iv'e been involve with this guy for 2 months and i really do love him, but known him over a year now, sad to say he has moved out of state because of family reasons, now i want to send him something, iv'e already got him a really nice romantic card and sending him some pics of me, but i feel like i need to send more nice things to him, any suggestions? The other thing is he wants me to move with him but i've told him iv'e always wanted to move out of state, but what's keeping me here is my mom, what should i do, (i'm in my early thirties with no kids, HELP)
2006-10-23 13:53:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You question has two parts,isn't it? So, first I'll answer the latter one. You are very lucky that you have found somebody who loves you so much and I can understand that you are concerned about your mom which is really good. Now what you need to decide first that what is your priority. Do you think that you are ready to move in with that guy for a long term. Don't take me wrong, I know he is very good but then you are involved with him only for 2 months. So, what I would suggest you is that don't rush for anything. If you take all the steps right, this relationship can be very much succesful. So ask yourself that are you really happy to move in with him. Perhaps you two should spend a month or two just talking to each other on phone. After 2 months, if your relationship is still the same and if you miss each other the same way you are doing now, then go ahead and join him. And don't forget your mom in between, make sure that it doesn't affect her. Its not easy to mantain balance on both side I understand, but if done smartly, its very easy. Now that is just my opinion, but the decision will be your you see...
Now about the gift.... You see, there are people who can't afford to buy gift for their partner but still they also fall in love. So as far as I think, a gift doesn't matter. But still I can understand your emotions that you want to express your feeling with a gift. You should give him something which he can always keep with him. But buy something of his choice not yours...
And best of luck from my side and please keep giving me updates about hows going with two of you....
2006-10-23 14:41:10 · answer #1 · answered by manzician 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm in my late 30s and I have a great daughter who is 17 and a wonderful husband. You have to take chances in life. It is so sort. God did not put you on this earth to live unhappy. He put you here for a reason. Your mother will be fine, it will take a while but she will come around. My own daughter is getting ready for college and I'm proud of her. I do not want to hold her back in life. I think your mother will feel the same way. You just need to take some time for your self do something for you and if it don't work you will at least know. Otherwise you will always wonder what if......Take a chance and go visit him and take him the card instead of mailing it...
2006-10-23 14:23:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Life is short, and if you love this man and he loves you. You could always go and take a vacation and feel things out. Personally, I would not up root myself for a boyfriend. He would have to have a commitment in mind for me to move to another state. Such as marriage. I would send a card and some pictures. I am not sure what your mom has to do with this, is she sick and you take care of her? Otherwise, I would look at it like this your mom has lead her life and you need to live yours. Good luck and God bless.
2006-10-23 13:57:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow. Hard question and I had a similiar situation. My family keeps me grounded but moving far away from them would not be good for my mental health. In the end, you have to look at the big picture and consider your heart and your health above all else. I know that seems like an easy way to deal with it and I know it is not. Good luck in your decision-making.
2006-10-23 13:59:13 · answer #4 · answered by music143007 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that's the most time anyone has said or typed some form of the word serious in a paragraph. I seriously think you deserve an award.
2016-05-22 02:56:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO! You are 30! No time to waste! Your biological clock is ticking away. Will you be happy if you become one of those sad women who watch sex in the city every night trying to identify and wondering why you dont have clothes that HOT! Go! Post your wedding pictures!
2006-10-23 13:59:24 · answer #6 · answered by vanity planning 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is nothing stopping you from visiting your mother and calling her every day you could build your life with this man and im sure your mum would want you to be happy life is to short to hang around go get your man good luck oh and you could always send him a request for a door key im sure he would be more than happy with that
2006-10-23 13:57:10 · answer #7 · answered by lady_luck 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is nothng romantic then a card. its really good u sending him a card, n some of yo pic's. send him romantic mails too.
and about your mum- try to convince her, tell her you want to try out new place, or tell her directly that u love that guy,and wana be wit him.. im sure she will try to understand your feelings and emotions..
2006-10-23 14:00:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
send him something that he liked and that u guys share, like something to do with an inside joke
or make a scrapbook with the pics of u and put sayings around it
2006-10-23 13:56:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well If you want to Move then Do it you may regret it and may not have another Cance. you could always go back and Visit your Mom
2006-10-23 13:56:39 · answer #10 · answered by The Messiah 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋