Anybody dealt with this before? I don't know if it is still necessary or what. I am from the United States and my religion is Christian if anybody needs to know that.
2006-10-23 14:29:21 · 17 answers · asked by Anna 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Don't think of it as a formality.... If you get married with your fiance, then he will be part of your family - your parents included. Wouldn't it be nice gesture for your fiance to take it over with your parents first? It's more of a courtesy and smoothing out the transition, rather than rules and procedures.
Hopefully, he is now a familier face to your parents.... so that it won't be a total surprise to your parents.
Is it necessary? No. Does he/do you need your parents permission? No. Can you not get married if he/she said no? Absolutely not.... Would it be a good sign of how your married life will be.... I think so.
2006-10-23 14:40:02 · answer #1 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck No it is not a must. That is between the man and woman. I married two times the first time was in 1972 and then again in 1992 and I did not ask the parents of either wife.
If I had asked my second wife's parents, they would have said no. They still hate me to this day. They thought I was too old for their daughter, I was 40 and she was 23. I am now 54 and she is 37.
2006-10-23 21:37:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not a must, but it shows respect to the parents and would probably a great cudo on your part. If you are looking to start off on good terms with the parents and have them respect YOU, I think it would be to your benefit to ask them. Besides respect it also shows courtesy, both of these seems to be extinct nowadays
2006-10-23 21:49:55 · answer #3 · answered by pete47130 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I asked my father in law it showed how respectful I was and the good manners and etiquette I was brought up with. No it is not required but the father in law gets a great deal of pleasure knowing his child will be well taken care of. I would like whoever is going to marry my daughter to do it to me.
2006-10-25 02:04:46 · answer #4 · answered by tazachusetts 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy, but i thought I'd put my two cents in anyways lol...My brother did it when he asked his girlfriend to marry him, and in my opinion it's very respectful of your man to do and it shows the parents that he is a gentleman. I wouldnt listen to the person above who said "it ended in divorce" If it's you thats tying the knot (which it sounds like it is) i hope you have a very happy marriage!
2006-10-23 21:41:16 · answer #5 · answered by BroncosGirl6 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you are a guy, you are definitely not ready for marriage. a man on the other hand, a challenge with such a caliber will not be problem. man can do it all, he is universal, he can cook, clean, defend his family, shoot an M-16 rifle and love his wife unconditionally. I've dealt with it.
2006-10-23 21:42:26 · answer #6 · answered by Eryc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its only respect / for a man to ask any parent/s for there permission to take there Daughters hand in marriage.
I hope this helps
2006-10-23 21:53:21 · answer #7 · answered by beneryberlecco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm, I'm not a guy but I do have recent experience.My husband, then boyfriend, asked my dad. It really made my dad feel good and we all had a great party when he said 'yes' (granted permission!). Totally unecessary but fun all the same.
2006-10-23 21:39:22 · answer #8 · answered by Carmen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would depend on what sort of girl you want to ask to marry you. Is she likely to be offended if you ask her parents first for permission. If she would be okay with it then I would ask the parents as it makes them feel that you care enough to bother with their consent.
2006-10-23 21:38:55 · answer #9 · answered by auburn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did. It is the traditional thing to do, but not absolutely required. I must say I was far more nervous asking my in-laws than actually proposing.
2006-10-24 11:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by Adoptive Father 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋