My friend Angie had her kids taken away. And for good reason. She was a crack head and sold dope and neglected her kids. Her aunt called the Children's Aid and the CAS took the kids away for 6 months. She cleaned up her act and got them back a few months ago but now she's back to her old tricks and neglecting the kids AGAIN!! I have NO FAITH in the child protection system. They gave her kids back when she had not gone for any counselling or anything. She just had to pass the drug tests and she even figured out a way to scam the drug testers! The "random" drug tests were always done on a Monday so she would just wait until after the test and do it and by the next time she tested she'd appear "clean". She did slow down on it for awhile but now I fear she is getting as bad as she was just before she lost the kids. I have no faith in the system. It's useless. It does not protect kids. Why are these PIGS allowed to freely breed and then not care for their kids? She also depends on welfare.
2006-10-23 12:44:58 · 7 answers · asked by I_KNOW_EVERYTHING 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
That's pretty sad. Hopefully, she cleans up her act. A lot of people abuse the system. Maybe she really does want her kids back (she put in enough effort to try and cheat the system...terrible as that is).
Talk to her, maybe she needs help. She might need to be put in her place by a friend.
2006-10-23 12:48:09 · answer #1 · answered by Ilovepeanutbutter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are cases like this everywhere, and I used to blame the system as well. Then I got a glimpse into the life of a social worker. In my area, the agency gets nearly 4000 calls per month (for an area of around 75,000 people). Each caseworker has an average of 300 cases on their caseload. Sometimes, children slip through the cracks of the system, and if an overworked, underpaid social worker doesn't see the signs of a repeat abuser, then they send them back to a place they maybe shouldn't be. Case workers have it tough... they have to investigate, make the determination of whether or not a child is in desperate need of immediate help, or the parents just need some parenting classes to hone their skills. In 80% of the cases, they are false or unfounded reports that are made by an angry family member looking for revenge. Caseworkers have to sort the real cases from the unfounded ones, waisting more time for the children who desperately need saving. I have had to deal with this before as a preschool teacher... calling in the CPS to deal with some of the children I've had who were being abused in one way or another, only to see them placed back within a few weeks in the homes that don't take care of them. It makes me angry and want to take all those kids home with me. I could not be a social worker... the inefficiency of the system would get to me too quickly, and I'd be falling all over myself 24 hours a day trying to save them all. I wish I had the answers for these children, but I haven't been able to come up with any solutions other than a larger staff of people to become caseworkers.
2006-10-23 13:03:59 · answer #2 · answered by dolphin mama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think someone should renotify Children's Aide on what she is up to and the fact that she has been scamming the drug testers. Take pictures with a camera phone while at her house and then for the children's sake show childrens aide.
I wouldn't call her a friend but an associate.
2006-10-23 12:48:46 · answer #3 · answered by mmshall 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Crack, speed, meth, coke, whatever you wanna call them, they only stay in your system for up to 72 hours. Therefore, it is easy to "trick" the system. Why don't you call them and tell them that you know she is back to her old ways. Maybe they can do a random test. Maybe they will tell her to come in the day of. Usually, there is someone in the room with them when they pee, so if she tries to take someone else's urine in, she won't be able too. Unfortunately kids die and are neglected everyday because the Child welfare system is unreliable. Good luck with that situation. Too bad you couldn't get a pic of her using to prove.
2006-10-23 13:24:11 · answer #4 · answered by kimmypoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call again - they have to investigate reports. Maybe this time they'll keep the kids away from her for a longer period of time. She can only pretend to be clean for so long -
2006-10-23 12:54:05 · answer #5 · answered by gummybear1772 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call them again. You said yourself that she was cleaned up when she got them back. call them again, they will come in and take the kids again most likely, and this time for longer.
2006-10-23 12:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by averyanne77 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
are you sure she's your friend? i wouldn't go around telling that to many people if i were you. what do they say about birds of a feather?
2006-10-23 12:49:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋