okayy its my boyfriend's mom's birthday and her family is going through some hard times they just had to move out of their house but they may move back but as for now they are living in a hotel, they aren't exactly the wealthiest people but the manage and for her birthday i was thinking to give her 100$ or 125 $ but now that i think about it she may get the impression that i think she is poor because one i don't have a job two i am only 14 i am also giving her a 25 dollar 14 kt. necklace
2006-10-23 13:33:48 · 8 answers · asked by wutsupdog345 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think she would be satisfied with just the neckalace there would be no need for the money she will know that you care just as much this way and her feelings wouldnt be hurt
2006-10-23 14:15:51 · answer #1 · answered by SAHM and proud of it 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay you definetly dont want to upstage his mother, especially if they are going through hard times. I think the necklace is more than enough for a gift. Since you are so young, although she will gladly accept the money inside she will feel pretty bad that she has to take your hard earned money. The gesture and thoughts are very nice. On the other hand she may not look at the situation in that light and really need the extra help. Best advice is to talk to your boyfriend and see what he has to say. He would have the best idea on how his mother would react to the gift. You clearly have the nicest intentions and dont want to step on any toes. He is lucky to have you.
2006-10-23 20:52:55 · answer #2 · answered by mesara808 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her the necklace. She'll appreaciate it more and as you say you don't have 100 bucks on your own.
People never expect children to give them money,aand feel bad about that.
You never said but if she can't afford tolive in the huse how can she live in a much more expensive motel.
2006-10-23 20:38:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that sounds very sweet of you. She should accept gracefully...I don't think you're calling her poor! It sounds like you're trying to give her a nice birthday. If she tries to tell you that you gave her those things to make her feel poor, then very gently tell her that you care about her and you wanted to show her that. Tell her the gifts have to do with how much you like her and respect her, and nothing more. Be very genuine when you tell her this.
Good luck!
2006-10-23 20:41:13 · answer #4 · answered by Joy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her the necklace. Bake her a cake if you'd like to. It's inappropriate to do more. You have a good heart though.
2006-10-23 22:00:26 · answer #5 · answered by Ceajae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think at 14 you should be giving an adult that kind of money, yes i think she would be very offended. i know i would. give her the necklace and some flowers, she would like that.
2006-10-23 20:40:17 · answer #6 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't give her money give the necklace and maybe buy her dinner
2006-10-23 20:42:25 · answer #7 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey do Wat you do think about it what would she need for another day or too but what will/can she cherish for the rest of her life
2006-10-23 21:36:15 · answer #8 · answered by CrEaTiVe_ThINkeR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋