The other day I went out with my sister and her husband. We were at a crowded park. This guy and a lady went by and my brother in law says mad to my sister that guy just kept looking at you. How ridiculous is that. He sees I'm with you. He wasn't mad at my sister but mad that the guy looked at her while he was with her. Ok first of all the guy had sunglasses on and you couldn't tell really where he was looking. Second of all was it rude to assume he was looking at my sister when I was the one in front of them by myself. And even if he was looking at her to say this in front of me? Yeah my sister is really beautiful, I mean she's had a lot of people tell her she looks like Susan Lucci. She's really petite like her. Only she's 40 and looks about 33. So younger then Susan Lucci, but still I feel like I don't want to be around him if he's going to make it seem like I'm chop liver!!! I mean I've had a couple people tell me Jaime Gertz not as many as shes had tell her Susan.
2006-10-23 12:20:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It just made me feel bad because here I was by myself. And he's saying someones looking at her. Maybe he's just insensitive to my feelings.
2006-10-23 12:21:41 · update #1
And I guess I've always felt inferior to her anyway, and this just added to how I already feel.
2006-10-23 12:22:42 · update #2
Sweetie first of all calm down. Now, if I have decifered this correctly then you think he thinks you aren't attactive enough to warrant a few lustful glances. If that is the case I ask you why do you care if your brother-in-law thinks you are hot?
The next thing is stop comparing yourself to your sister. You are your own unique individual you and as such are perfect in every way. You have your own beauty stop aspiring to be Susan Lucci, Jamie Gertz, or your sister. Once you learn to be comfortable in your own skin and flaunt what you got no celebrity or sibling for that matter will be able to hold a candle to you.
Also if you are upset that you brother-in-law is way too possesive that's a conversation to have with your sis. If it doesn't bother her then you should let it go. Some poeple find jealosy attractive.
2006-10-23 12:36:01 · answer #1 · answered by Inner_strength 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a bunch of issues that you need to deal with. It would be hard to feel like you are always in your sisters shadow. I think if you were to talk to her about how inferior you feel around her she might surprise you by admitting to having some of those feelings too. She may admire things about you that you haven't thought of. Let's face it. Looks don't last forever. Inner beauty is far more important. Unfortunately, we live in a society that doesn't think about inner beauty.
Your brother-in-law sounds like a very jealous and insecure guy. He didn't even think about you. He just thought about his jealousy. Does your sister flirt? Or give him reasons to feel insecure? Some people have no brains when it comes to how they treat the people they love. They react with their feelings, instead of common sense!
You need to spend less time with your sister and her husband. It almost sounds like you want him to notice you. That would lead to major trouble. You need to discover for yourself what makes you special and work to develop those attributes to the best of your ability!
God doesn't make mistakes. He created you and He loves you!
2006-10-23 19:30:07 · answer #2 · answered by mar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your brother in law wasn't really rude, he just accused him by mistake because he has probably seen too many people complement your sisters looks and got tired of it, so he just assumed that the guy was looking at her. but then again, he could have been a little rude because the fact that it was a crowded park and the guy might have been looking at someone else.
2006-10-23 19:34:08 · answer #3 · answered by Selwa A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are over reacting. You are way too sensitive.
He got upset that he felt some guy was checking out his wife, he was being territorial. It was not a remark about you or anything like that. I can't see how you can even turn that around to make it seem like it was about your looks.
2006-10-23 19:25:03 · answer #4 · answered by butterflykisses427 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chill out girl just cuz he assumed the guy was looking at her and not at u isnt a big deal its not like he is your husband plus guys seem to look out for pepole looking at there wifes or girlfriends its just a guy thing! im sure he isnt gonna act jealous and say that guy keeps looking at u....he probably woulda shrugged it off point is dont get hurt by this its not a big deal! just relax move on and realize hes just looking out for his wife and anyone that looks her way
2006-10-23 19:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your sisters husband is probably insecure in his marriage with his wife and wasnt even thinking about you. You are probably the only one that thinks that way. You shouldnt feel like you are in competition with your sister. It seems to me like you want her husband to look at you.
2006-10-23 19:30:24 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A. get over yourself. Why do you want your sisters husban to address you like that
B. He has some real self esteem problems so forget about it
2006-10-23 19:25:19 · answer #7 · answered by tranquilllity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think he was really thinking of you at the time. it could be that he's the jealous type and assumes any guy looking in the general direction of his bride is trying to get at her. in which case your sis is going to have her hands full.
2006-10-23 19:27:45 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to get ppl from yahoo to make you feel better. You have self esteem problems.
2006-10-23 19:25:01 · answer #9 · answered by hp one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's not all about you. Maybe he was teasing his wife and having fun with her, and you took it upon yourself to feel insulted when it had nothing to do with you.
How ridiculous is that.
2006-10-23 19:25:51 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋