Ideal Hunny:
Job: Veterinarian
Free Time: Volunteer
Religion: Buddhism
Politics: Green Party
Eats: Vegan
Loves: Animals
Doesn't: Want Kids
Does: Want A Wife
2006-10-23 15:16:34 · 30 answers · asked by Holly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think you are a bit picky, I'm sorry to say. First of all, a person's political party isn't really something you should be concerned about in a guy. Relationships shouldn't be about politics, that's how break-ups occur. His job really shouldn't be much of an issue as long as he is happy with his career and he can make time for the both of you. As long as he eats healthy, I don't see how his being a vegan should be a factor. I think you could try to be a little more loose about some of these things.
2006-10-23 15:24:28 · answer #1 · answered by ravensfan172003 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well first off, never let anyone tell you, you are picky because you feel strongly about what you want out of life. Only you have to live up to your standards.
Unfortunately society puts down strong women like yourself. It's not the fifties; you have a wonderful goal oriented life plan made out for yourself. Good for you!
You obviously care about animals and people. I can see by the few things you listed you are a good person (bad people don't love animals) : ) And you are living your life to make you happy, and be proud of yourself most people settle and from what I see you won't, and that is a good thing.
You volunteer, thats amazing most people don't give a ****. So I don't know what your reasoning for second guessing yourself is but don't. You seem like an intelligent, driven woman with her head on straight. But picky because you know what you want in life? No.
And another thing.... you said "does want a wife" so I assume you are a lesbian (not that there is anything wrong in that either) but why is everyone ignoring that and putting stuff about your perfect guy??? >sigh< I hate stupid people (not implying that to you at all), Im sorry...
2006-10-23 22:34:32 · answer #2 · answered by Tajuana 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Yes
When I was younger, one of the staff activities we were supposed to do at this one summer camp was to make a list of every quality that we wanted in a husband. I don't remember everything that was on that list, but I do know that nearly everything, I realized with age and maturity that I don't want anymore. Even if I did, there's no one that exists like that. If I had stuck to that list, I never would have given the guy who I like now a second glance.
2006-10-23 22:34:19 · answer #3 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do realize that this is what you THINK you want, right?
This is more like an outline of what you are looking for. Will there be a guy out there who fits your perfect profile? Yes. However, there will be more to him. Some of it will be bad, and some of it will be good.
In other words: don't discount someone if he's Buddist but a lawyer. Or a doctor. Or a teacher.
As you grow older, you're going to realize how your tastes will change.
I made a list similar to that as to what I was looking for. My husband blew it out of the water, mainly by pointing out that what I thought I wanted was NOT what I was looking for. He redefined perfection for me.
2006-10-23 22:33:19 · answer #4 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Usually if you've got a list like this I'd say "Yeah" but a lot of the things you've listed go well together - Vet that loves animals is pretty much a no-brainer. "Buddhist" and "Vegan" go well together, too.
I don't know that you'll find a vet with a lot of free time to volunteer, especially if he has his own practice that he's trying to make work.
My recommendation would be to rank those in order of what's MOST important for you, and find someone who fulfills the most important criteria, since finding someone who meets ALL of them may not happen.
Good luck!
2006-10-23 22:20:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm rooting for you--really I am--but in my experience approaching relationships by checking items off a list is not very workable. The chances that you'll find one person with all those characteristics, who ALSO just happens to be smitten with you and your characteristics, just aren't that great. And just remember, even if you do meet that guy and he seems perfect, you have years to discover the things about each other that drive you batty (he drops his undies on the bedroom floor, you leave the cap off the toothpaste, or whatever). Trust your sense of judgment, of course, and if you have imperfections of your own (who doesn't?), expect to come across them in any partner (and for them to drive you nuts), and stick with it. I wish you well!
2006-10-23 22:41:22 · answer #6 · answered by Leslie D 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You might not be too picky, but you will be looking for a while. You may meet several people that meet the criteria, but what if you don't get along with that person. You have to be willing to compromise.
2006-10-23 22:25:16 · answer #7 · answered by Bryan G 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-10-23 22:25:48 · answer #8 · answered by dswinkphn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no i would think that since you listed the stuff above that you do a lot of this stuff.
you love animals, are a vegan, volunteer, and are a member of the green party. i would think that just going to green party events you would find someone like that.
maybe try a site like eharmony
2006-10-25 13:33:44 · answer #9 · answered by Jenn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're too picky. You're looking for a "Ken" doll that will reinforce all your current trips without bringing anything new into your life.
I certainly hope that you find someone who challenges you more than the characteristics of you ideal hunny.
2006-10-23 22:30:18 · answer #10 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋