i recently got out of a very bad 3 year relationship. i've since moved on and am in relationship with a really great guy. our chemistry is unbelievable. a couple of weeks ago, i told him i need a new coat. he asked me why, and i told him that i never wear the same coat two years in a row. so i asked him to buy me a coat. he said okay, but he hasn't. i know that money isn't the issue cuz he's got plenty. (seriously, he lost $1600 last week betting on a game and he didn't even care) the next time i brought it up, he just brushed me off. he takes me out and treats me great, but this coat thing is bothering me. he mentioned a particular designer hoodie that he wanted saturday night at dinner and since it's only sold in certain stores, i rode the bus for 2 hours on sunday to get to the store to get it and surprise him with it. so would it be so bad for him to get me a coat? this morning i asked my ex for $200 and he dropped it off within hours. was i wrong for asking my ex for money?
2006-10-23 15:31:01 · 10 answers · asked by ~it's me~ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you morons, i do have a job and i am perfectly capable of providing for myself. i live alone, so i can obviously take care of myself. and i'm dating him for him. if i was dating for money, i wouldn't have to work. just answer my quesion please.
2006-10-23 15:43:03 · update #1
i don't think you guys. get it, if he would have told me no, there would not have been a problem at all. i just don't like that he said he would, then didn't.
2006-10-23 15:59:16 · update #2
Maybe he does not realize what a new coat means to you. It seems like you don't just want a new coat for the sake of a new coat, you want it because it symbolizes that he cares for you and will provide for you. I don't think guys always get that, you might have to come right out and tell him your perspective.
2006-10-23 15:40:07 · answer #1 · answered by Lyf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you were wrong. A relationship is not about the things you buy for each other, or things you force someone to buy you, or else. It was wrong to ask your current boyfriend to buy you something. The "two-year" reason for a new coat seems a bit "high maintenance" or petty and it may have turned him off from even considering buying it for you. Also, wrong for asking an ex for $$..was it for this coat you want? If it was a bad 3 year relationship, why even invite that back into your life? For a coat?
2006-10-23 22:45:00 · answer #2 · answered by Kaaren1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are like totally messed up in the head. All guys hear this! Avoid this girl like the plague. She is a BBD girl. Getting money from your X to buy a coat so you can look nice for your new BF. O! Come on!!!
Why didn't your new BF buy you the coat? Because he has got you figured out girl and the only reason he is hanging around is because he likes your milk shake.
2006-10-23 22:42:26 · answer #3 · answered by BeArPaW_4709 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't wear the same coat two years in a row, well that's your problem...and don't ever date a guy for his money. Even though he has plenty of money, don't take advantage of it. What if someone did that with you? Would you like it? Obviously not. It would hurt your feelings becuz you would think that he is dating you not becuz he likes you but because of your money. It doesn't mean that he treats you well so you can take advantage of his money. Yes you were wrong to ask your ex for money.
2006-10-23 22:54:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you dating him for him or for his money?
Asking people for money if you need something (and buying a new winter coat when you still have a perfectly good one is not needing.) is perfectly fine. Expecting someone to give you money just because you feel you deserve it is plain being selfish, and not the basis for any type of relationship at all.
2006-10-23 22:37:38 · answer #5 · answered by Bradly S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
about the gambling thing.... saying that he didn't care that he lost 1600 smackers... trust me.....he cared alright....
Maybe that was the money that he was gonna buy you the coat with.... and feels guilty.... and when you asked him about it again,,, he just ignored you???? No he didn't... he heard you, and probably thought.... "Why don't you just buy your own coat,,, and better yet,,,, what's so bad about the one you had last year.....
2006-10-23 22:36:08 · answer #6 · answered by Traynor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't ask for gifts and you aren't married to the guy. why is it his job to buy you a coat and why are you asking your ex whom you were in a "very bad" relationship with for money?
2006-10-23 22:35:32 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you get a job and buy the coat yourself?
2006-10-23 22:33:56 · answer #8 · answered by Meagan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes becase if your bf finds out he may get mad at you
2006-10-23 22:36:49 · answer #9 · answered by brunswick2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what
2006-10-23 22:40:22 · answer #10 · answered by celeste a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋