I have been dating or seeing a married man for 9 years that happens to be muslim and I am a catholic; therefore, I am already in need of confession. My issue is now my affair has put us into a predictment. I am pregnant. He has decided that he does not want to disrupt his happy home with his wife and their 2 perfect children because he can not afford an outside child physically, mentally, nor financially. So he has just left me high and dry.
Not that I really care, I feel that this is a gift from God and I am going to work my best to raise this child alone.
Is there anything in the Muslim religion that stipulates that this is a grave offense?
2006-10-23 14:59:05 · 18 answers · asked by fetracy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Let me add this...I am still in a lesbian relationship...however, I have been with him before her....he lives 3000 miles away and I only see him once a month. Therefore, I am actually bi-sexual....however, I will not date another woman once me and my current partner slit for good.
2006-10-23 15:07:40 · update #1
well! yeah it's a sin.....n he will have to pay for it here n hereafter.as islam gives utmost importance to loyalty to his wife.
cutting ding dong as second person said is wrong.....i never heard this in my religion.but it's definately a sin
n mating with some woman without a legal relationship with her(anyone except her wife),when he is married or unmarried,is totally unacceptable in islam,.
2006-10-23 15:19:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is extremely grave and is called 'adultery' which you, as a Catholic know in the same terms. Having sex with a non-Muslim and allowing an unborn child to be a non-Muslim is an even graver offense to him (and obviously a cool thing for the Catholic Church), so we have a case of Islam spreading into Christianity--hallelujah! and a hearty Mazel Tov. You only made the mistake of saying that you didn't want to disrupt his happy home--there are really no happy Islamic homes. This man is a phoney who wants to pretend to be happy by going back to his wife and perfect children but he is a wretched lump of human waste.
2006-10-23 15:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by heyrobo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is an offense.
1- He had an affair with a woman and he is a married man, this is called adultery and it is a big sin.
2- He impregnated the other woman and won't marry her even for the sake of the child, also a big sin.
3- He doesn't want to acknowledge or have anything to do with his innocent child, a big sin and a crime.
If he doesn't carry the responsibility for what he did then he's going against the laws of God.
2006-10-23 20:39:27 · answer #3 · answered by Isis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure it's a grave offense in any religion. Sleeping with a married man probably isn't very high up there either.
2006-10-23 15:02:15 · answer #4 · answered by so.good 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. It isn't even in their religion that the man could commit adultery unless he was doing it with another muslim's wife. He is entitled to four wives, and he can divorce any of them by simply telling them that they are divorced. In a sense, he married you, and now is divorcing you in accordance with his faith.
Why don't you get an boyfriend who is not attached to anyone else? Someone who will love and take care of you and your child that you are expecting? There's no reason to go it alone, and I wish good riddance to your previous paramour.
2006-10-23 15:04:19 · answer #5 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your a lesbian in an 8 year relationship, but sleeping with a Muslim for 9 years? Either your full of it, or you have a dual personality, in wich case, skip the confession, go straight to the nearest psych ward.
2006-10-23 15:03:27 · answer #6 · answered by sweetie_baby 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He can't do that, he has to take care of you. He should marry you! He's a dirt bag!!
[2:233] Divorced [in your case never married] mothers shall nurse their infants two full years, if the father so wishes. The father shall provide the mother's food and clothing equitably. No one shall be burdened beyond his ability. No mother shall be harmed on account of her infant, nor shall the father be harmed because of his infant. (If the father dies), his inheritor shall assume these responsibilities. If the infant's parents mutually agree to part, after due consultation, they commit no error by doing so. You commit no error by hiring nursing mothers, so long as you pay them equitably. You shall observe GOD, and know that GOD is Seer of everything you do.
He is unjust and not following the Laws of God. He has to give you child support, this is the law that God has ordained.
2006-10-23 15:09:24 · answer #7 · answered by Muse 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
actually what this married muslim man did consider to be one of the highest Sin in Islam. especially that he is married.
2006-10-23 15:01:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He will sue you for custody in court - he'll bring up your lesbian past against you. If he's a wealthy Muslim, he'll hire a Jewish family law attorney to defend his rights. Muslims do not abandon their children....
2006-10-23 15:04:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO. ITS ENCOURAGED! ITS A LEGITMATE WAY OF SPREADING ISLAM (GOOGLE THIS CLAIM).
Muslims woman are not allowed to do this, but Muslims men are allowed to do this as a means to spread Islam. He apparently is worried that his wife will leave him or he doesnt have the money, otherwise, he would be most proud and insist the baby is Muslim.
2006-10-23 15:02:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋