how do you keep up your confidence when you are a very negative person but its not your fault because its the way you were raised, I give up on everything I do, I get turned down for a job and I give up looking for a job, I dont do so good in college so I give up on going and I just keep doing that with everything in life, How do I keep a positive attitude?
2006-10-23 14:22:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Like everyone has said, no matter how hard, no matter how much energy it takes, you just can not quit. Quitting is easy, which is why so many people do it.
Prove everyone wrong. Really accomplish something. Stay in school.
2006-10-23 20:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by ZenPenguin 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Find something you like to do. For example I like to exercise, watch movies, and play video games. Your probably asking yourself " how is this going to help me"? Well when you take some time out of your busy life and do what you like the most then you release stress. The much stress you release the better you're going to feel. Second I will advise you to make a list of your daily routine on a pad or whatever, This will make you more organize than ever. Remember don't exceed on whatever your doing, balance your time. After doing all this you will see things more clearly and you will notice that your confidence will be even greater. As for you being raised in a certain lifestyle which made you (in your words) negative, just remember change is possible, but first you have to believe in yourself. Keep your head up!
2006-10-23 14:34:27 · answer #2 · answered by Loving Life, Always, and Forever 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to build yourself up. You could start by taking a self improvement course at a community college. It will be the first step in feeling good about yourself. Then you could take a night course in something you really enjoy. If you have small accomplishments in your life, they build you up slowly.
There is a saying here where I live....goes like this...."you can eat a whole elephant, one bite at a time".
There is no problem without a solution. You can also read some books on positive thinking. They will help alot. And get plenty of exercise, it cleans out the head.
2006-10-23 15:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by elanabutcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should know your strength, the things you are good at. From then, you can exercise your confidence knowing you know it very well. Don't dwell on the negative side of life, look for the positive ones, believe that you will have one. if you haven't got it yet, keep searching. Don't lose hope, dear. Something is in store for you. pray to God for guidance and strength. Good luck!
2006-10-23 14:32:18 · answer #4 · answered by shandelaine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this a attempting time for the unlucky ones who've misplaced jobs, misplaced careers, misplaced they are independence of self valued at. i shouldn't have a measure, however i did have a well paying activity. i will be able to now not inform you to feel confident on the grounds that u generally have heard it adequate. i am simply grateful for having a roof over my head and a having a meal fromtime to time. a few persons available in the market do not also have that.
2016-09-01 01:42:05 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I understand your situation, and that is what it is for you can change it if you really what to, you are in a slump.
One is confident by being that way - by seeking a solution to any challenges that are put in front of them. One cannot, and I cannot emphasize that enough, blame others for their mishaps. Each of us has had something happen in our life's that would have stopped us from doing what was best if we had let it, but we didn't.
How one is raised, is only 1% of who you are, so the other 99% is you - what do you want to do with your life, where do you want to go? Again, do not blame others for your misfortunes, you are stronger than you think - see assistance and work at it, the world is a beautiful place. There are those of us who have been mentally and physically abused, have some handicaps both physically and learning wise, which we have learned to overcome - it was not easy but the end results have been amazing.
You MUST take one step at a time to accomplish your goal - if that is to get up in the morning with a smile on your face and keep it there all day, then that is what you do. The next day the same, pretty soon it becomes a habit and you will notice a change. Then you move onto another goal and follow the same steps. Bottom line, you cannot let someone else pull you down unless YOU WANT them to - you have then given them the power or okay to do what every they want to you and you have no one to blame but yourself.
You believe you are a negative person because that is what you want - do you realize that is a form of abuse to others. By making yourself feel this way, you are intentionally manipulating the feelings of others towards you, which is a form of emotional abuse.
You have already taken the first step to getting out of the rut by writting about your situation, then you are asking for help which you can get from a qualified councellor. There are many wonderful helpers out in the community who would be more than pleased to get you through the second step and onward - you can do it if you really want to.
Most communities, especially cities and large towns, have many different sources of help, such as:
If you feel desperate and need help immediately, you can phone or go to the emergency department of your local hospital.
The front page of your telephone book may have the phone number of a community service referral agency.
Your telephone book may also have the number of a crisis hotline that you can call.
Your family doctor can help you find the professional help you need. First, he/she should start by giving you a thorough physical check-up: your problems may not be "all in your head."
A community organization which provides information services may be able to direct you to a mental health clinic in your area.[1]
There are many different kinds of assistance available, and you should be able to find the help you need within your community through the following sources:
Psychiatrist
Your family doctor may refer you to a psychiatrist who is a medical doctor specially trained in the diagnosis and treatment of mental illnesses. He/she may treat your problems with medication or by psychotherapy (sometimes called "talk therapy"), or a combination of both.
Psychologist
You may decide to seek help from a psychologist, and you do not need a referral from your family doctor to do so. A psychologist will have a doctoral degree from a university but not a medical degree. He/she will use counselling and other methods that do not involve the use of medications. If you plan to see a psychologist, you should remember that his/her services are not necessarily fully covered by public health insurance. You may want to find out if some coverage is available through private insurance (for example, your company benefits plan) or through social assistance. You can often find a psychologist by calling your provincial psychological association.
Other Therapist
Your family doctor or a psychiatrist may refer you to a therapist such as a social worker with specialized training. Again, you should be aware that the services offered may not be covered by an insurance plan.
Self-help Group
You may find it helpful to join a self-help group. These groups provide the mutual support of people who have all had similar experiences. For example, there are groups for people suffering from depression, grief, the trauma of sexual assault, eating disorders, and phobias (a phobia is an irrational, crippling fear of an object, animal or situation). Your local Canadian Mental Health Association branch or another community agency can tell you if there is a local self-help group that can meet your needs. You can also find out if there is a national organization dealing with your problem and request its newsletter.
Other Community Services
You may find that some of your problems can be solved by assistance from agencies outside the mental health system. Sometimes, practical help, such as home nursing care, Meals On Wheels or subsidized door-to-door transportation for people unable to walk, will greatly reduce the stress in your life, either as a care-giver or as a disabled person.
Help From Friends And Others
Sometimes, the help of a trusted family member, a close friend or a member of the clergy for your religion can be a source of support. People close to you can also point you in the direction of the help you need.
Other sources of information include:
books about your problems, available at your public library or local bookstore,
films, videos and audio tapes,
courses and workshops offered through community centres, secondary schools, colleges and universities. [1]
You can review the following sites for assistance:
www.webmd.com
www.cmha.ca
I hope this helps - I wish you the best.
2006-10-23 15:10:29 · answer #6 · answered by Ghostbear 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
psalm 23, 34 and believe what you read-ask God for that daily grace to help you believe in yourself and ask for his strength to give you the gift of confidence! you might like www.greatday.com trust me it's little passages filled with positive thoughts and ideas-you will grow more confident! be brave, be brilliant coz no one else can be that for you except you! it's like that story from star wars-yoda and luke skywalker: yoda tells luke to pull out the x wing from the swamp-and luke's struggling-so yoda does it in a jiffy to which Luke says: " i don't believe it" and Yoda says: "that's why you fail".....deep isn't it? so just do your best and think only the best outcomes no matter what you are doing!
2006-10-23 14:34:57 · answer #7 · answered by ria k 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hang out with people who think you are fabulous! Try to be busy - dont spend too much time alone with yourself thinking negative thoughts.
2006-10-23 14:30:32 · answer #8 · answered by krisr22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will say this much, just try going to chirch and talking to god, he will help you become a more upbeat person, as i am because a am a recovering addict.
2006-10-23 14:27:26 · answer #9 · answered by Brody W 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My best friends!!! And... My Lord and savior of course!!!
2006-10-23 14:30:06 · answer #10 · answered by chickincharge02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋