Im not ur average 20year old woman.people have always told me that I was very mature..and when asked to guess my age....the number one answer is always 25....Ok but the point is that i met this guy whos 34 and I absolutely think that he is the cutest most caring sincere guy...While I dont wanna be naive or get used, I really dont have a problem with this,besides the society and what they say is "RIGHT" and "Wrong"! I feel like if I date him, he'll be forever judged as"ROBBING the CRADLE" or as a "PERVERT" for liking a younger woman!!sad i know!
I have my own place and car., im taking care of myself! I know that at his age hes ready to settle down and commit..i just wanna be sure of my decision to go through with this!
2006-10-23 15:05:16 · 21 answers · asked by IzziJoi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are both consenting adults so that aspect shouldn't be a problem. However the age difference might cause you have difficult relating to each other socially because he has so much more life experience than you do. Take it slowly.
2006-10-23 15:07:51 · answer #1 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 20 too, but I could never see myself dating a guy who is that much older than me. But i guess everyone is different. Some things you might want to ask yourself is: 1. Does this guy see me for the great person i am or his is trying to use me? 2. Do i see a future with him? 3. Where we will be in 10 years together? Think about it in 10 years u will be 30 and he will be 44. Just be safe and careful! Make sure hes the real deal and wont hurt u in any way. The only thing that makes me skeptical is why would a 34 yr old want to date a 20 yr old?? Very odd...
2006-10-23 15:08:32 · answer #2 · answered by SweetieBear20 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can really tell you if it;s right or wrong. You have to follow your gut. I say if he's nice caring, charming and all the rest you have nothing to loose but to try. The only question in my mind is what a 34 yr old is looking for in a 20 yr old. You say you;re mature and i believe that because I was always a head of my time. the only major thing to consider is if you guys are at the same stage of life. Are you ready for a serious committed relationship? are you ready for a family? Like it or not at 34 the biological clock of even a 34 yr old is ticking! If you're ready and you guys have discussed what stages you're both at and you're comfortable with your decision go for it!
All the best to you and I hope you find what you're looking for.
2006-10-23 15:11:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a guy who was 13 years older than me when I was 21. It was fine, except I actually felt like he was too immature for me, the irony. My parents are also 19 years apart and get along great. If you have fun with him and like him, go for it.
You mentioned that he is ready to settle down and commit, do you feel that you would be okay with settling down right now? You are only 20, once you turn 21 things may become different because you will have a lot more options as far as socializing goes. Dating someone doesn't mean you have to marry him, so have fun and see where it goes :)
2006-10-23 15:25:42 · answer #4 · answered by I carry your heart with me... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush in to anything. Time, take a lot of time - 3-4 years to decide. Think of it this way. When you are 30 he will be 44... when you are 40 he will be 54.... and believe me 40 and 54 there is a difference in many things, as with 20 and 34 and 30 and 44.
2006-10-23 15:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, yet be heavily careful...I recommend a lot of people think of there's a large project with that. and that i recommend heavily careful. in case you have intercourse or something even close then he can get thrown in penitentiary as a pedophile. quite you in all risk could locate somebody closer on your very own age...I recommend, you're slightly sufficiently previous to no longer order off the youngsters menu anymore, you comprehend? yet there isn't any longer something incorrect with it. Its in simple terms no longer likely that it will flow everywhere different than downhill. yet once you do finally end up marrying the guy and having teenagers sometime then kudos to you. it may quite flow the two way.
2016-10-16 08:05:54 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind!" Be who you are do as you please you only live once remember you always try to learn from your mistakes. So if its not meant to be you can take the situation and learn from it. Who cares what society thinks do you think if Martin Luther King or Rosa Parks cared, do you really think this so called society would be like it is today if people really cared what others thought. Good luck honey and I'm a twenty-one yr old woman who's in the same boat!
2006-10-23 15:13:41 · answer #7 · answered by L-Town 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to think about it long term like say if yall get married or something you would probably end up taking care of him in his old age for years. but on the hand of people talking about him they just hatin anyway so don't worry about it
2006-10-23 15:08:06 · answer #8 · answered by College Educated 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should, since both of you guys are mature and old enough i don`t see any problems with you going out with someone 14 years older than you. if you want then go for it ! good luck ! =]
2006-10-23 15:08:47 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it girl! Love doesn't care about age. Only status quo
2006-10-23 15:08:19 · answer #10 · answered by Orange ♥Mocha♥ Frappuccino 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋