I've been really down on myself for a long time. The guy I liked never noticed me, I was always bored, I felt so ugly. Then I started getting involved in stuff like sports and just making new friends. And I realized that the guy is a sick loser after all=) and now I feel great about the way I look=) But now I have a new problem: Even though I feel pretty confident, I still feel kinda weird. Is this normal? Has anyone had this experience before? If it's an underlying issue, what can I do to solve it? thanks a bunch!
2006-10-23 15:16:43 · 12 answers · asked by 77684 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
i think its great that you have lightened up on yourself, and have started expanding your circle of friends. as for this weird feeling, you are probably in transition, getting use to the new you...everyday wake up and give yourself a par on the back...you have eraned it. it is okay to be your own cheerleader.
2006-10-23 15:19:32 · answer #1 · answered by moluvsmark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are doing for yourself is amazing. Keep it up. Every human feels inadequite in some ways. If you're up to it, read a book called "The Seductress" by Betsy Preleau. It's about the history of women starting from 30,000 BC that were the most skilled at having any guy they wanted. Some of the most successful of these dames were neither beautiful not young. And yet, they had the most handsome, rich, powerful men falling desperately in love with them. It's about owning your woman hood. Knowing how to be intellegent, strong, and using those qualities to be a true seductress. It's no joke. I'm 28 and since I've read the book, I've gotten how being confident in who I am and being not afraid or unworthy can make any guy want you. It works. We all feel unworthy, or unsure that we're doing the right thing. Just hold on to yourself and flont being different than what people expect you to be. Trust that it's sexy and attractive. And a guy that ignores you is a guy that doesn't get it and he's not worth it. Don't let anyone-girls or guys take away your diginity.
2006-10-23 22:29:20 · answer #2 · answered by Emilia D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a teenager, yes it is normal. Your hormones do weird things to your body and mind. What do mean by "weird"? I will assume you still feel a bit like you have low self-esteem, which is normal for all of us from time to time.
It sounds like you made a great effort in your life to change how you were feeling, just keep that up, you are doing a great job.
Sometimes, our parents can be adding to our feelings of inadequecy. Do your parents belittle you, don't value what you do, or worse, call you names or don't support you emotionally? This is a major cause of low self-esteem that can set you up for problems later on in life. If that is the case, I suggest you get counseling at school for it. Don't suffer alone.
2006-10-23 22:29:39 · answer #3 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-10-24 17:07:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal... You're just not used to the new you... YET...
after all you were with the old you 24 hrs a day.... lol
Keep up the good work... you're doing great
2006-10-23 22:26:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. Change always has a period of uncertainity before we get used to it and start feeling comfortable. Thats why change is uncomfortable and some people avoid it ...
2006-10-24 15:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by Sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
instead of thinking that I can not live without you, start thinking that I can live better without you, and I will show you that.
This will give you more confidence and energy.
btw. this is perfect to feel like that.
2006-10-23 22:26:02 · answer #7 · answered by Ashok Chavda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SOUND LIKE AN ANNOYING FLAKY idoit,,,,the next thing you are going to do is to start whoring around,,,,then you will be a saint the next year
2006-10-23 23:27:01 · answer #8 · answered by betty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes..it's normal
2006-10-23 22:18:06 · answer #9 · answered by Citizen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds normal. youre just learning to love yourself. it takes years to fully accept yourself. looks, brains, heart.
2006-10-23 22:25:04 · answer #10 · answered by whatever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋