Does anyone ever feel like something is wrong with them or that maybe no one truly likes them even if they have no indication. I have lots of friends, not many close, and I think I tend to be over sensitive, I don't know how to get over this. I feel like people are "acting" around me and I worry about ridiculous things. I find myself playing dumb, pretending I don't know things I do so I don't inadvertently make someone angry. Then I get worried because I don't want people to think I am stupid. I find that I avoid going out when people call me, and then, of course they eventually stop calling. I don't know what to do. Any advice?
2006-10-23 13:07:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I know how you feel about the playing "dumb", I do that too. I pretend I don't know this or that and I don't know why I do this. I don't want to appear stupid, but I act like that. Very strange.
Spending so many years depressed, in and out of hospitals, left me with little self-esteem. I had to start from the bottom and work my way up the steep ladder. I am now working, and was introduced to the 'working world' after nine years of mental illness. Luckily on the correct medication (finally), I am functioning reasonably well now. But once again, I am struggling with building my damaged self-confidence/esteem back up.
I am always on the defence, and with my job I have monthly reviews. Always expecting the negative, I am shocked by the positive. I dread these monthly reviews, I feel always on the defensive. My pdoc has pointed out how sensitive I am with things..someone says something and I take it the wrong way. He says I am a "Cluster C" personality type - perfectionistic, holds down senior jobs (supervisor/manager), expect a lot from oneself and overall very sensitive. I tend to agree with him.
I am bipolar II. It's a struggle even being on the correct meds.
2006-10-23 13:57:53 · answer #1 · answered by been there, done that 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you're not feeling well.....
You may be experiencing general to serious depression, social/general anxiety disorder or possibly bipolar disorder.
It's difficult to say, based on the small set of info you gave.
I'm not sure how bad this is yet, but if it's to the point where it's become emotionally painful and you want to put an end to it, I would suggest you see a Psychologist who specializes in behavioral therapy.
I am bipolar and have always felt the way you described and sometimes still feel it now. I eventually got to a point where I started going to therapy sessions, with good Dr's. Initially, they spend a few hours evaluating what you think it wrong and will ask you a lot of questions. Once the Dr has enough info, they'll be able to structure a therapy plan and possibly medication.
The key is that what is going on in your head is probably different from what's really going on outside and around you. Sometimes we'll need a Dr. to understand exactly what we are feeling and have them teach us why, what is really going on and how we can tell the difference, hence the cure.
For most people in your shoes, the hardest thing to do is get help. Don't keep this to yourself - tell everyone that you trust and hopefully you will find someone that can help you soon and you'll be on the road to happiness.
Good luck
2006-10-23 13:27:11 · answer #2 · answered by Altruist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I felt that as a kid and now as a teenager. You should try and figure out who you are. If you are smart, then show it, not in a boastful way, but dont be afraid to show you know your stuff. If you love, lets say movies, then get some pals and go to the movies at least once a month as a tradition, or whatever. Just find who you can depend on and really get to know them. That way if you feel left out then you can turn to that person and know what someone cares for you. Hope this helps! =]
2006-10-23 13:53:05 · answer #3 · answered by Lizzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like some generalized anxiety. Don't worry, I actually used to suffer from something similar. It helped me to focus on breathing (learn some breathing exercises) and try to systematically relax muscles that were tensing up. Try to relax and learn to believe in yourself. Sometime exercise is known to help with self-confidence. Don't worry, to some extent, everyone feels the way you do.
2006-10-23 13:16:13 · answer #4 · answered by darkcrono525 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!, I feel the same way, you are not the only one. You just have to not let anybody wail over ya, and maybe try to find some new friends. But remember you are not alone.
2006-10-23 15:12:20 · answer #5 · answered by stephen 1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's everyone. The best thing you can do for yourself is to stop caring about other peoples' opinions and focus on you being happy with who you are.
2006-10-23 13:17:08 · answer #6 · answered by airborne_clay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. Your friends may think you have self confidence problems and when you stop worrying what everyone is thinking about you, you will have more fun and so will they! Cheer up!
2006-10-23 13:10:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the exact same way. People have told me i have very low self esteem. Maybe you too?
2006-10-23 13:10:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋