2006-10-23 12:47:33 · 25 answers · asked by MamaLady 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Let her watch you, it will reassure her.
2006-10-23 12:50:52 · answer #1 · answered by luckyaz128 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try getting Bear In the Big Blue House: Potty Time With Bear. It's a great movie and really helped my daughter get familiar with the potty. She was fully potty trained by 2. Good luck!
2006-10-23 20:39:48 · answer #2 · answered by kameka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and find out what exactly scares her about using the potty...
Some children are frightened because the toilet has a hole that appears dark and makes things disappear in it... They often worry what would happen to them should they fall in... Children are not very stable when first using the toilet and often do fall in getting thier butts wet..
If she is afraid because of the hole getting her a potty chair she can use instead of the big toilet could help.. Show her that she can't fell in by sticking your hand into the toilet (clean it well first) and flush show her your hand won't go down just toilet paper. pee and poop can go down there.. (ok other things get flushed but keep it simple when showing her.) When she sees that she can't get flushed down the hole she may feel more comfortable...
She may be scared because she makes the pee and poop and then when flushed it's gone forever... Like a part of her is going away... Have a talk with her and explain that pee and poop need to be flushed but explain that it's ok she can spend a bit of time saying goodbye to her creation instead of immediately flushing it.. (I know it sounds a bit gross but some kids have seperation anxiety even with tier pee and poop, giving them time to say goodbye and flush it when they are ready helps and soon they will lose interest in saying long goodbyes all the time)
Sometime its the sound of flushing that scares them... If that's the case let her know it's ok to be frightened the toilet does make a weird should.. Take off the tank lid and show her all the interesting bits inside... Show her why the toilet makes a hissing sound (the water refilling she her why it makes the wooshing sound (the water leaving the tank when you flush) etc... If she knows why it makes the sounds it makes she will be less likely to make up scary things in her head to explain the sounds...
I know I wouldn't be too keen to sit on a toilet with my pants around my ankles if I thought the hissing and wooshing etc. meant there was a monster in the toilet, if I thought I could go down the dark hole and dissappear, or if I thought going meant losing a part of me, and neither would you...
Find out why she fears going and find a way to alleviate that fear and she will be going in no time... Kids often have fears an anxiety because so much is new to them.. Take it slowly one step at a time alleviating her fears with logic and show and tell along the way, when she understands why something works the way it does and why it makes the sounds etc. it makes her anxiety will lessen.. It's hard to be frightened when you know the hissing noise is water entering the toilet tank and not some scary monster in there...
2006-10-23 20:34:01 · answer #3 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are using the big potty are you using a potty seat if not get one, she may be afraid she might fall in, if that does not work try getting a potty chair for kids. They have some cute ones that encourage and clap when they go potty. Also try to give her treats when she goes, like stickers or m&m's . Make it fun. I put my daughters' potty chair in the bathroom and when I would go I would put her on hers too. Good Luck!!!!!!!
2006-10-23 19:55:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a wonderful book called Once Upon A Potty. You could read that to her and don't push! She's not even 2! I know some children are potty trained very early and they'll need therapy in their twenties. Give her choices, make it fun...when she's ready she won't have a problem. I didn't push my son and never had to change a sheet. They will get it if you're not frustrated. Trying to please Mommy and having accidents is stressful...no wonder she's scared. It's normal, try to enjoy. My Mother always said that because disposable diapers were comfotable, it took children longer.
2006-10-23 20:00:03 · answer #5 · answered by mlist32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter has been scared of the big potty. I got her a little musical potty which she liked (maybe you could take her to the store and have her pick out one that she likes). Once she got used to that, I started putting her on the big potty with a Dora seat that fits over the potty. She loves it. When I take her out, I purchased a portable folding seat from One Step Ahead that has handles and fits over a regular toilet seat. It folds up so small it fits in the diaper bag and my little one doesn't have to sit on a germy public toilet seat.
Good luck.
2006-10-23 19:54:42 · answer #6 · answered by christinaka6262 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the local library and pick out some books with her about kids using the potty. Make sure you start with a small potty because big ones can be scary.
Reward her with stickers if she tries and put them on a calendar beside her potty.
2006-10-23 19:51:06 · answer #7 · answered by mmshall 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My youngest daughter was afraid of the potty because it was tall, cold, noisy and she was afraid she would fall in. We got a Dora the Explorer "chamber pot" type potty chair for her and after a couple of weeks, she graduated up to sitting on the Dora seat while she was on the big potty. Now she just uses the big potty. (Big potty, I'm such a mom...) We never put pressure on her or chastised her, just had to find a way to reintroduce her to it.
2006-10-23 19:54:57 · answer #8 · answered by ihave5katz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion? Wait. When she is ready she will use that potty. My son was over 3, much to my mothers horror. But he's 15 now and doing just fine.
2006-10-23 19:52:46 · answer #9 · answered by Jenny Lou 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't force her a lot of kids get intimidated because they are feeling forced into a new think let her know everything is okay and this is the way "big" people use the potty. just don't force her , she's not even 2 yet
2006-10-23 20:29:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You give it a rest for a while...she isn't even 2 yet and is not ready...try again in a few months.
If you rush it, you are in for a battle you will not win!
The average age for potty training is 2.5-3 years old.
2006-10-23 19:54:10 · answer #11 · answered by jm1970 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋