I met this guy yesterday and I specifically told him I have kids so we have to be discrete until I know for sure we are going to be a item. We just met and I have respect for my sons not to bring guys around my home. I am very cautious about dating. This guy wanted to stop by today to see me and everyone was home. I told him that would not be a good idea and he hung up on me. Why isn't it hard for men to respect a woman who have kids. Although my boys are all teens it is not healthy to see their mom with different men in and out of my life. I don't date much but I am interested in meeting one guy who can be a great guy and eventually meet the rest of the family. Why is this guy so impatient? Please serious answers
2006-10-23 14:39:18 · 25 answers · asked by OMG I thought I saw A Kitty Kat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This guy sounds like a total looser and I would steer clear from him from now on. In fact I would not answer his calls if he calls you again. Thank God that he showed you this quickly who he really is. Can you imagine what things with him would be like a few months from now if he is such a hot head after a first meeting?
He is selfish and has no respect for women if he would try to manipulate you with guilt when you are doing what's best for your children.
And I commend you for what you are doing for your children. How wise of you to be careful in this regard. You are showing great love and commitment to them and more single parents could learn from your stand on this.
So, good for you. and be sure to walk quickly away from this reject of a guy...and never look back.
There is someone out there for you, and will share your values. It's hard waiting, but it will be worth the wait. It's better to be alone than to be with the wrong person.
2006-10-23 15:01:28 · answer #1 · answered by gailfrances 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not the impatient part that is the warning sign, it is his behavior. You just met the guy and you have already had a falling out, not your fault, just don't go there with this jerk.
The only thing that bothers me and you are not the first one I have heard make a statement speaking of men (which I think is referring to all of us)
Please understand that all men are not alike, anymore than all women are all alike. You met a bum and you should not classify all (MEN) in your statement. We are not all jerks. The guy you met is, and for your own good, drop him like a hot potato.
Well, there went my chance for a 10 pointer, but I have to tell it like it is. No snow jobs from me.
Good Luck,
Darryl S.
2006-10-23 14:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like this guy will only cause trouble in the future... u need a man who is understanding... and Believe it or not but there are men out there who are, unlike this one. He should respect the fact that u have children and have to think about their feelings also.
If a man is disrespecting u by hanging up on you and being so immature bout things, Forget about him, he doesnt deserve ur time.
2006-10-23 14:45:18 · answer #3 · answered by Elena 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a single mom to a young boy, I think it is better for you to find out now that he does not respect your priorities. If he is already not understanding about your kids, it will probably get worse. A good guy would be patient and understanding, he would not push you or be demanding of your time. I say lose him, there are plenty of fish in the sea. It is better that you found this out now rather than waste months or even years with him and find it out later.
2006-10-23 14:43:05 · answer #4 · answered by dmc81076 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men want feel they 'possess' and cannot tolerate this need not being fulfilled.
If he is showing this trait so early my advice is back off, turn away, don't see him again,
If he won't respect your wishes now on such an important issue, he never will.
And if you enter a relationship with him after he has done this then he will feel he can disrespect your wishes in other ways.
Sorry to be so negative but that's how I see it.
2006-10-23 14:45:06 · answer #5 · answered by DavidP 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Want a guy's point of view?
To me he just sounds real selfish, most likely he's looking for one thing, and one thing only, and you know what that is.............I agree, men are pigs as the saying goes, but most of us have morals.
If he ain't MAN enough to respect YOUR wishes as a single Mom, then he ain't ready to meet your kids, and he probably never will if he keeps acting this way.
Do you really think this guy is ready to take his place in your "instant family"?
Your new "friend's" maturity should be the ONLY deciding factor for you from this point on.
Read him well....................and I wish you well, you deserve it, you sound like an extraordinary Mom.
2006-10-23 15:03:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thik that you should do somr thing relley nice like take him out for the night ok and if you can do that make some good to eat of your son and you ans the guy to and then when your son go's to bed you guy just talk and when i thik you konw the rest ok but do that and when i thik you and your son will like it a lot will i hope i answer your question good luck
2006-10-23 14:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by one hot bitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If as you say you made yourself clear at the start then all he was hunting was a quick piece of A$$ move on and tell the jerk off he must have a hearing problem. Keep looking Mr RIGHT will come along
2006-10-23 14:57:26 · answer #8 · answered by Jack C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You met him yesterday and he's already mad? It usually takes me a month of dating before I'm willing to hang up on my girlfriend and you guys aren't even dating! I'd probably leave this one alone. It sounds like he may need some anger management classes.
2006-10-23 14:43:46 · answer #9 · answered by PS 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
obviously this guy you just met is not it because he can't respect your feelings, he probably just wanted a piece of action. have you even thought of going on an oline dating service such as match.com that way you can date outside your home until you are willing to bring them home and it will match your personality levels and compatibility levels and allow you to find someone who has the same situation as you. good luck on your dating situation and hope you find someone special
2006-10-23 14:43:57 · answer #10 · answered by dzjoni 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋