He wants a divorice because he says she doesnt do the bills good enough and doesnt keep the house clean. my mom thinks he is just depressed but now he is serious about it and I dont know what to say or do around him. its affecting me and my siblings grades and we are all way stressed out. help!
2006-10-23 11:40:54 · 13 answers · asked by 128333 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your dad just wants the divorce , period.. he wants out ..for his own reasons . he is just finding things to complain about.
2006-10-23 11:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think your father is using those reasons as a catalyst for a divorce. I would suspect that it was something he had been thinking about for some time and came up with some reasons so it wouldn't seem "out of the blue." Maybe your father is depressed or unsatisfied with his life so he's placing the blame on your mom. Maybe he feels if he leaves he'll get a new chance at life. Have you discussed your feelings with your father? It seems like he is very wrapped up in himself right now and hasn't fully thought about how his decision would affect his children and the rest of the family. I would think you to be angry but see if you can get it under control to approach your father and give him some insight to you and your siblings feelings. Hopefully he wont shut you out. Remember that this is an internal dilema within your father and is in no way your fault. Try and keep a level head during this hard time. I wish you nothing but the best! Stay strong!
2006-10-23 11:55:07 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they need to go to family counseling not to excuse your dads behavior but does your mom keep the house clean or anything sometimes when a man or woman is the sole provider in the house and the other one is home it seems they do nothing which at times that's true. other times people just want out and use any excuse. I have seen alot of women for the most part whose husbands work and all they do is sit around the house all day and dinner is not even ready when he gets home after a hard day at work it can be very frustrating and vice versa if the woman is the one working. i don't know if this is the case and maybe your dad is depressed but at this stage counseling for him alone probably would not be enough their is free family counseling available on a sliding fee scale at local mental health centers in most cities no matter what try to get yourself to a counselor even talk to your school counselor don't let this affect t=your life any more than it has to I know it's tough i am an adult whose parents divorced when i was 12 of course my dad was abusive so we really didn't miss him much but it was still hard on my mom which made it hard on us Good Luck and God Bless you please find someone for you all or yourself to talk with
2006-10-23 11:52:24 · answer #3 · answered by katlady927 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would say talk to your father find out what is the real reason why he wants to divorce your mom. Is not only the bills and the house. It is deeper than that. Why he is so unhappy? Why he can't be with your mother? What changed his mind? Are they willing to go with a counselor and try to solve their problems? Try to get him to talk not fight and find what is the real problem. Tell him exactly how you feel about the situation but don't be angry with him. Remember this is something between your dad and your mom they have to find a solution on their own . But if he decides to divorce is not the end of the world. Believe me you don't want your parents be together and fight like cats and dogs all the time. It will not be healthy for you guys. My parents they've been married for 30 years arguing and fighting almost everyday. I begged my mom to divorce my dad but, she didn't want to. I was hell .It wasn't the best decision than they made. So believe me. A divorce is not a bad thing is a change of life that's it.
2006-10-23 12:04:01 · answer #4 · answered by powerof love 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
divorce is hard for everyone involved no matter what. now let me say, you believe that it because of the bills and the house not being clean? trust me when i say there is more to it than that. its just that you don't know what it is nor do you need to know.although this is hard for you and your siblings, this is something that you all need to let them work threw. your a kid, so be a kid. no matter what happens they both love you. and from what your saying here, it sounds to me that you are ready to choose side. and that my dear will rip you apart even more. now if you really think it has anything at all to do with house not being clean, then why don't you and your siblings help out. but i don't really believe that this is the real issue. if your the oldest, why not do things with your siblings to help take your minds off of it, even if its just for a little while.and let the adults work this out, things will be fine you'll see.
2006-10-23 12:17:56 · answer #5 · answered by here to help 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
help keep the house clean. If your dad and mom still love eachother they will get back together. Let your dad go through what he needs to go through. You and your siblings need to stay in a kids place and let the adults be the adults. Things will work themselves out on there own. If your grades are being affected then work harder at your schooling. Every family goes through things at times. Pray for your mom and dad. In time will work things out on its own
2006-10-23 11:49:22 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about your dad does the bills and he hires a maid? My parents have been divorced since i was 2 and i am 13 now, they got divorced over a silly thing too so your not the only one...
2006-10-23 11:43:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hurt for you.Your dad may be stressed about something he's not sharing now. Go to him and try talking to him in a gentle way. tell him that the way things are right now hurts and ask what can you do to help solve it.Tell him that you can not focus at school.
I know he wants your grades to be good.There could be another woman involved. I hope not.It sounds to me He wants out but does
not know how to do it.
2006-10-23 11:56:21 · answer #8 · answered by Sugar 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
these are not reasons they are excuses what is his problem divorce over such small and insignificant things,,he wants to end it and he knows that all you children are upset and mom is saying he is depressed does he not realise what he is doing to his family I am so sorry for all of you but your dad needs some help and mom needs to help him get it.....we always think daddys are so strong but sometimes daddys do breakdown so mom has to step in and save this marriage and this family I really think dad is crying out for some help..I hope in my heart it will be ok I will pray for your daddy and his beautiful family...sureilll
2006-10-23 12:00:21 · answer #9 · answered by COOKIE 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to your guidance councilor in school about this, they will help you more than you think. Really!
2006-10-23 12:13:14 · answer #10 · answered by sterlingheightsgurl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋