My girlfriend wants to get married, but doesn't want an engagement ring. What should I do?

Question

She says she doesn't want a ring, but I think deep down she does. We've been together for over four years. How much should I spend on a ring? I don't make a whole lot of money, but she's put in time with me and I want to get her something. What do I do?

Answer 1

You are so on the right track, and people say Men don't know anything.... Your girlfriend def, wants a ring... she probably knows that your strapped for cash, which is why she says she doesn't want one. She really just wants to get married to you. There is no set amount you have to spend, but def get her something. You can always upgrade in a few years. I think you are on the right track, she does want a ring so try to get her anything, anything at all and believe me she will love it and love you for going above and beyond. Congrats

Answer 2

I don't want an engagement ring either.

If she said she doesn't want a ring then you need to respect that. Some women really do not want a ring. Don't spend more than you can afford. Most rings are the equivalent of several months' salary. The cheap ones are still expensive and the stones are incredibly tiny and not worth the pricetags.

If you must get her an engagement gift, get her something that she has said she actually wants that is not expensive.

Answer 3

If you want to marry her, then you need to just get her a ring and ask her...you don't have to spend a lot of money, just make sure it's special. Make sure you know whether or not she would like white or yellow gold and what general styles of ring she likes. When my husband and I were first talking about marriage, I told him the same thing, that I didn't need a ring (because he had just bought a house and started a new job), but deep down I really did want one and he knew it. He spent about $2500 on my ring (no alot by most engagement ring standards) and it is absolutely perfect! Plus, remember that you can always "add" to the ring later--that's a very romantic anniversay present. Good luck!

Answer 4

She's probably worried about money...I know I was. It's kind of trained into our minds that women have to have a huge diamond engagement rings that costs thousands, so I told my now husband "no ring". But, I was liar. :-) (I just didn't want to stress him, we were both earning min wage at the time and were in school)

Buy what you can afford. Talk it over with her if you'd like. Explain that you really want to get her something and you want her to have that symbol of your commitment. If money is an issue, be honest with her, after all, you are getting married.

I went to the store and found a ring I ADORED that was only $350. I went online and found the same ring for $100. It's Tanzanite and White Gold....not traditional, but perfect for me. I went through ice.com and even used a coupon. (I had no problems doing it, so heck, whatever)

Remember, you can always "upgrade" later. We know that in time my ring will wear out, so after we are established and making good money we plan on getting something of a better quality. I will then give my original e-ring to my daughter when she is old enough.

Congrats, btw!

Answer 5

Heave a huge sigh of relief!

What's the hurry to spend your limited resources on a very expensive token? Don't cave into the pressure to get one just because its expected. You can always buy a cheap one now and a more expensive one later when you have more money to throw around. Be thankful that she is taking the pressure off.

Talk to her and be observant and find out if deep down she really wants a diamond and then save up and surprise her when you are ready.

Answer 6

I didnt want one either. We have been together for 4.5 yrs now, with a son and i figured it was just time to get married- i told him that it wasnt necessary to get me a big glamorous ring, but a nice weeding ensemble- even if it is a year away (we plan on getting cheaper rings first until the year anniversary, when we willl have more money.

if she says no ring right now, just make the wedding ring unforgettable... its nice to see that another woman isnt materialistic! some women wont even agree to marriage without at least about a caret on their hands, if not more.

Answer 7

She probably understand that since you don't make a lot, she doesn't want to pressure you to spend too much money or make a big deal out of the engagement, just get her something nice as a token of how you feel for her. I'm sure that she's be more than happy with whatever you give her because she loves you.

Answer 8

You know what I said the same thing. We lived in seperate cities. He came out for the wedding but when he actually proposed. He proposed online, I told him I didn't need a engagement ring. He could buy me one only if he had some extra money saved u, I didn't want him to go out of his way to save up money for my engagement ring. He went out and bought one anyway and I'm glad he did. I was overcome by so many emotions when he presented it to me. I was happy and excited I gave him a big hug and covered him in kisses and then I hit him because I knew he really saved up for this very expensive ring. I love my engagement ring and I'm glad he bought it for me. I suggest you buy her one she'll thank you in the end

Answer 9

She really does want a ring, she just feels bad because you don't make enough to buy the ring of her dreams. Buy her what ever you can, and tell her one day you will buy her a ring that more appropriately shows how much you love her.

Answer 10

Your girlfriend does not want a ring. Bend your knee and ask her to marry you, present her with a red rose. You have limited resources and she seems to be a sensile person. Get married and buy her something expensive when you are well-off financially, maybe a diamond on a 5th year annniversary.