My 2 yr 8 month boyfriend broke up 5 months ago. We were both hurt but I was hurt more...well actually still am hurt. He still calls me 4 to 9 times a week and asked him why he still calls me and told me he just wants to be friends. I've told him to stop calling me many times. I don't want to be friends with him (yet) since i still have strong feelings for him. I'm really confused whether he still has feelings for me? I've asked him and said he cares about me. So does that mean that he just cares? and not love me anymore?
2006-10-23 15:03:20 · 13 answers · asked by alwaysmile 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well i do avoid his phone calls and he's noticed that so he calls me at my work which i have to answer all calls i get
2006-10-23 15:13:57 · update #1
Sometimes its hard to let go of someone you are close with especially if you've been doing a lot of things together when you were together. It's easier for some people to talk to their ex as they try to move on but for some people like you when its over its over. You have to be strong otherwise you wont be able to move on. If there's nothing to fix in the relationship then there is no need to hold on. You would just go in circles and go crazy and would always hope that you would be back together. Cut the ties. If in the future your paths will cross again then it's meant otherwise dont torture yourself.
2006-10-23 15:09:42 · answer #1 · answered by simplyjaxxs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a control freak! He just wants to know if you still care. And he knows full well that if he continues to call, it will take you longer to let go! Next time he calls, tell him you are busy, then hang up! Each time after that tell him the same thing! DO NOT talk to this jerk! And forget about being friends. He is not interested in being friends. I would be willing to bet that he just wants to have his cake and eat it to. Ever heard of "Friends with benefits? This is his real goal. Don't be stupid! He will use you and laugh about it with his friends. How many other "Friends" like yo are there anyway? Oh by the way, I am a guy. I know my brothers well. Don't let him do this to you.
2006-10-23 22:12:09 · answer #2 · answered by It All Matters.~☺♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't answer. That's what I was doing. I broke up with my bf but I kept calling him telling him I just want to be friends. It's like, he doesn't want you to forget about him so he keeps calling you so you don't comoletely move on. That way, he can go out with girls, but still have you on the side just in case. Once my bf stoped answering my phone calls I realized that I really love him :-)
2006-10-23 22:09:44 · answer #3 · answered by maya 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
with no experience, i'd say he doesn't care anymore. feelings don't disappear overnight. 2 yrs and 8 months...that's kind of a long time to just break it off. then again, if i were in your shoes...i'd avoid the calls. since he broke up with me, it would mean he no longer loves me. but that's talking from no experience...
2006-10-23 22:07:57 · answer #4 · answered by yangie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you guys break up?
If he was really your friend....he wouldn't drag this thing out. He would give you the time and space you need so you could move on with your life.
As long as you continue to talk to him, you will never get over him. I am not saying you can't ever be friend, but if you need time...then take that time.
2006-10-23 22:15:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same thing and it is difficult for you to move on if you continue to allow your ex to call you, it is a controll thing he is using on you. Don't allow him to take advantage of you. Don't entertain the calls anymore. I know it is easier said than done, I am having a hard time too. But you have to do it for yourself
2006-10-23 22:09:27 · answer #6 · answered by OMG I thought I saw A Kitty Kat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Exactly, he cares enough that he wants to make sure that you are going to be ok. I did the same thing with my X, I still call him to keep in touch with him. We were good friends and I dont want to let that go.
2006-10-23 22:06:17 · answer #7 · answered by SingleRose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's totally stringing you along. you probably tell him that you miss him and stuff so you're like an ego boost for him. seriously, stop taking his calls. just don't answer the phone. he'll get the point eventually. move on, if it's meant to be, it'll happen.
2006-10-23 22:08:07 · answer #8 · answered by ~it's me~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
caring and loving are so close emotionally --- it sounds like your ex is as confused as you are
can the reasons you broke up be resolved? if so maybe you should get together and discuss this and perhaps get back together
2006-10-23 22:10:25 · answer #9 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop taking his phone calls. Stop being so available for him and he will either come around or leave you alone.
2006-10-23 22:05:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋