Last Sunday I told this girl that I've been crazy over for the past 3 years how I felt. I told her how I think she is perfect, beautiful on the outside and absolutly amazing on the inside. I never thought I would ever have a chance with her because she could get any guy that she wanted, but I decided to go for it.
She told me that she didn't want a relationship in her senior year and that it wasn't because of me that she didn't, she said that its everyone. I don't feel like that's a lie, but I don't think it's a good enough answer.
I feel like this girl is the one. I feel like it doesn't matter where we go to college or who we meet, that if it's right, if it meant to be, then we make it work. I tolf her that and she really didn't say anything.
I've written out this long letter about how I feel. About how I think she's the one. How I think that every girl says that they will go to college and then meet the right guy and they never do. Telling her that she's looking at the
2006-10-23 14:00:58 · 18 answers · asked by radchad25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
right guy right now; the guy standing in front of her. I put in there that I can get over her, even though she's my first love, if she just tells me the truth. I just want her to come out with it; come out with why she thinks it won't work. I just want her to tell me if it's the looks, or if its the personality or whatever it is; I just want to know. If she just tells me the God honest truth, then I can move on. It won't be easy, but I can move on. I can't keep going like this not really knowing.
So, should I give her the letter? Or should I let it go and maybe forever lose my first love??
2006-10-23 14:01:37 · update #1
My history with this girl is simple.
We met in Freshman year. I sat behind her in 3rd period English class. We hung out a throughout freshman year, but after the year ended we didn't; we go to different schools.
The way our school district is set up we have two high schools and one "Freshman School." They did this because we are such a large district. I go to one high school and she goes to the other high school.
I had strong feelings for her through 9th grade and there after. But after a while I got over her, or so I thought.
At the end of junior year, she called me and we went to lunch and got caught up; Every feeling and more came back and they have been spinning in my head ever since June 4th.
I asker her out and we went to the park for a few hours and really had a great time and we hung out a little through the summer, but once school started again, we both have been so busy we haven't hung out. We mainly talk on the phone and internet.
She's just amazing!
2006-10-23 14:02:08 · update #2
awww...so cute I really don't understand what this girl's problem is! That's so sweet =)
First of all, a letter won't solve anything. Talk to her face-to-face. I know you already have, but maybe there's something you don't know. You said you felt her answer wasn't good enough. Tell her that! Tell her that you don't understand. (hell, i don't understand...) Maybe something happened to her that made her decide to not have a relationship her senior year. Just talk to her, say you're there for her if she wants to talk to you. If she's as great as you make her sound, she will explain. Good luck and don't give up!
2006-10-23 14:11:49 · answer #1 · answered by Bethany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take her answer as being no at this time. She probably is not ready to settle down yet. Sorry if you keep writing after she gave you her answer you sound like a stalker. Save your pride. Love isn't really that difficult and when you find it, it will respond back to you without complications. I wish you luck. It will take a while to heal but remember where one door closes another will open. There will be many people that you meet that you will test to see if they are the one. It's life, there are joys there are dissapointments. You have to kiss many frogs before you find the princess. So get out there and start kissing.
2006-10-23 21:06:45 · answer #2 · answered by queenmaeve172000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her the letter and get your answer. i hope it is the one that you are looking for. but if not you are going to have to back away and let things happen as they may.. she apparently cares for you or she wouldn't call and talk to you on the internet.. can't you guys just go out as friends and not boy friend girl friend.. will be kinda what you want because you will get to see her now and then and it will be what she wants no boy friend.. she didn't say she didn't want to be friends.. you may have to settle for friendship of some kind until she is ready.. a rushed relationship will never work so take your time and let her have the time that she apparently needs.
May want to take out the part in your letter that is she don't want you now that you can get over her.. and put in can we just remain friends and go and do things once in a while to just keep in touch as friends.
good luck and i hope things go your way.. she just isn't ready right now.. up to you if you play the waiting game on her.
2006-10-23 21:10:48 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give her the letter. In my experiences I've said the same thing to males that I'm not interested in dating and that whole sort of stuff. Really I thought I wasn't but I also wasn't interested in dating that particular guy. However, if you don't give her the letter, she may never know how truly u feel for her. And hopefully if she turns you down you'll still be friends.
2006-10-23 21:06:29 · answer #4 · answered by moonstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to break this to you, but if she said that she doesn't want a relationship in her senior year, she probably meant it — especially if she ignored all that sweet stuff you said. Give her the letter if you want, but don't expect much to come out of it.
I can see where she's coming from, though. She's obviously really focused on college and doesn't want a distraction. I respect that, even though I'm feeling for you.
2006-10-23 21:03:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, she just likes things the way they are now. Maybe she's been hurt before. Leave it the way it is why ruin what is already a good thing? Just don't push her, because if you do, you will be pushing her away and then you will be kicking yourself for setting yourself up for something that really was not meant to be. Good Luck!
2006-10-23 21:11:06 · answer #6 · answered by Christine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I told my ex that i didnt want a relationship in senior as well. He kept buggin me and eventually we went out. After a while my grades turned to crap and i had to drop out of school. Im not saying it was his fault, but if i had concentrated on school i mite still be there. You should respect what she wants.
2006-10-23 21:09:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not controlling your emotions bro. If you wanna snag this chick, play it cool. I have been there! Back off and chill...you probably made her piss herself. Make her laugh and WANNA hang out with you. The man upstairs gave you 2 feet...take one step at a time.
2006-10-23 21:12:15 · answer #8 · answered by pastor_fuzz_1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, I'd give it to her. In about twenty years, when you're married to a great lady and have a fine family, and she is lving all alone in some drafty walkup in New York with two other spinsters.
2006-10-23 21:03:50 · answer #9 · answered by Jim P 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she said she doesn't want a relationship, then she doesn't. Don't make it more complicated with a really long letter.
2006-10-23 21:03:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋