I do not know why I do not have a boyfriend. I mean people say I'm pretty some say I'm beautiful. I'm always respectful towards everyone I meet. I'm polite. However, I'm shy. I try not to be, but I cannot help it it is just my personality I guess. I do not have the greatest self confidence either. I try to be myself when I have dates, but people do not like that. Why don't I have a boyfriend, what I'm I doing wrong? I'm 21 and lonley.
2006-10-23 15:01:01 · 21 answers · asked by brooke992002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont worry, it will happen when you least expect it.
2006-10-23 15:03:50 · answer #1 · answered by robkim04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For now, you must learn to accept your singleness. It's hard when your friends are dating and having a good time. But, talk to your friends and you will see that having a boyfriend can bring problems too. So, weather you are alone, or dating, life will have it's ups and downs. Mr. Right will come along...when you least expect it. You'll see.
As far as your being pretty, beautiful, respectful etc., those are all great qualities to have and there are many guys out there looking for a girl just like you. Take heart and know that he is probably right around the corner, looking for you too! You just haven't met yet.
If you are shy, or lack self confidence, that's ok too. One day you will open up and believe in yourself. And the right guy can help you come out of your shell and will not mind your shyness. As you get older your self confidence will grow and you will be surprised at how confident you'll become.
So, just continue to be yourself. You are as good as anyone out there and I'll bet you will make some man a great wife one day and that man will be thanking God every day that you waited for him!
2006-10-23 15:17:38 · answer #2 · answered by gailfrances 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear girl, you need to get over your shyness first of all. Also, men can sense you are lonely. Men want to be with someone who can hold their own, who are inherently happy. Do not get a boyfriend to cure your loneliness. You've got to be comfortable being alone and being with other people.
There is this book that might help you, titled "If I am so Wonderful, Why I am Still Single?: Ten Strategies That Will Change Your Life Forever" by Susan Page. I suggest you read it.
I have no trouble meeting men; just look around you they're all over.
Good luck sweetheart!
2006-10-23 15:17:31 · answer #3 · answered by mpicky2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are coming on too strong take time and enjoy life single. just because people say your pretty and beautiful doesn't mean you have a lot of self confidence, like you said. you need to build that up. as for people not liking you when you be yourself that is just plain mean. if they dint like you for who you are then you know that you aren't going to have a good future with that person. it is best to know that if they don't like you for who you are then you can go find someone else who does and hopefully get married. try going to night clubs and just hanging with your friends. if that doesn't work try a really good dating service that will match someone up with you that has the same interests and hobbies. if that doesn't work ask someone who has already been married or been dating along time. ask them how are you guys so close and maybe you can use that to approach future dates.
2006-10-23 15:11:52 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you're doing anything wrong, I used to be like that a little, what I found is that guys are actually shy to talk to you because you are so attractive, but because you are also quiet, they might not know how to approach you or what to say?
Maybe you just havent met the right type of character yet? Or maybe you're holding your personality back a little too much?? Dont be afraid to laugh a little- have a joke, everyone has a sense of humour, that always helps :)
2006-10-23 15:11:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont feel bad. I got my first kiss at age 18 and my first boyfriend too. Now Im 20 and we are still together. I never had a bf in high school and now I do have one in college. If you say your a nice, respectful person, then I dont see the problem with you. It might be the guys u go after or who u date. Dont worry, the right guy will come along soon! Trust me!! To meet guys, go to local malls, movies, bowling allies etc with your girlfriends and be very outgong and social! Take initative and be yourself.
2006-10-23 15:04:44 · answer #6 · answered by SweetieBear20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So I do believe in this world you have a twin or someone who is just like you....Honey I believe that I am yours. I just turned 21 in August and am lonely as well....I can't seem to move on from my ex who I keep in touch with all the time. YOu said that people don't like you when you try to be yourself....do not change whatsoever. IF you try to be something that you're not then you are going to wind up miserable. Instead you need to consider the people that you hang around and the guys that you are seeing. You need to look deep down and figure out what you like and what you really want from a mate. As far as your self confidence....you need to learn to show off your strengths and embrace your flaws....Men like a confident woman who knows what she wants....Also just learn to have fun!!!! Yeah we don't want to remain single forever but you have plenty of time to be tied to one person...love yourself first and then only then worry about letting someone else love you just as much and intimately
2006-10-23 15:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by xxsanchabonitaxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you're too picky or you intimidate guys. Guys self-defeat alot before anything is ever said sometimes 'cos it can be intimidating to go up to a really hot girl and talk to her.
Shyness can be a problem. I would say just try to have a more positive attitude, smile and talk more. Don't think about what you're gonna say, just talk and things will probably take care of themselves.
2006-10-23 15:08:39 · answer #8 · answered by Js_5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out to clubs have a few drinks and just enjoy. Eventually, you will get the self confidence you need when people just come up to you and talk.
2006-10-23 15:03:36 · answer #9 · answered by simplyjaxxs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are like dogs and can sense desperation in women. You don't need a guy to validate your existence so stop acing like not having one is the end of the world. Get a life where you don't need a guy and one will probably come.
2006-10-23 16:10:17 · answer #10 · answered by biscuit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can tell you is keep being nice and making friends and eventually some guy will want to get to know you better or if you want to you could start trying to talk to whoever you like and go from there!
2006-10-23 15:03:52 · answer #11 · answered by College Educated 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋