I have three tats, my eyebrow pierced and my tounge pierced. All I have had for a long time. My kids are 6, 4, and 2.
2006-10-23 14:50:07 · 45 answers · asked by Jester 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
And I will be 28 in three weeks.
2006-10-23 14:50:33 · update #1
by funny colors, i dye my hair the purple red color, not green or anything crazy like that.
2006-10-23 14:55:34 · update #2
Thank you everyone for the answers. And yes I am a good mom.
2006-10-24 08:15:15 · update #3
Some people might not agree but I think if you take great care of your children that's the most important thing. I have 3 children and pregnant with my 4th. I would have a tattoo but im a sook, maybe one day. Who cares what colour YOUR hair is, if your criticised I guess there just jealous. Good on you for being who you want to be.
2006-10-23 14:57:05 · answer #1 · answered by lividuva 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Well, I'm 20, and my husband and I have an 8 month old daughter. Before I got pregnant I had a few piercings and dressed kind of "different" and such. When I was in high school I dyed my hair every color of the rainbow lol. But I'm not that crazy now. Since I became a parent, I haven't gotten any new piercings, but I haven't gotten rid of the old ones. I feel quite a bit different about that sort of thing now that I'm a mom, I'm not crazy about my appearance or getting any more "freaky" than I already am. I got my first tattoo in August and I think I may get one or two more(also in places that not everyone will see), but I don't have any plans for that yet. Who cares what other people think. If you are a good parent, and don't push those sort of things on your kids and let your appearance define who you are as a person, I don't think you're doing anything wrong.
2006-10-23 15:35:13 · answer #2 · answered by .*AnNa*. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, then no...it's not ok. You are the keeper of your own body. You know what you like, you know what you want, you know what your kids can handle and understand. Tattoos are permanant and have meaning (well mine does anyway). I have one and no piercings. You cannot change the tattoo, so that's a mute point. The fact that you're questioning your hair a piercings, means you're evolving/growing and putting the thoughts of your kids and their friends and the parents of their friends before your own and sometimes thats a good thing. It can be a mature thing, or it could just mean you're ready to try something new. The psychological meaing of changing your appearance drastically is to garner attention, gain the shock value declare your independence from the norm and acceptable. Maybe now you're getting that attention fulfillment from your kids and those you're surrounded by. Only you can make this decision. Good luck.
2006-10-23 15:10:29 · answer #3 · answered by Allison S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Definately! I'll be 28 next month and have 4 kids. I have seriously been feeling like I don't have an identity other than being a mom. So I have gone back to college, and will be getting my 1st tattoo soon. I've decided to stop caring what other people expect me to be/act like, and to be me and do what I've always wanted to do. Of course my kids come first, but I was raised without any choices in anything I did, and I want my kids to know that they can make their own decisions and be their own people. I think it's good for kids to see individuality, especially in their parents!
2006-10-23 17:07:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lead by example! Moms are supposed to look like Moms regardless of thier age! Figures of authority, restriction, boundaries and rules.
Imposing guidelines and social structure won't be easily done coming from a non-comformist. PTA meetings, soccer meets, Parent/Teacher meetings to discuss your children's grades or behaviors won't be met with respect when you look a certain way.
Your personal preferences went out the door the day you birthed those children. You are no longer a 27 year old young woman, but a MOTHER with impressionable minds that require your leadership and guidence.
I would begin by removing the eyebrow and tongue piercings. The tattoos may look cute now, but look at them again when you hit 40 and 50!
I am not anti expression. In fact I used to do body piercings professionally. But wiser now with the birth of my daughter, now 3 years old. I had a pierced eyebrow, tongue, belly, 9 piercings in my ears and was looking forward to more piercings. I have several tattoos........so I am not judging past freedoms.
MOTHERHOOD changes everything.................
I have a wonderful baby girl that needs the most positive influence I can offer her. Her future depends on how well I raise her to believe that SHE is an expression!
Since you posed the question of rather it is OK then I am certain you are prepared for the answers you will recieve, both positive and negative. Don't go for the "answer" that agrees with you. Go for the thoughts and answers that make sence to you.
This isn't a question of being a good Mother. Only you know the level of nurturing you give to your children. This is a question of outward appearance and what others, society and your children may feel and how your appearance will effect so many aspects of life in general.
In spite of some of the advice/answers on here, being a "cool" parent and allowing freedom of choice has many meanings. It doesn't mean be-friending your children, getting into whatever they are into and so forth.........
Taking care of yourself and looking youthful and retaining your own identity is important. At this point you may have to
re-evaluate what your primary roles are.
2006-10-23 17:05:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anna M 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Its ok for you to do whatever you want. Its your body. How can you be happy if you don't like the way you look? I have kids but its not going to stop me from dying my hair. I change the color 4 times a year, have been changing it for 4 years now. I'm also going to get tattoos done that I have been planning for a long time, one of which will have my childrens names in it. Do what you want with YOUR body, nobody else can tell you what to do.
2006-10-23 17:33:08 · answer #6 · answered by Chelle's Belle 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Heck ya you go girl!!
Just because we are moms doesn't mean we are dead jeesh!
I have one tat. It is a foot or so by 8". The kids when right about your kids ages is when I got it. They picked out the colors (the little guy was into bright colors at the time). So there roses are the colors they picked with there names attached around the roses. Custom made by me and the tattoo guy...
You sound like one of those moms who's children are happy and will grow up dancing to there own tune too!
Moms do not have to be prudes! BTW I am a tad bit older then others who have posted so far lol!
2006-10-23 15:35:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Who cares what anyone else thinks. I have a 9 month old daughter, and six tattoos. At least your kids can wear clothes that say "My Mom's tattoos are cooler than your Mom's" Kids will be embarassed by you no matter what you do. Besides, as a mother you have already changed your life entirely...what's wrong with a few tats or piercings?
2006-10-23 16:04:09 · answer #8 · answered by Mighty 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It depends on what your goals are. Unfortunately, appearance is important especially when you are trying to get a job. If you want to work in a cool cd store, you might fit in but if you want to run for public office, piercings and tattoos may not go over too well.
You can always choose the middle ground. Piercings come out and you can always dye your hair back to your normal color. If you get tattoos, you should probably have them done in places you can cover if you want to.
2006-10-23 14:55:23 · answer #9 · answered by reslstancelsfutlle 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Every choice has consequences. I applaud someone being true to themselves. I also realize that the world we live in is usually not kind to those who are different.
Rich "perfect" kids are cruel to each-other if you don't have the correct Prada purse. All kids are cruel to each-other for some reason. Life is hard, courage to be different is great, but courage to sacrifice for your children's well being is great too.
I have spent my life "not fitting the mold" it has been very hard and lonely.
There really is no right answer. Ask yourself why you do what you do and if it is what you want to teach your children.
No one really knows what is "the answer" on how to live life. It has been debated for centuries. This is your and your children's time, all I can say is do no harm, as best you can.
2006-10-23 15:07:17 · answer #10 · answered by crct2004 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋