My Fiance has been taking oxy for 3 years now, he wants to quit but all his friend do it so they always call him and ask him if he wants some and if he can find them everywhere. i dont know what to do can someone please help me so we can move on with our lives, and be happy???
2006-10-23 13:38:17 · 11 answers · asked by ar87kb04 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
So like i was saying my fiancee takes oxy and he has been for 3 years. He has went to the dr. they reffered him to a methadone clinic, and he got down to 5mg and stopped taking anything for 6 days, he was real depressed and everything, he had the jitters, no appetite, he would cry out of no where, then his stupid friends called asking to find them some so he called and got some for his friend, and of course couldn't resist getting him for himself...I have threatened to leave him, i have been patient, i have been there for him when he needs a shoulder to cry on i have done everything in my power to help this man, but he still will not stop taking them. i am tried of him choosing them over me, and it is not like i can just leave i have 2 kids with him... I dont know what to do, i need some suggestions from someone who has went through this before and was successful in the end because this oxy stuff is ruining my life......
2006-10-23 16:27:54 · update #1
From experience, if he doesn't want to quit, then he won't. But, a little incentive of him quitting would be that he will have you, and his children. He took the first step in getting rehab/methadone, but he needs to be strong and not associate with his friends. I had a friend who was on them, and he quit....but his dealer would occasionally call him. It was as simple as this phone call of easy drugs that would make him go back. And the point of him getting the drugs for his friends is a double bad....it puts him at risk of being busted. He needs to realize that he is risking of the love of you and his children....and then he may wise up.
2006-10-25 09:18:19 · answer #1 · answered by dyzza 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he really wants to get off Oxycontin he may need help. Oxycontin is an opioid and is highly addictive. There are medications now that can prevent withdrawal symptoms, reduce cravings and blunt the high from Oxy. He'll need to be evaluated but someone who can diagnose substance abuse or dependence and make appropriate treatment recommendations.
Effective treatment often begins with Suboxone or Subutex which allows for a safe detoxification. Follow up often consists of therapy (usually cognitive behavioral) and maintenance treatment with Naltrexone. Support groups like NA can also help.
Of course, he will have to want to get treatment. If he is addicted and his addiction is out of control, you may have to put some distance between you and him until or unless something changes.
2006-10-23 13:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by PedXing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's been taking them for 3 years he's develpoed an addiction to them, physically and psychologically. The first thing to do is to find new friends. If he stays around those "friends" that are still taking them he will not be able to stop.
Second, find a pain clinic and see about getting him on methadone. Methadone is used to wean people off other narcotics and heroin.
Also: if these "friends" are taking these recreationally then chances are they are obtaining them illegally and they will take your fiancee dow with them if they get caught in a police sting operation. Run far away and seek professional help fast.
2006-10-23 13:52:43 · answer #3 · answered by swomedicineman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's saying he wants to quit but says yes to oxy when he's offered... that means he's not ready to quit. if he truly wants to quit his habit, he will try harder and succeed in doing so.
you need to get him away from the source/ supply and be as supportive and as positive as you can to him. encourage him to quit- show him you believe in him and that he can survive without it. be strong and patient for him. if all else fails, threaten to leave him if he doesn't stop. make him choose between you and oxy.
here in the east coast, there's this show called "intervention". it's a show about people (young and old) with different types of addictions and how the substance counselors and the families help the abuser "kick the habit". look it up for some pointers.
helping someone with a "habit" isn't easy at all. the key is to be very strong for him and especially for yourself.
2006-10-23 14:04:30 · answer #4 · answered by mnm34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I've heard is about one of the worst things people can be addicted to when it comes to stopping.
If he wants to stop and if it is at all possible for him to stop without rehab, no matter how drastic and difficult this may be he has to stop being with the people who use it. That's the very first thing he needs to do if he honestly wants to stop. He may have to just realize, though, that it could be more than he can deal with himself and get rehab.
This sounds harsh, but I think I'd re-think the whole relationship if he can't stop taking it.
2006-10-23 13:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will need to get medical help to get off of the Oxy. He can try alone but the physical withdrawls can be very harsh. He also needs to get into some sort of treatment program to help him stay off once he detoxes. First and foremost though is the need for him to want to quit. if you try to force him it won't work. I hope you can help him in his search for recovery. Remember it is a one day at a time process so please be patient and hang in there it can be done it just takes time. Good luck to you both!!
2006-10-23 13:49:17 · answer #6 · answered by miss_nikki214 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first thing you HAVE to do is move and get away from his friends! they wont let him quit,ever! then if he is hooked really bad then go to a dr and get on suboxone for a little while,it really works. and if its extreme try a methadone clinic, but try something dont let it keep going on until something terrible happens and you know it will if you dont! but get away from those bad people and quit letting them drag him down you guys dont need anyone but each other! with friends like that who needs enemies?
2006-10-23 13:46:01 · answer #7 · answered by symbionic1975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is going to have to make that decision himself, you can't force someone to stop doing something, you can however make consequences for his actions for example if the Oxycontin is more important then you, then you can leave and do better anyway, catch my drift??? sometimes it just takes the threat of leaving to make someone realize what is really important to them. I know you love him, and if he feels the same way about you then he will make the right decision, good luck kiddo
2006-10-23 13:43:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs help getting off of them like a support group and maybe to go through therepy.
2006-10-23 13:41:09 · answer #9 · answered by fancy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rehab
2006-10-23 13:48:13 · answer #10 · answered by Buddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋