I moved out for a couple of months because my boyfriend and I were fighting a lot. My friend said I could stay at her place and i did for awhile. Problem is that while I was there one night her boyfriend came on to me and started kissing me. I kissed him back for about 5 minutes until I realized what I was doing. No excuse, but we were both drunk. I stopped him and he tried to follow me to bed when I made the excuse that I was tired and needed to sleep. I went to bed and didn't take him with me. Two weeks after this I moved out. I felt and still feel guilty about it. I have known him for 15 years and I've only known her for 1 year but I still feel bad because she's supposed to be my friend. Although I DID stop it before sex happened, I DID make out with him for a few mins BEFORE I stopped him. I am back with my boyfriend now and we go over there to visit. I never told him what happened. Am I wrong to keep this a secret? I can see no good in coming clean now..what point would there be?
2006-10-23 15:43:18 · 10 answers · asked by k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YOU are a lier...
2006-10-26 10:43:15 · answer #1 · answered by miss me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad judgment for both of you. If you were both drunk, I would forget about, but make sure it never happens again. However, if you feel he has a habit of making moves on other women you might want to tell her, but be aware that may break up your friendship too. Also in the future you may want to limit the amount of drinking you do if it impairs your judgment.
2006-10-23 15:50:10 · answer #2 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i'd tell u to hide that guiltiness inside u so that u wont be doing that ever again to someone else while u're still with ur guy. try to treat ur guy a lil bit better and make sure that there's no next time and live on with it. and definitely there's something wrong with ur friend's bf. dun always put to blame to being drunk. if someone doesn't have the intention to do it, he wldn't do it even if he's drunk.
2006-10-23 15:56:10 · answer #3 · answered by hiro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, I don't think it is wrong to keep this a secret becos if you told ur boyfriend and he is unable to put that behind him, then you would have opened up the Pandora Box and he would not trust you anymore. You should also forget about the incident and not feel bad about it.
2006-10-23 15:48:00 · answer #4 · answered by devil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell her and also say that you both were drunk and it could have happened to anyone and you just want to tell her it was a mistake, and you feel really bad...and he probly didnt mean to come on to you(no efense) but he was drunk and guys are horrible when their drunk! so just tell her and if she does get mad its not like its gona be a long time friendship lost but if you explain to her enough she wont get mad.but dont hold it all in, feeling guilty isnt a good thing.
2006-10-23 15:48:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparantly you have morals. Your GF's BF does not.
Tell your GF and tell your currentl BF. Why? Because you are investing in a realtionship with your current BF, not your GF or her BF.
Your BF will thank you for being honest and you will probably never see the other couple if your boy firend is a good man.
2006-10-23 15:51:14 · answer #6 · answered by BeArPaW_4709 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you were drunk. If your going to feel guilty about it for the rest of your life, your going to have to tell your friend what you did, and explaining the drunkeness. It can go one way or another, you've gotta shoot for what you think is right.
2006-10-23 15:49:31 · answer #7 · answered by Shoopedoop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
coming clean would definitly let you relieve you guilty concious...I know that if that happened to me I would want to know how dishonest and disloyal my boyfriend is so I can dump him and move on to someone better that deserves me, but that is not saying that she might not want to dump your friendship as well since she might find you to be disloyal as well. It really depends on how deep your friendship goes, is it worth it to you?
2006-10-23 15:47:21 · answer #8 · answered by amays068 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just go w/ him okay if u like him and u guys r close friends what could happen is if he makes it sound bad and stuff gl
Miley!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-23 15:46:05 · answer #9 · answered by Miley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no point....keep it to yourself.
2006-10-23 15:46:50 · answer #10 · answered by xxsanchabonitaxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋