i am 24 married for 2 years and hav 1 year old. anyway itss embaressing but i do not enjoy sex anymore. i hte when my husband touches me.i get disgust if i see sex on tv even kissing. i started to find excuses for not to make love with my husband..i hate it sex is disgusting and when i do it i hate myself and feel guilty even i am married. whats happening to me. i am scared my hubby will cheat me at the end
2006-10-23 11:36:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I suggest you talk to your husband about this. If you exclude him from your thoughts, then he will draw his own conclusions, and it will end in a bad way.
If you do decide to go to a sex therapist, then go with your husband, but I suspect that simple communication between you and your husband will sort this out. Most relationship breakdowns are caused by communication problems.
I was in a similar situation (but my wife at the time, now ex, refused to talk about it) and while I am happier now, it created a depressing atmosphere for a few years.
:-)
2006-10-23 14:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by Extemporaneous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not go to the ER or seek medical help, you will only be helping people who hurt other people continue to do it. I and many others think that sometimes it is important for those who hurt others get a dose of reality. Whoever hurt you wont really get into trouble. They will just get a good talking to. Sounds like they need it. Better stand up for what is right and do the right thing. Do not do the wrong thing and keep it secret.
2016-05-22 02:23:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all to do with changes in your hormones after having a baby. Most women go through it but talk to your husband, tell him how much you love him, have lots of kisses and cuddles for now. Your problems will pass but go and see your Doctor to get some advice.
2006-10-23 11:52:50 · answer #3 · answered by Sandee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem too and my man did cheat on me!
But I am not saying that your husband will cheat on you.
I was diagnoised with depression and got help. Maybe you should go see a therapist and talk about what is going on with you. Good Luck Sweetie!
2006-10-23 11:58:12 · answer #4 · answered by nashvillekat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you perhaps sexually abused as a child and now these flashbacks are appearing? Horrid memories can be brought forward and can have an affect on a sex life.
I entered psychotherapy, and for me it ruined my life. Now that is just ME, psychotherapy has been successful for others. As far as my life goes, it is completely without sex. The vivid memories took over every enjoyment I used to have.
Be gentle with yourself, this is not your fault, and if it is abuse, it is definately NOT your fault. As for hubby, discuss this problem, stating your feelings and giving him a chance to state his.
Best of luck.
2006-10-23 11:48:36 · answer #5 · answered by been there, done that 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
think you may have tail end of postnatal depression or just a slight hormone imbalance go see your doctor also you have to speak to your husband he is probably as upset as you tell him how you feel don't leave it seek help now if you love your husband its a problem more common than you think have patience but talk to husband and doc now even talking about it will help ignore and it wont go away
2006-10-27 09:06:21 · answer #6 · answered by bobonumpty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please see this as carefully worded. I really do care but sometimes the extremes make the daily problems more clear. There is a serious depression that occurs when friends and family start to show you that you really are an outsider in the group. There is an insult unto death please be careful and trust only yourself . We can trust God and He gets our attention at these times.
2006-10-23 12:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take brisk bracing walks through the countryside, you may have lost your interest in sex due to a lack of fresh air
2006-10-23 12:23:04 · answer #8 · answered by Jaze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See you in the divorce court !
2006-10-23 11:44:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋