Ok so here is my is my dilema. My girlfriend and I are having the biggest fight since our relationship started. Her brother is pissed she is dating a guy who is older than she is. He makes her life a living hell because of me. She hid our relationship from him for the first month then told him about me and he got pissed, 2 weeks later she told him to either deal with it without his bullshit or get the hell out of her life he was cool with it for about a 6 weeks or atleast thats what she was telling me. Now she wants to go back to hiding us because she says she is sick of his bitching at her and his girlfriends (her best friend) bitching at her about me. I bitched her out telling her I am sick of the games she is playing and asked her why she wants to please someone who has done so much bad **** to her when she was a kid (I dont want to go into it here but put it this way the things he did to her should have him in jail for a looooooooooong time)
2006-10-23 12:22:18 · 9 answers · asked by rdoggg19 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Her brother was dealt with with the child services of the state they lived in when it happened but since they were both kids (not even in their teens) all they did was make him leave for 6 months and have supervised contact with her for a year after that, I think its bull but thats what the state did or so I was told. I tried speaking to her brother back in August and his exact words were "if you come near my sister, my mother, or have any contact with them I will kill you." her brother isn't a problem for me I could easily handle him. I guess he is hung up that I'm 22 almost 23 dating his 18 y/o sister, I have no criminal record and with the exception of college trying of (thanks to his sister) I have never used and will never use drugs again. So I don't see anything in my life he would have a problem with PLUS I have a job, his sister and him don't.
2006-10-23 12:46:44 · update #1
Brother's can be a big problem in relationships, I am sorry about this. This is one of those situations where blood is thicker than water, and it is a lot easier for her to agree with her brother that argue with him. If he is anything like my Brother, you cannot argue, he wins, period. On the other hand, if the brother doesn't have any real reasons why he doesn't like you, except your age difference, then he really needs to step back and let his sister make her own decisions. But, if he was not a good person to her, what is her hang up, is she maybe afraid of him. Maybe the whole family needs help. In this situation, I guess you shouldn't rule out anything. Good luck.
2006-10-23 12:30:06 · answer #1 · answered by mansyroot 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well have you tried sitting down and talking with the brother, showing him your not a bad guy. So shes younger than you, thats usually how it goes. Show him what your intentions are with his sister, he is probaly just being over-protective. Also controlling, ive known older brothers to be like that. As for his g/f which is her best friend, also should realize he's prolly making it seem as if your a bad person and that he doesnt like you, where-as if she doesnt agree with him she feels she has put her relationship in jeopardy. Maybe your gf, is telling them stuff you dont know about. or not telling them enough good stuff.
2006-10-23 12:29:11 · answer #2 · answered by shortie_49 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you been in trouble? what is wrong with you, that they think you are a bad influence on his sister. Are you too old for her? If every thing is okay with you, then she needs to talk to her brother and his girlfriend, and tell them it is her life and they need to stay out of it. And if he does not, she is going to tell what he did to her, at an early age! So back off! He may be just jealous, and no one would be good enough, for his sister!
2006-10-23 12:30:45 · answer #3 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to be like she is being real selfish and not thinking about your feelings or position.
It also sounds like she is a little immature.
Look at it this way... she is willing to put someone in front of you and place you on the back burner. Is that good for you ? No. It demonstrates that she is not in a relationship she really wants.
2006-10-23 12:30:15 · answer #4 · answered by yadedyah_dc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got to look out for number one because its obvious she doesn't have the gull to stand up and tell them off so if I were you I would tell her that you really like her but this way too much drama and that you are removing yourself from the situation and it is up to her to decide if she wants to keep putting up with the bullshit
2006-10-23 12:28:16 · answer #5 · answered by thatoneguy00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why you worry about what your girlfriends brother is saying. Who does he think he is anyway? I might be concerned if the parents resent you, but her brother? I would tell the parents about this harassment, maybe they can talk to him. If you are treating your girlfriend right, he shouldn't be giving you a problem. I hope this works out for you
2006-10-23 12:28:02 · answer #6 · answered by june clever 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well yeah name the police. I imply thats a hazard and if she is quite scared hes going to kill her then via all method she, otherwise you must insure her saftey. What variety of moms and dads permit matters like that occur any manner. inform your female friend she must definitly have an extended rough speak together with her moms and dads approximately this.
2016-09-01 01:37:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find an even younger hotter girl with a smaller brother :)
2006-10-23 12:31:50 · answer #8 · answered by X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he assultted her (even if it was along time ago) she needs to turn him in to the police. He needs to be in jail for a "loooooooooooong" time.
2006-10-23 12:29:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋