i asked my sister in law if she was leaving with her galfriend, she yelled at me "iam not going to change whatever that means".. i kept quite with shock.
help it really hurts me whenever i think about it.she never calls me anyway, and it seems to me the enitre family is of disrespectful pple.
2006-10-23 12:10:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
People that yell are unsecured people, people that want to say something and cannot find any other way to voice what they want to say. What I would do, is just the next time she yells at you, be firm and tough, tell her to stop yelling at you, if she opens her mouth, say, wait I am not finish, and continue telling her that her yelling does not intimidate you and if she wants to talk to you to do it in a civil manner. Then if she starts yelling again, either to
leave or if her house you leave, let her know that until she treats you with decency you will not have nothing to do with her. With people like this you have to dig deep into your inner self and find the confidence to confront her. Even if you are scare, do not let it be known. This is the only way she will respect you. I, myself, that have a big mouth, people had tried to do the same to me. But I will never allow anyone to disrespect me. So be strong and firm and confront her head on. Then walk away with your head high, you will see the difference from then on.
I KNOW YOU CAN DO IT ....SWEETIE. HAVE FAITH.
2006-10-23 13:01:33 · answer #1 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom always yells at me, nonstop. I have not the slightest clue why. Sit down with her in a coffe shop and have a cup of coffe or two and ask what made her tick about what you said. It will get resolved sooner or later. i am in middle school, my friends(we aren't as close as we were before) had fights before and just sat alone during lunch or took a walk around the school going over what happened. If you sister-in-law won't talk, make her. She is your sister-in-law, she is family. Don't let it go, make it right. If the rest of your family is disrespectful, you have to live with it, no one is perfect. My grandparents may be wealthy but how they treat others is not great.
2006-10-23 12:16:04 · answer #2 · answered by greenday_music_luvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel, my in-laws can be the same way. Including my husband. I can ask the simplest question and he snaps. All I do is try to get through to him exactly what I said and exactly what I mean. Sometimes it works and sometimes it don't. People seem to have in their head, what they think you said or meant and their is no changing it. Try talking to her, and see what the issues are. You just might get some issues resolved. I had to do that with my mother-in-law, and that wasn't easy. But it worked. Good luck with the in-laws
2006-10-23 12:24:25 · answer #3 · answered by tray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too have trouble with my extended family the best thing to do is to ignore them,I mean don't be rude back that wouldn't make you any better,just try to keep conversation to a minimal with her.If you can confront her,be strong don't cry in front of her or anything be assertive!Good luck~!
2006-10-23 12:52:39 · answer #4 · answered by Erica B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-05 03:56:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister in law is an a^^ with obvious problems. Forget it. Its not worth your time.
2006-10-23 12:18:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id be hurt AND mad. Id stay away from her if shes gonna talk to you like that. Or yell, I should say.
2006-10-23 16:42:55 · answer #7 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel like crap, but I yell back to say, no I meant this, and they loving to see how stupid they felt when they didn't understand and then you made it loud and clear after!
2006-10-23 12:18:38 · answer #8 · answered by xportuguesax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell them to F**k them selves. Or that next time they yell at me I'm going to punch them in their throat.
2006-10-23 12:48:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have serious problems. Stay away from them as much as possible.
2006-10-23 13:24:16 · answer #10 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋