My husband is from Israel and all of his family lives over there. We have 2 children. Lately he has been talking to me about the prospect of us all going to visit his family. I'm hesitant to accept. I don't know how safe it would be, espically when I hear about the bombings. But I feel bad about being selfish because I know he hasn't seen his family in some years-- and he really wants to introduce the kids to his mom, whom is terminally ill. Am I being too selfish? Should I consider his wishes? I don't know what to do!
2006-10-23 14:57:03 · 26 answers · asked by Art B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
One of my sons spent the month of July in Israel. There were a couple of exciting moments, but he and his colleagues were safe. The violence is confined to Southern Lebanon / Northern Israel. It will probably be stressful, but you will be safer there than in your car on the freeway at rush hour.
2006-10-23 15:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Know where you are travelling to. The northern part near Haifa is where all the Hezbollah rocket attacks rained down on, but I doubt they'd do that again anytime soon, Lebanon would kill them. There is always the possibilty of a Suicide Bomber, but those have been rather few lately with the Israeli crack down on the Palestinians and also their 28 foot tall version of the Berlin Wall. Honestly, trsut the locals advice on how to stay safe if you go there and enjoy the trip. I'm sure you have a much higher chance of getting killed in your car 5 miles from home any given day than from the possibility of getting hurt in Israel for the time being.
2006-10-23 22:02:57 · answer #2 · answered by Jonathan O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're being selfish at all. The biggest part of being a parent, next to loving them no matter what...is wanting to protect them. We already live in a society where we almost have to "fear" on a daily basis that something is going to happen. It's understandable he wants his children to meet his family and most especially, his ailing mother..but at what cost? I know that life is all about "living" but, we don't want to put oursevles, even more so, our children in MORE danger. Have you told him how you felt or has it been more HIM talking about it than you? If you haven't explained your feelings to him, I am sure he thinks you are "ok" with it. If you have, talk some more. Good luck
2006-10-23 22:09:57 · answer #3 · answered by CK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u r not being selfish at all. u'r just worry about the safety of u and ur kids. i think ur husband should understand u if u really sit down and let him know what is ur concerns. besides in this time and day u don't know where is going to b bomb next. i say give ur regards to his family, mother what ever but at the same time u have ur family to protect. i sure down think u r being selfish. good luck in telling ur husband. if he go crazy just call me so i can knock some sense back in him.
2006-10-23 22:07:30 · answer #4 · answered by sweet143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, israel is pretty much the "western country" of the middle east. their government and soldiers tend to take care of tourists and pilgrims of all sorts. Israel is nowhere near as bad as CNN makes it look. There are bombings, but most areas are somewhat safe, and the guards are professional about it.
going to a far away country will not only be a learning experience for you and your kids, but it will help the kids grow emotionally by meeting their grandmother, and learning to do what is best for others (going to a far away place to make your husband happy). you will be safe if you go, many people do.
2006-10-23 22:02:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It probably wouldn't be safe to go there. Perhaps you could videotape your family and send it to his family. Your children could be introduced similar to being there, but a lot safer. Another alternative would be to send the tape with him so he could see his family. Thinking of the safety of your children is never selfish
2006-10-23 22:04:11 · answer #6 · answered by candycrystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are being selfish at all. At the prospect of meeting his family you are at the same time putting your family in danger. Yes his mother is dying, yet I am sure she understands the circumstance. I think it would be nicer if you could get her to come and stay the last few months of her life with you and your family.
2006-10-23 22:02:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
is the place safe to visit? Maybe your husband should visit first and make sure everything is ok my brother is in the army over there right now and he says it isnt safe there are little kids 5-6 walking up to you then throwing bombs them little people are trying to kill you and are you white? lets just see how they react to you being with the other race you are considered a enemy Im not trying to discourage you Im married to a black man and would I walk into a all black bar hell no and ive been with him for 8 years
2006-10-23 22:01:50 · answer #8 · answered by weirded out 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go visit his family. u do sound kinda selfish but very smart and protective. maybe ask his family to come visit you are explain about how you feel about teh bombings and how it might not be safe. but if he tells u othersie, maybe consider it. wait for a while and make sure its safe, that theyre have beens no bomb in a while!!!!
2006-10-23 22:01:32 · answer #9 · answered by Rach 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you're being selfish,you're a mom and its a mom right to protect her kids,the mom is more protective of her kids than the father because they were in you,u give birth,you were up taking care of them when they were babies and sick,i understand why you'll be hesitant its your kids
2006-10-23 22:00:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋