ok well here it is
i have a friend that i have known for 4 years now and recently she has wanted to go out with me and i really do not know
the fact of the matter is that after all of that time i never thought of going out with her
she has alwqays been there for me whenever i have been down and i have had fun with her so i want your opinions
and i do know she will be a good girlfriend but i am afraid that if i do go out wiht her and it does not work that well for us that i will loose the relationship that i have built with her over those 4 years
so tell me should i go out with her ?
2006-10-23 12:58:03 · 22 answers · asked by Patrick Teh III 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can see why you would be nervous about this but my advice to you is: Yes go out with her, at least you know what your going to get, and its not fake, you two are already friends, that's great, plus you already know what you both like to do for fun, and what you like to eat and do for entertainment, so you don't need to waste your time over dinner having small talk. If it seems to weird then talk about it (which you should be able to do since your already friends), and you won't lose anything. Just have "FUN" sounds like you two would be great together!
GOOD LUCK and let us all know how it goes!!!!
2006-10-23 13:05:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, have you told her how much you value her friendship and would hate to lose or negatively alter it?
It doesn't sound as if you're really interested in this girl as something other than a friend. Until you are clear with yourself on that, I wouldn't change this relationship from friendship to possible girlfriend/ boyfriend.
Finally, exactly what does she mean by going out? There are tons of things you can do as friends (concerts, movies, sports events, dinner even) that don't have to mean you are getting more serious about each other.
Loving her as a friend and loving her as your girl are very different.
Good luck!
2006-10-23 20:05:10 · answer #2 · answered by pat z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like her go for it! If you tell her you just want to be friends you still only have a 50/50 chance of the friendship being the same because she will feel rejected and maybe feel different around you anyway. It sounds like the two of you would make a good match. Follow your heart ; ) Good Luck!
2006-10-23 20:03:45 · answer #3 · answered by lottie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is safe to go out it is not like you do not like this person, what might happen is there is no physical attraction, and 1-2 dates will clear that up, and if it does not work you can still be friends.
2006-10-23 20:06:29 · answer #4 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just make a pact with her that no matter what happens with a new relation ship, you will allways be friends.If anything does happen, talk to her and tell her that she is and has been a really great friend and that you dont want to lose her just because bringing the relationship to a new level didn't work.If she really is a good friend, she'll understand.
2006-10-23 20:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by Ivy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can go either way if u break up with her u might loose those 4 years but she might want to stay friends with u
2006-10-23 20:01:26 · answer #6 · answered by Voli_Cuti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are already questioning in your mind- then you will question when you go out. You will be too obsessed with making it work rather than being yourself- which is what she wants. I say stay friends. Why risk a good friendship?
2006-10-23 20:04:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww everyone has that fear of getting with a friend and it not working out.. but if you feel like this could really truly work then go for it. she seems to want to be with you so the decision is really on you whether YOU will make it work or not. if you really feel like this is impossible then dont do it. keep your friendly distance.. she will have to move on sooner or later right
2006-10-23 20:02:31 · answer #8 · answered by love_me_babii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, now that she has asked you out if you reject her it will affect your relationship anyway. She has changed the course of the relationship by asking you out so I would say go for it . I wish you the best of luck!
2006-10-23 20:02:05 · answer #9 · answered by BetteBoop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard one Pat, It sounds like she is a good thing to you. I would tell her like it is and go from there. She may very well be waiting for you to take the first step...
2006-10-23 20:02:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋