I am going to be a bridemaid in my friend's wedding. i have been to a vietnamese wedding but i missed most of it and got to the reception only. so what is my responsiblity as a bridesmaid and what are some things that happen during the wedding??
2006-10-23 11:50:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Travel ➔ Vietnam ➔ Other - Vietnam
i was wondering about what goes on during the wedding?? i have only been to one wedding that was vietnamese. and they did the insence thing and all since they are buddhist. i was wondering what else happens?
2006-10-25 15:09:04 · update #1
I was married in Vietnam so I can tell you everything you need to know about who does what and where.
Of course bridesmaids help the bride like here. General stuff. Taking care of the dress's, not 1 dress, often the bride wears 4 or 5!!!!
But the main job of usually 7 bridemaids is the accept the gifts from the 7 groomsmen.
The gifts are fruit, food, wine, vegtables. These gifts are sacred because they represent gifts from the grooms family to the brides family.
Before you ever go to the church, the gifts are presented outside of the girls home. Much like a procession the groom will walk first and the 7 groomsmen will follow. outside of the brides home the bridesmaids will stand and wait for the gifts.
After the gifts are given, they will be put on a table and people will light incense around them and bow. It is all really a lovely thing. Deep tradition and spirituality always in everything done.
Of course the bride does finally come out in the RED dress first. That is where the groom will put the earrings on her. He will also put the necklace and the rings as well. The tradition of the groom putting on earrings was unqiue for me. I was nervous. But I did it and the earrings were put on good:)
After the gift giving, then all the people there go to the church.
The wedding ceremony is similar to american style if it is catholic wedding like I was in. However the bridesmaids and groomsmen have no job to do in the actual wedding ceremony. They just sit with the rest of the people in the pews.
2006-10-29 01:57:44 · answer #1 · answered by mcbrian2000 5 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I think a Vietnamese-American wedding is a hard one to plan. I'm in this predicament myself, and it is the assumption that the children take the burden of the payment. 30,000 seems reasonable, but I'm sure you can cut the cost in different ways. I have my bridesmaids paying for one of their two dresses. I'm trying to split the customs down the middle... I'm just hoping that the guests will bring money to help with the bill.
2016-05-22 02:24:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In our wedding brides maid just helped the bride in anything she requested. She also held the flowers after I gave them to the bride and stood by the bride with them when we exchanged our gifts during the wedding. You will enjoy the honor.
2006-10-27 15:31:00 · answer #3 · answered by flightmedicine 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You don't have to do much actually, just be by herside.. there's nothing for you do to except hold her dress and calm her down for the wedding. In the vietnamese weddings, the bridemaids don't have a lot to do. It's just a front row seat to her marriage.
2006-10-23 11:59:43 · answer #4 · answered by Peter 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
there no a lot of work for a bridesmaid, u jus help the bride in somethings
2006-10-23 16:51:08 · answer #5 · answered by dani ng 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What you really need to do is to just calm her down, help her out with small stuff and just enjoy it yourself.
2006-10-24 16:12:58 · answer #6 · answered by Annie T 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋