4 years ago, my brother died he was only 25 yrs old, i would love to hear some advice to cope from his absence

Answer 1

All of us go through hard times. but in the bible there is a hope that there will be a resurection in the near future. Heres a scripture that helped me with a loss, (28 Do not marvel at this, because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice 29 and come out, those who did good things to a resurrection of life, those who practiced vile things to a resurrection of judgment. ) Also it helped to know they wernt in any pain, (5 For the living are conscious that they will die; but as for the dead, they are conscious of nothing at all, neither do they anymore have wages, because the remembrance of them has been forgotten.) Hope that helps, and im sorry to hear about you brother. Im sure he was a good person.

Answer 2

My brother died nearly 10 years ago. It is still hard to deal with at times. Some days I do well others are taken one breath at a time. We cope by telling our favorite memories of him. We meet with others who are going through the loss of a sibling. It helps to know that we are not alone in what we a going through. Most of us have similar feelings about our loss. It is something we never get over. We just go on living as well a we can. To cope my family sometimes donate gifts to our local area. We give to people in need. We donated flowers for the village hall. We planted trees and gave the local park money for new playground equipment. Helping others in need gives us peace. The only other advice I can give is don't let anyone make you feel you should be done grieving. Grief is a process we all have a different way. If you find it consuming you to the point that you can't function and can't get through the day, see a doctor. Depression is common among us. I pray tomorrow will be better for you.

Answer 3

Sorry for your loss. Try to focus on all your good times together. You sound like you need some grief counseling, talk with your friends, parents, family anyone who can help you get past the grief, 4 years of trying to cope is a sign that you need some help with this. Don't keep it bottled up any longer, you will make yourself sick and get depressed. Keep your mind busy with work, school, friends ect. The hurt never goes away, it's just better when you can look at it with the help of friends. It's always good to share wonderful memories with other people who care, be thankful that you had him with you for the years you did, a lot of people never had a brother. Good luck to you, and again sorry for your loss.

Answer 4

I am so sorry for your loss. At that age I am sure you never imagined he would die. Your pain will lessen in time but you won't ever forget him. You should do something in his honor. Start a garden and plant some things to remember him for the years to come. You may have to wait a little while longer now that winter is upon us, but plant something that will live many, many years and that will shine brightly for everyone to see. My small town started a garden and gave everyone a chance to purchase a brick with the names of their loved ones that had passed. It is beautiful and peaceful there. There is a bench to sit and relax and to think and there are many names on the bricks to honor those who can not be there with us.

Answer 5

I am sure your in emotional pain. There are great support groups in the phone book. Go online and see if you can find one there.
Every person grieves differently and it may help to have others who have lost someone so close and so young to talk to.
I am so sorry your in this place right now. I would pray that you be freed of the sorrow and embrace your brothers memory.
Take care.

Answer 6

There is life after death, death is really only the beginning. You will see your brother again Here is something that will help you cope, check out lds.org or best of all talk to the local lds missionaries they can help you deal with your loss. I'm so sorry for your loss.
I'll keep you in my prayers:)

Answer 7

I lost my mother when i was 16 yrs old, and thought i was going to die myself. It's such a hard thing to deal with and the hurt will never go away. One thing that has really helped me over the years is to imagine that it was the other way around. I pretend that i am the one who died and i am in heaven looking down on my mom. How would i want her to feel??? I wouldnt want her to cry everyday, be sad, depressed......... i would want her to be happy and go on with her life knowing that someday she will see me again. and i know thats what she would want me to do too.
It does get a little easier each year that goes by, time is a friend when it comes to easing pain. Just remember that your brother loves you and he also knows that you love him. He would want you to be happy. I will keep you in my prayers.

Answer 8

There is no easy way to cope with the death of a family memeber. But remember the good times you had with him, the holidays you spent with your family, Revisit places he liked, keep his memory alive, but don't obssese over it. Seek counceling when things get really tough to handle, and remember that even when things suck really bad, and you don't think you can, think of something goofy he did and laugh...laughter will always make you feel better...if only for a moment.

Answer 9

If it has been 4 years, you have been coping, you just don't realize it. You will always miss him and feel pain and sadness. That's normal....don't fight it.

Try to concentrate on the positive memories....the laughs you had, the good times. Play his favorite CD...watch his favorite movie....

Remember that he is not in any pain right now....and the pain that you feel is an expression of how much you cared for him.

Answer 10

My brother died at the age of 29. Time and a good counselor is what helped me. We had some unfinished business that I needed to deal with. It has been almost twenty years.....yes, I still miss him.