to miss you. Good Luck.
2006-10-23 23:10:48 · answer #5 · answered by Christina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been through that. Just let him take that time. Not talking to him will be hard but I promise you will feel better in the end.
2006-10-23 23:14:07 · answer #6 · answered by niellybell05 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do what ever china doll said because if ur self he will know that u care and will tell u what up!
2006-10-23 23:10:51 · answer #7 · answered by butterflygarcia555 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe hes just making that up about his health to pull away from you
2006-10-23 23:10:29 · answer #8 · answered by msdent 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you are on the way to be played, tell him you want to talk and see what his reaction will be.
2006-10-23 23:10:20 · answer #9 · answered by Robots 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋