I love my boyfriend more than anything. He is 27 and i am 21. Im not stupid i know things arent the same between us lately and i suspect he has another girl or is trying to get one. Ive been cheated on before and they all act the same. Whats the best way to break up with him being i do still love him its still goin to be hard.
2006-10-23 15:08:05 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is fully aware of how i feel i told him how i felt and the most he will say is im just a guy. I even slapped him several times the weekend for checkin out other chicks i mean actually starin at them
2006-10-23 15:11:41 · update #1
You are young - trust me, the sooner you just tell him how you feel and move on, the better off you'll be!
2006-10-23 15:09:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you obviously have issues with trust... possibly because of the guys in your past (baggage that you've carried into this relationship) although I can see how you'd be annoyed by him "staring" at other girls... some guys are just not subtle at all. The only and best way to accomplish the task of ending the relationship is to be honest and then follow through. If you're not absolutely sure that you want to end the relationship then don't threaten or bring it up yet. If you do end up leaving... give yourself time to heal from past hurts before beginning something with someone new. And always remember * What you fear WILL appear*... so let go of your fears of infidelity. There is nothing that you can do to prevent it... you can't control people... and it's too much energy to worry about it all the time. Focus on yourself and your self-esteem for a while.
Best wishes!
2006-10-23 15:25:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you don't have to break up with him, talk to him first. Emphasise that you have been hurt before and it's the worst feeling and you never want to feel that way ever again. If he is cheating, you will be able to know through the reaction in his face.
All break ups are hard, the best way to do it for him and yourself is face to face... which is the hardest.
Start by saying how hurt you are with cheaters and try get an answer out of him, are you cheating or not?
Tell him your relationship with him isn't the same as it used to be, your not happy & you don't want to get hurt.
Tell him its for the best and when he's ready to committ to give you a call, that way, you have left an opening to it.
You can still be with him as long as he committs (if he does cheat second time around, then drop him in a heartbeat), if he chooses to live a life to cheating and lying, so be it.
You know you are the better person.
2006-10-23 15:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Old sayings are old sayings for a reason: They're probably true.
"Breaking up is hard to do."
The best thing, I think, is to recognize that sometimes, the two separate from each other can actually make more than the whole. I think you know this and he does too.
The roughest part is just giving yourself some time to heal ... don't do anything rash and resist the temptation to throw a new boyfriend in his face. This is not the time for gloating, this is the time for growing.
"This too, shall pass." Just don't be mean or hurtful. Thank him for the time you shared, but make your exit quick and clean. Erase his number from your phone and ask him to do the same. Do this in a public place, but drive yourself or go with friends whom are 'hiding' in the background.
A kiss on the cheek and it's done. You have to be strong ... you can cry when you get home.
Let him know that a realionship is a two-way street and guided by mutual decisions ... if your heart isn't in it, it's just not in it.
Use the occasion to test yourself ... how strong you can be, but not proud. It's never easy ... ask any soldier and they'll tell you the same thing: "Basic training was terrible, but I'm much better and stronger now for having gone through it."
Good luck, and may God bless and keep you and yours.
2006-10-23 15:24:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to set a date on the calender and keep it. this way you tell yourself you have no choice but to do it on that day. If this is really what you feel is best for the both of yous than go for it. Tell him that on this day you and him should do somthing together because so much is going on and you believe its time for the both of yous to talk. Than when that day comes do it somewhere private, no one around. Tell him what your feeling in your heart, be honest with him. Tell him that you love him so much but things just went in different directions lately and you believe in your heart that it just would be best if yous would just go sperate ways. Tell him that in the end if yous two really belong with one another than yous will meet up again, but right now things are best if yous broke up. Let him know why your breaking up with him, and that its just for the best.I am sure he will come around and understand sooner or later.
2006-10-23 15:13:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait slow down. don't u think we r jumping to conclusion here, i mean u didn't even caught him cheating. u never know mayb he can b going through some issue u know. what i'm trying to say is try talking to him first about what u notice is going on. mayb u can help him too u never know. but if u feel the need to end the relationship the best thing to do is let him know the true. good luck.
2006-10-23 15:17:31 · answer #6 · answered by sweet143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told him your concerns? Is it possible that he's really NOT cheating or trying to and you just are overly suspicious because of a past relationship? Try talking it out with him first- if things don't go well tell him you're sorry but you can't be in a relationship with someone you can't trust.
2006-10-23 15:10:03 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure that's what you want,it is always a good idea to write a letter. Get ALL of your thoughts down on paper. You can always go back and fine tune it. Leave it where you know he will find it, then be done with it.
2006-10-23 15:11:56 · answer #8 · answered by LARGE MARGE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best way is being honest with him, tell him everything in your mind. I know it is going to be hard, but you can do it, you will feel hurt, but it'll be good later. In a relationship, there should be faith and trust. Give yourself time to think for yourself. Good luck.
2006-10-23 15:13:24 · answer #9 · answered by Nikita B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get into a "f*** buddy" situation, that doesnt work...ever.
Tell him on the phone. Don't let him talk you out of it, either. He'll respect you more if you do that.
OK, but if you're slapping him just because he LOOKS at other girls, he should break up with you. I bet you look at other guys. It's just looking. Get over it.
2006-10-23 15:10:57 · answer #10 · answered by Js_5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds exactly like my situation :(
I Dont know, if you both really love each other, talk about it and work it out... I wish my ex did... I dont know the womans part of it but to me its tough cuz if you love someone so much and they keep hurting you its tough to understand why they are breaking up with you.
2006-10-23 15:15:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋