He likes to tell me no when I ask him to do something and hits people. I don't know exactly how to disipline him correctly besides to yell and obviously it's not getting anywhere. My husband is away right now in the military and he had no problem listening to daddy. Now that I'm living at my grandparents house while he's away, he just seems to get worse and worse and he also has a problem with squeeling that just bothers the crap out of me. I am due anytime now with our second boy. How can I get things straightened out around here without feeling so exhausted by the end of the day?
2006-10-23 12:36:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
talk to him very cal if he screams tell him that you couldn't hear on this tone of voice
bend down to his eye level ( i know its hard now)
and tell him how proud you would be of your big boy if he would behave like a mature big boy.
and the best thing is "distraction" if he gets in the mood of no-ing say oh! did you see what mommy has for you, get his attention and bring him in a positive mood, he will hopefully react with a yes after wards.
good luck
and congratulations with the new one.
i wish the best for your husband, we support him!!! and were proud of him.
lets hope he should be able to get home quick strong and with courage
2006-10-23 12:42:45 · answer #1 · answered by Joe The Great One 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u being consistant? the other day my cousin's 3 year old son stood on top of the table. she ignored him. five minutes later she decides to spank his bottum and put him on the floor, he got right back on the table and so she ignored him and then she wonders why he does not listen. r u sure u r not following this pattern, where u discipline and when it does not work u give up. i am not saying u r, but sometimes its hard to see what we r doin wrong and y our children is not listening.
I think that by being consistant u might get somewhere and also remember that ur child is still just a baby and is testing his limits.
Another thing kids can be kids, so its not everything that ur child does wrong needs to be corrected, pick ur battles. pick the important stuff like bedtime at 8pm or going outside naked (my cousins 3 yr. old did that).
2006-10-23 12:45:44 · answer #2 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check the www.loveandlogic.com website for some great information. Your local library probably has some books by Jim Fay. He is a great parenting resource. I especially recommend Love and Logic Magic for 0-6 Year Olds. Start now before your head spins! Good luck.
2006-10-23 15:15:32 · answer #3 · answered by housebug23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have found that making our 3 year old daughter stand by a wall or in a corner helps a lot. We have been doing this for months now and her over all behavior has really improved! Also, as far as just teaching basic manners, please thank you, etc you have to be very consistent. Unfortunately there isn't an overnight trick to making your child behave, but this might be worth a shot. It works for us. Hope something helps!
2006-10-23 16:01:37 · answer #4 · answered by Jen M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the reason he is acting like that is because he feels angry, its the way which he can express his feeling. He feels like its something missing in his little life and could be his father figure, I just you should hug, kiss and say many times how much you love him and when he make a question for you don't answer with a NO try to teach him another answer like MAYBE, COULD BE or WE TRY
2006-10-27 11:48:42 · answer #5 · answered by sweet candy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First question I have is who taught him to hit? I suggest finding parenting classes because yelling at a two year old is not going to get that child to listen
2006-10-23 19:22:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend the book "how to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk."
discipline is about his bond wth you, his desire to please you, you setting a good example. yelling at a 2 year old is abuse, and it's stupid, because it won't work. why? because it doesn't teach him anything.
of course he's worse and worse - his dad is off, he's in a new house, and a baby's on the way. and you're yelling at him. sheesh. poor dear. don't look to 'straighten things out.' look to meeting his emotional needs and learning how to discipline.
as to your husband, i hope he's an american enough to refuse illegal orders, avoid committing war crimes, and that he can stay safe until he put out of office the gangsters that sent him there.
2006-10-23 12:39:44 · answer #7 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if your son is acting like that you should take away some privillages away fromhim remember you dont need to yeld and get furious to show disipline him.
ps. stop haing kids for a while ill do good trust me.
2006-10-23 12:50:50 · answer #8 · answered by hi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is going through the terrible twos. all kids do it. there is a place on the back side of him that was made for getting his attention. Place your hand rapidly and hard on it a few times and it will surprise you how fast he starts to listen.
2006-10-23 12:47:21 · answer #9 · answered by phockit47 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my kids won't listen, I whisper. What kid can resist a secret? When I see them straining to hear, I know they're listening. Somehow they're better when they know Mommy's too angry to yell. Go figure!
2006-10-23 16:51:35 · answer #10 · answered by Chocoholic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋