I have this friend that I have been exclusive with for 2 years. Neither of us date anyone else but we don't consider ourselves to be dating and it is more than just f-buddies. We are truely best friends. We describe it as a commited friendship. This weekend, another guy I know asked me out for dinner. Should I go? Would that be cheating?
2006-10-23 15:47:19 · 21 answers · asked by therego2 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My friend of 2 years knows that I was asked out and is obsessing about it. The guy who asked me out is a friend of both of us. EEK!
2006-10-23 15:53:57 · update #1
Well technically you are dating him i. If it's been more then 6 months and your exclusive your dating no matter what you call it.. hun. and this other guy asked you for a date..if you like your relationship now don't ..but if your just so so about the current guy then give it a try .
The guy your with now tho probably won't take you back with open arms if you go on a date...So decide whats more important too you some guy for dinner or the guy you been with for 2 years.
2006-10-23 15:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, ask the fellow that you have been exclusive with, if he would mind if you went to dinner with this other guy. Be up front with him. If he objects, then he obviously likes you more than you had thought and you might want to go to the next level in your relationship. Ask yourself, do you want to remain exclusive with the guy you have been with for over two years? Do you feel as if he is the man you want to stay with the rest of your life? Only you can answer these questions.
2006-10-23 15:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you guys talked about this prior to the situation coming up? I think that if the two of you are friends, you can share everything. However, friends with benefits situations are usually more than just friends, there are usually other feelings.
If you want a relationship that is more than friends(which it sounds like you do if you want to go on a date with someone else) then you need to ask yourself if your friend could be that person.
If not, then you need to tell him that you are going on the other date and go. Let the chips fall where they may.
Don't settle for substandard though...that is not fair to you.
2006-10-23 15:53:55 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your friend and see what he says, but you should know that even considering it could get you in deep with your man. think about if it was switched around, would you be OK with it? I am guessing that the answer is no, and if that is the case, I would just not go out with the other guy.
2006-10-23 15:50:47 · answer #4 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys are exclusive you shouldn't be going out to dinner with other guys at all. Yes, it would be cheating, don't go.
2006-10-23 15:49:10 · answer #5 · answered by Ian D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i personally think if your not "going out" w/ him then its not a big problem. But if your not sure then i think maby you should talk to him about it. not to serious or anything. but just let him know how you feel. But since you tow call it a comitted "friendship" i think friendship is the key word here. your friends. really close friends my assuming but nothing more.
but if you still feel wrong then ask him.
good luck
2006-10-23 15:51:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are concerned about it being cheating then I would talk to your "friend" to see how they feel about it. Are you interested in going out with the other guy? If you are, that should tell you something about your relationship.
2006-10-23 15:49:06 · answer #7 · answered by Julie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you are asking this question because you have feelings for your f-partner. If i'm wrong than go on the date. I do know when you f someone for sooo long you began to catch feelings, trust and believe I know. I was/is in your shoes now.
2006-10-23 15:53:22 · answer #8 · answered by heaven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my only statment is how much do you really care about your best friend....if you think there might be something more there what would be the point of going out with this other guy if it's not going to go anywhere with the on who asked you out anyway.... my advice...stay with your best freind...i almost made that mistake i was inlove with my best friend but refuse to admit it so i dated other guys it almost ruined both of us...
2006-10-23 15:51:41 · answer #9 · answered by Danielle S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not dating I don't think it would be cheating----and is dinner really cheating? hmmmmmmmm I would discuss this with your guy friend and if he seems jelious then ask him out and get it over with.
Otherwise go out and have fun
2006-10-23 15:51:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋