her aunt wants her to keep going to church and she doesn't want to.She does not want to be a christian is what she told the aunt,
I am a pagan and told her it was entirely her choice what she belives and what path she would like to walk. However how do u keep the family at peace and protect a 11 yrold decision???
2006-10-23 14:09:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I can understand your aunt exposing her to her viewpoint, but enough is enough. 11 is old enough to know when something isn't working for you. In some families, mine included, it would be hard to get everyone to see my viewpoint, so that's why I keep quiet about it. It seems to be a larger issue with yours since you are backing her up. I've been in her situation and the worst possible thing your aunt could do is to force her to keep going. Being a pagan, you're probably knowledgeable about different religions much more so than your aunt. Maybe you should tell her about the different ones and then let her decide for herself what she believes.
2006-10-23 14:25:17 · answer #1 · answered by Kaiser32 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain your feelings about forcing a religion on a child to her aunt in a rational manner, if she can't understand that then I ask you, how important is it for her to be in the child's life for every day events, If Aunt isn't peaceful, would you want that around the girl? Your dd is a very smart girl and has voiced her opinion very well. It seems to me that if aunt can't handle being told not to undermine your teachings then she should be a regular fixture to holiday celebrations and not in the everyday life of the child. If only for the fact that Aunty is undermining your athourity.
2006-10-23 21:17:39 · answer #2 · answered by Very Pagan Nightshade 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's a dd, I wonder? By 11 I wasn't making my kids go to church anymore. We've got a Bible in the house, they can read it if they want. If they can read Douglas Adams and Homer they should be able to handle King James, right? At any rate, she's at the age of reason, she can decide. If her aunt doesn't like it, well, that's too bad. She'll get over it.
2006-10-24 10:39:06 · answer #3 · answered by kaplah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourage the aunt that forcing the girl to go to church will only push her further away from the Christian faith. It's pretty much true; the kids I knew who went to Catholic school who were intelligent, moral, and not on drugs became atheists, agnostics, or Pagans; the remaining Catholics committed all sorts of sinful acts.
2006-10-23 21:20:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either let her choose for herself or don't let her practice any religion right now.I didn't say don't let her read or study if she wants to,just explain to everyone that you think she should wait until she's a bit older to decide if she wants to go to church or cast,or whatever.It's YOUR decision,what is allowed,not theirs.Religion should remain a personal choice.I let my 11 year old decide for himself,and he chooses nothing at this time.You should see the expressions on my inlaws faces when he talks about "God"...
2006-10-23 21:14:35 · answer #5 · answered by kimberli 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one should force religion on anyone of any age. The child appears to be smarter than the aunt.
2006-10-23 21:12:23 · answer #6 · answered by Sanmigsean 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dd = Dear Daughter? 'Her Aunt' = your sister or sister-in-law?
If it's your child, what's the big deal?
2006-10-23 21:16:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let the cristitians brainwash her.
2006-10-23 21:14:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋