I really fancy a girl that I am mates with but I don't know if I should ask her out. If I decide to, what is the best way to do it without screwing up our friendship?
2006-10-23 12:56:46 · 10 answers · asked by Steely 88 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's no guarantee in this situation. You have to REALLY be sure you want to ask and risk the relationship. If you're not sure then don't ask - if you do ask you have to be prepared for the answer to go either way and be able to live with that. Is your desire for this person bigger and worth more to you than what you have already? Think it all over really carefully and how you would feel in each outcome then that will tell you what to do. If you want to try and minimise problems then try not to make a huge deal of it. Even if they seem ok about it but have said no things could become strained - just be careful and be prepared and sure.
2006-10-23 13:02:36 · answer #1 · answered by minotaur 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try just spending more time with her to begin with her and take if from there, if you spend more time with before her asking out then maybe you'll have a better idea of where your friendship will lead. You may realise that it is just best to stay friends or you could realise that she is the love of your life and then you won't think twice about asking her out!
Good Luck!
2006-10-23 13:05:48 · answer #2 · answered by Seriously Though 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i once went through this exact same thing,i was just straightforward with her,sadly we did not get together,i think mostly because i didnt have the guts to tell her sooner and she was moving away,(she did say in a frusterated tone "why didnt you tell me before") lol,stupid me.anyway i made it very clear that our friendship was ultimately the most important thing,and we are still very good friends today,and although nothing happened between us,we both agree that we share a special love for each other,that is unique unto us.also i think its important that you are both mature enough to look past your feelings if it is non reciprocal,meaning its up to you not to ruin it,lol,so if you drop the bomb on her and she needs a little space to think it through dont get all wierd and clingy,respect your friendship first and foremost. good luck,i wish i would said something sooner to mine.
2006-10-23 13:07:53 · answer #3 · answered by seth s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when you do go out with a friend you are putting the friendship on the line and it will be on risk so if you like her for who she is then ask her out
2006-10-23 12:59:24 · answer #4 · answered by Patrick Teh III 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a tuff one
y dont u leave it for now cuz i dont think u want reuin ur friendship
or anther way u can do is joke around wiv her ask what she likes in a lad
and see if the answers matches u
gud luck !!!!!!
2006-10-23 13:05:41 · answer #5 · answered by Katie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty, honesty, honesty..... be prepared to listen to what she has to say and take no as a no if necessary. No pressure means you are likely to keep you friend and don't let it get awkward if she says no
2006-10-23 20:54:12 · answer #6 · answered by break 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya just ask her man. u luky u got the guts to ask a chick. im piss scared!
2006-10-23 13:00:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my gosh,,,,Just ask her if she would like to go out with you,,,Don't make it such a big deal out of it...
2006-10-23 12:59:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask her out to dinner and see how things go
2006-10-23 12:58:40 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go for it, chances are she feels the same way!!!!!
2006-10-23 13:01:15 · answer #10 · answered by Lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋