ok, well i havent seen my dad since i was 3. and ive been having real problems w/ it. i feel lke part of me is missing. but then i met the one female teacher at my christian school and we have gotton pretty close. i starteed doing things w/ her and stuff and soon clinged on to her husband. she seemed perfectly fine w/ it too.
its been while now and im still really close to the both. ive slept over at there house for a week while my mom had to go to court and stuff. i have become really attached to this man. to the point where i actually act like hes my dad.
but lately i feel like hes almost been pushing me away. its been several years that weve been really close and now hes just kinda cutting himself off from me and i dont understand why. i miss him to death and i love him alot (not sexually.) why do i do? do i talk to him or just leave it be?
2006-10-23 15:32:51 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think it is great that you were able to find someone to take the place of your father. You may want to talk to his wife about it and even him. You will never know what is going on unless you sit down and talk about it. Maybe he feels like you have different feelings....maybe because you are getting older. I don't know. He could be getting pressure from other people. Reguardless, you need to speak about this now and not wait for more to happen. Good luck!
2006-10-23 15:40:11 · answer #1 · answered by Mandee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop depending on this man to fill your needs. He has his own wife and family. In the meantime, if the years have gone by since you first started spending time with him it means you are growing into a young lady and the dynamics are changing. It's possible neither he, nor his wife, are comfortable with the situation any more. It's also possible that your dependence upon him has become too intense to be appropriate. I know I would ask my husband to back off from this type of relationship. It is CRUCIAL that you respect their space and boundaries. As difficult as it may be for you, it is time for you to move on. I know there is a hole in your heart, but no man will be able to fill it the way you want. Don't go running off to the first guy who gives you the time of day. Spend time getting to know God.
2006-10-23 22:49:48 · answer #2 · answered by whiteparrot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he started having feelings for you and didn't want you or his wife to get hurt.
2006-10-23 22:36:12 · answer #3 · answered by Plague92 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him. if you won't talk ask is wife
2006-10-23 22:38:45 · answer #4 · answered by fernwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋